You drink, you talk, you interact. See where it goes. If she speaks to you on Facebook she clearly doesn't hate you, so what do you have to lose?-Sh1fty- wrote:
Sounds nice, you know a coffee/whatever, anyway that's always great to get to know somebody, but I'd never know what to do after that or whatever.ghettoperson wrote:
You want her to know you're into her. If she doesn't realise that they you fall into the 'lets just be friends' trap. Obviously you want to do it in a way that you can get to know each other and you don't come off as being a weird perve. If you guys get along well, why not invite her out for a drink/snack/coffee/whatever?-Sh1fty- wrote:
So I found this amazing girl. I see her only on Fridays. We're part of this group...it's a long story.
Anyway, I really like her a lot, and I'd like to spend more time to get to know her, sadly it's not just for 2 hours on Fridays that I'm going to get anywhere.
Is there any way of doing something with her like hanging out or whatever without making it totally obvious?
Cause, "Hey wana grab a drink?" would make me think, "ok then what?"
Talking is nice though. I like how she says hi first on FB
It should be called "syndrome du chevalier", old chivalric code basically dictates you can't fall in love unless you're absolutely positively sure that it won't work out for one reason or the other Read some Sir Walter Scott if you want to catch up. Alternatively read Pushkin's Eugene Onegin. There is this girl who falls in love with Onegin, but though he likes her and everything, he still rejects her. It is only years later when she is married to a general and has become a lady of stature, that he turns to be the one pursuing her,.. and ultimately fails of course.nukchebi0 wrote:
No, I meant I have the same problem you do. It probably is the cause of some of my failures.Zimmer wrote:
It works wonderfully if you like girls that are usually into you.nukchebi0 wrote:
Seriously? I'm an absolute pro at that.
Or you don't chase girls that are emotional train wrecks.
Also I think it is an achievement thing. People that want to achieve learn to aim over their targets. It always works except in relationships.
god I feel like shit
That was to be expected,.. got any booze in da house?Hurricane2k9 wrote:
god I feel like shit
you have no idea how much I wish I had some booze. or antifreeze.Lai wrote:
That was to be expected,.. got any booze in da house?Hurricane2k9 wrote:
god I feel like shit
Friends + Drink now. The best thing you can do is just be with your mates or family And if you must think about your relationship. Think about why you ended it. There were reasons. Just remind yourself of themHurricane2k9 wrote:
god I feel like shit
Well said my man.Lai wrote:
It should be called "syndrome du chevalier", old chivalric code basically dictates you can't fall in love unless you're absolutely positively sure that it won't work out for one reason or the other Read some Sir Walter Scott if you want to catch up. Alternatively read Pushkin's Eugene Onegin. There is this girl who falls in love with Onegin, but though he likes her and everything, he still rejects her. It is only years later when she is married to a general and has become a lady of stature, that he turns to be the one pursuing her,.. and ultimately fails of course.nukchebi0 wrote:
No, I meant I have the same problem you do. It probably is the cause of some of my failures.Zimmer wrote:
It works wonderfully if you like girls that are usually into you.
Or you don't chase girls that are emotional train wrecks.
Also I think it is an achievement thing. People that want to achieve learn to aim over their targets. It always works except in relationships.
Sadly, I fell in love with someone which I knew wasn't going to work out in the long run.
Got stood up twice by the same girl...
I understood the first time, because she had an excuse/reason, and was willing to forgive her the second time, but she didn't even fucking give me a reason the second time... I don't even understand anymore...
Need hugs.
I understood the first time, because she had an excuse/reason, and was willing to forgive her the second time, but she didn't even fucking give me a reason the second time... I don't even understand anymore...
Need hugs.
*manhugs*Zimmer wrote:
Need hugs.
o{Zimmer wrote:
Got stood up twice by the same girl...
I understood the first time, because she had an excuse/reason, and was willing to forgive her the second time, but she didn't even fucking give me a reason the second time... I don't even understand anymore...
Need hugs.
That fucking sucks.
Yes, yes it does...
Tbh, since New Year there has been so many fuck how and failures that I'm kinda tired of it all. Don't have the energy to chase or the time.
This girl was quite awesome as well.
But then again, worse things have happened with girls since January...lulz... I need a holiday in Spain with Spanish girls...now.
Tbh, since New Year there has been so many fuck how and failures that I'm kinda tired of it all. Don't have the energy to chase or the time.
This girl was quite awesome as well.
But then again, worse things have happened with girls since January...lulz... I need a holiday in Spain with Spanish girls...now.
*huggles*Zimmer wrote:
Got stood up twice by the same girl...
I understood the first time, because she had an excuse/reason, and was willing to forgive her the second time, but she didn't even fucking give me a reason the second time... I don't even understand anymore...
Need hugs.
Man, I took the tram for about an hour and a half there and back today, and I noticed one girl I would consider even vaguely attractive. As it happened she was a smoking hottie, but everyone else was about as boring looking as you can get. Dutch girls suck.
Like none of the girls at uni are really attractive. Most of the ones in my classes are international students from China/Korea (yeah..no).ghettoperson wrote:
Man, I took the tram for about an hour and a half there and back today, and I noticed one girl I would consider even vaguely attractive. As it happened she was a smoking hottie, but everyone else was about as boring looking as you can get. Dutch girls suck.
I see a trend here.. You guys going after chicks for their looks?
Well if that's what you're doing..
advice one; Don't chase, every hot/good looking girl gets hit on all the time. Just start up conversation and put her in the friend zone, chick hate thinking that people don't want to bang them..
advice two; Date other chicks. I know you want to show your affection to the one girl, but if you go right for it she'll have the power. Play the field intill you actually become an item, it will allow you to shrug the girl off if she becomes an asshole or if you're not feeling it anymore and save you years of a bad relationship
Advice three; don't be afraid to blow them off. If you got something else or better to do, don't break your back to hang out with the girl. It might not go your way when hanging out with her, because you might be thinking about the better thing to do.
Remember you are the man, which means you're the one to make the decisions.. You decide who you want and you make them want you.
Well if that's what you're doing..
advice one; Don't chase, every hot/good looking girl gets hit on all the time. Just start up conversation and put her in the friend zone, chick hate thinking that people don't want to bang them..
advice two; Date other chicks. I know you want to show your affection to the one girl, but if you go right for it she'll have the power. Play the field intill you actually become an item, it will allow you to shrug the girl off if she becomes an asshole or if you're not feeling it anymore and save you years of a bad relationship
Advice three; don't be afraid to blow them off. If you got something else or better to do, don't break your back to hang out with the girl. It might not go your way when hanging out with her, because you might be thinking about the better thing to do.
Remember you are the man, which means you're the one to make the decisions.. You decide who you want and you make them want you.
Dude... I'm with you. Engineering.mcminty wrote:
Like none of the girls at uni are really attractive. Most of the ones in my classes are international students from China/Korea (yeah..no).ghettoperson wrote:
Man, I took the tram for about an hour and a half there and back today, and I noticed one girl I would consider even vaguely attractive. As it happened she was a smoking hottie, but everyone else was about as boring looking as you can get. Dutch girls suck.
There's like one hot girl in my class of 120 in physics. 0/150 in statics. Half a slut/150 in calculus.
fuck engineering then
God,.. I seriously dislike Asian girls (being half Vietnamese, I am allowed to say that). It's a cultural thing: they either have this Confucian timidity and passiveness or are complete and utter (...beep...).mcminty wrote:
Like none of the girls at uni are really attractive. Most of the ones in my classes are international students from China/Korea (yeah..no).ghettoperson wrote:
Man, I took the tram for about an hour and a half there and back today, and I noticed one girl I would consider even vaguely attractive. As it happened she was a smoking hottie, but everyone else was about as boring looking as you can get. Dutch girls suck.
@Ghettoperson
True that, but what city/town are you living in in Holland atm?
They're not called "girls", they're either senoritas or chiquita'sZimmer wrote:
Yes, yes it does...
Tbh, since New Year there has been so many fuck how and failures that I'm kinda tired of it all. Don't have the energy to chase or the time.
This girl was quite awesome as well.
But then again, worse things have happened with girls since January...lulz... I need a holiday in Spain with Spanish girls...now.
I should have stayed in Russia really. Having lived in Holland and Ireland, I don't find the standards to be particularly high in either country. Holland can be ok at times due to the vast ammount of immigrants in some areas and centuries of mixing. I have spend considerable time in France as well during my life, but I would say that the standard of Mademoiselles is very regionally determined. In provinicial areas the standard is so so (50 year outdated fashion plays a not very insignificant role in this), if you go to the Northern departements the standard is abysmal (low standards of education, genetic diversity and economical development plays a massive role in this), but in Bordeaux you'll find some of France's finest (I guess you could say that if they don't naturally suit your taste "Bordeaux", can play a role in this).
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TBH I don't really know *that* many people on my course, but I don't really care because I meet people away from class. I guess it's hard if you're in the States and you're university doesn't have one specific drinking location where everyone goes to.Bevo wrote:
Dude... I'm with you. Engineering.mcminty wrote:
Like none of the girls at uni are really attractive. Most of the ones in my classes are international students from China/Korea (yeah..no).ghettoperson wrote:
Man, I took the tram for about an hour and a half there and back today, and I noticed one girl I would consider even vaguely attractive. As it happened she was a smoking hottie, but everyone else was about as boring looking as you can get. Dutch girls suck.
There's like one hot girl in my class of 120 in physics. 0/150 in statics. Half a slut/150 in calculus.
@Lai: Amsterdam. Well, I live in Amstelveen to be specific (not sure what area you're from, so whether you know it or not) but that was taking the tram into the center of Amsterdam.
Oh dear,.. suburban Amstelveen must be absolutely dreadfull and Amsterdam itself is littered with poshes, potheads and tourists. I think The Hague or even Rotterdam and slightly, if not much, better.ghettoperson wrote:
TBH I don't really know *that* many people on my course, but I don't really care because I meet people away from class. I guess it's hard if you're in the States and you're university doesn't have one specific drinking location where everyone goes to.Bevo wrote:
Dude... I'm with you. Engineering.mcminty wrote:
Like none of the girls at uni are really attractive. Most of the ones in my classes are international students from China/Korea (yeah..no).
There's like one hot girl in my class of 120 in physics. 0/150 in statics. Half a slut/150 in calculus.
@Lai: Amsterdam. Well, I live in Amstelveen to be specific (not sure what area you're from, so whether you know it or not) but that was taking the tram into the center of Amsterdam.
They have to pass a certain standard. And you know, be able to speak english. I've got a friend in accounting and finance from Vietnam. Met her randomly last year in my first economics lecture. But while her english isn't *that* bad, I still can't understand half the stuff she says. I do want be able to have a conversation..cpt.fass1 wrote:
I see a trend here.. You guys going after chicks for their looks?
Lol man, I'm doing another semester of commerce at the moment (yeah, I had to chose those two degrees...). But I agree with you in engineering. Most of them were urgh, but there were a few ultra hot ones in my classes. And as luck would have it, while one of them is in my group of friends at uni.. she's taken of course...Bevo wrote:
Dude... I'm with you. Engineering.
There's like one hot girl in my class of 120 in physics. 0/150 in statics. Half a slut/150 in calculus.
ghettoperson - Uni here is crap with regards to that. My uni has ~44,000 students (about 24,000 undergraduates).. where a vast majority commute from various parts of Sydney (there are a small number of residential colleges, but they are mainly filled with people from rural towns). Hell, even if I do find someone the chances they live nearby are next to none. In first year, one of my friends lived in southern Sydney.. about 1.5-2 hours by car from my place.
Fuck this shit. I just got stood up by one of my best girl friends....
What the fuck is going on.
What the fuck is going on.
They probably heard how you've got the clap. Don't worry though, one pill and it's gone.