Cigs, Weed, and Alcohol.

2008-10-19 18:48:22

#1

sportsman11-2cool4u: We can be those mistakes!; +98|6745|USA Biznatch!

I Figured I might as well post this here, as I like sharing stuff here

Anyways... there was once this really great girl, who I was best friends with, we hung out a lot...

She was hot, popular, and all that good shit. I had been friends with her since 6th grade., however In 8th grade she started doing weed and drinking. But this was a new thing for her, she wasnt like that in 7th grade. I talked to her about it, and asked her to stop but she didnt want heed my advice, she basically said, "fuck off".

Now I see her smoking and drinking and she'll just say something like, "I'm going to stop". Yeah right.. Now me, I never touch that stuff, If I did get into it, it would ruin my life like it did to her... Also it would fuck my chances because I have a chance at doing something good with sports. Sometimes I'd just snach her blunt out of her hands, throw it to the floor and stomp it. The response was usually something along the lines of, "Fuck you Kevin, you don't know how much this costs!"

Mean as it sounds I just did it. When she got into Cigarettes, she got really addicted to them and because of that I became less and less friends with her, I wish that didn't happen, but it did.

I constantly talked to her and tried to get her to stop everything she started in 8th grade... But she never did stopped. I get offered weed at skateparks and school but I say no and try to stay away from it...

More recently, we had homecoming the other week and she got caught smoking in the gym. One of the more stupid things she could have done (No ventilation in the gym). As a result of that incident at homecoming, she got an out of school suspension for a week. Then when she came back no one was friends with her anymore. After she lost all her friends, she tried to go back to her old ones, including me. She always tried to talk to me but I ignored her. Now she just sits quietly alone. Finally today I got a call from her basically saying, "Thanks, I should have listened to you..." In an apologetic manner.

I still don't want to be her friend at all, I feel like I lost her to all the things I tried to divert her from... (drugs, alcohol and smoking)
I just hope she realizes what it does to her.

Anyways, I'm upset that it had to end up like this, but it is what it is

Last edited by sportsman11-2cool4u (2008-10-19 19:16:51)

2008-10-19 18:51:40

#2

SealXo: Member; +309|6953

your not going to be friends with a girl because she blazes? and youve never even done it?

PS
I hit it, I drink, i have a 3.8 and im amazing at sports.
youre jealous

Last edited by SealXo (2008-10-19 18:53:27)

2008-10-19 18:52:26

#3

Defiance: Member; +438|7089

If she has any legitimate will to get off them, you being close to her in the past could help her now. Don't outcast her because of what she's done, you could be a much stronger influence to get her cleaned up.

2008-10-19 18:52:58

#4

AussieReaper: ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°); +5,761|6570|what

Maybe she needs a friend now more than ever. Her life isn't over because of drug use.

2008-10-19 18:53:33

#5

Stimey: +786|6538|Ontario | Canada

Thats unfortunate
I'm always sorry to hear about people that get screwed up by drugs.
Thats really why I try to stay out of that crowd, especially because I know they all smoke, and it is very costly and poor for your health.
All you need is some self control, she probably has some problems going on at home though.
Sorry to hear that, but sometimes second chances are a good thing.

2008-10-19 18:53:55

#6

sportsman11-2cool4u: We can be those mistakes!; +98|6745|USA Biznatch!

SealXo wrote:
your not going to be friends with a girl because she blazes? and youve never even done it?

hahahaahaha

Fighured someone would say that. Yeah no one if friends with her and no I don't want to, I still need my lungs .

I tried to help all the time and I think she's giving up now after what it did to her

I'll still maybe talk to her just I don't know if it's gonna be the same. It's just hard as close as I was to her we literally hung out 2-3 times on the weekdays and friday and most Saturdays.

Last edited by sportsman11-2cool4u (2008-10-19 18:56:13)

2008-10-19 18:56:11

#7

SealXo: Member; +309|6953

sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
SealXo wrote:
your not going to be friends with a girl because she blazes? and youve never even done it?

hahahaahaha
Fighured someone would say that. Yeah no one if friends with her and no I don't want to, I still need my lungs ;).

I tried to help all the time and I think she's giving up now after what it did to her

Thats your choice, and thats her choice.

This sounds like girl drama to me.

Last edited by SealXo (2008-10-19 18:58:32)

2008-10-19 18:57:35

#8

Defiance: Member; +438|7089

sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
Fighured someone would say that. Yeah no one if friends with her and no I don't want to, I still need my lungs .

I tried to help all the time and I think she's giving up now after what it did to her

That's pathetic. You're not going to hurt yourself by being around her. What, are you afraid of second-hand? Does being friends with someone automatically mean you've got to pipe up with them too?

Why do you think she called you? One way or another, she wants to 'go back' to how things were. It's a pretty explicit call for help.

@Your edit: You don't need to be around her all the time, but you should be there for her one way or another. Helping her doesn't mean being her best-est friend evar. Talk to her when she wants to talk, if you can at that moment. Hang out when you can but no need to be obsessive. Few times a week.

Last edited by Defiance (2008-10-19 19:00:07)

2008-10-19 18:58:31

#9

AussieReaper: ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°); +5,761|6570|what

Defiance wrote:
It's a call for help.

2008-10-19 19:00:05

#10

Brasso: member; +1,549|7048

be her friend now, ya dickhead

"people in ny have a general idea of how to drive. one of the pedals goes forward the other one prevents you from dying"

2008-10-19 19:00:32

#11

Parker: isteal; +1,452|6812|The Gem Saloon

bad news bears.

shes an attention/drama whore.

walk away now.

2008-10-19 19:01:16

#12

sportsman11-2cool4u: We can be those mistakes!; +98|6745|USA Biznatch!

That's good advice seriously, it's just the little things that matter. Now that I think about it I've gotten 2 people to stop also close friends with her. Just she was...different. I think I should talk to her to get her to stay off it.

2008-10-19 19:01:31

#13

SealXo: Member; +309|6953

I have friends from all corners of the social spectrum that come from every backround and go from goody good to dirty, I treat them all the same. Weak.

Let her do what she wants jesus. Shes not going to die.

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2008-10-19 19:02:59

#14

Defiance: Member; +438|7089

sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
That's good advice seriously, it's just the little things that matter. Now that I think about it I've gotten 2 people to stop also close friends with her. Just she was...different. I think I should talk to her to get her to stay off it.

Good man.

SealXo wrote:
Let her do what she wants jesus. Shes not going to die.

Bullshit. That's a very good chance if she keeps on with drugs. It won't kill her overnight, but it will kill her.

Last edited by Defiance (2008-10-19 19:03:41)

2008-10-19 19:04:01

#15

sportsman11-2cool4u: We can be those mistakes!; +98|6745|USA Biznatch!

I think it's mostly being really good friends with her that's affecting me right now. I think I'm going to go call her and do homework.

It hurts in the long run..My uncle died of heroine, my grandpa died of lung cancer from smoking cigs, and my other aunt died from lung cancer also.

Last edited by sportsman11-2cool4u (2008-10-19 19:05:55)

2008-10-19 19:05:48

#16

Parker: isteal; +1,452|6812|The Gem Saloon

sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
I think it's mostly being really good friends with her that's affecting me right now. I think I'm going to go call her and do homework.

sounds to me like shes playing games....and i have known a great many drug addicts.

2008-10-19 19:06:43

#17

SealXo: Member; +309|6953

Parker wrote:
sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
I think it's mostly being really good friends with her that's affecting me right now. I think I'm going to go call her and do homework.
sounds to me like shes playing games....and i have known a great many drug addicts.

occasional marijuana use is hardly being a drug addict.

2008-10-19 19:07:19

#18

Flaming_Maniac: prince of insufficient light; +2,490|7125|67.222.138.85

Parker wrote:
sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
I think it's mostly being really good friends with her that's affecting me right now. I think I'm going to go call her and do homework.
sounds to me like shes playing games....and i have known a great many drug addicts.

That's the impression I got.

Doesn't give a shit about what you say until no one is left...then everything you said becomes golden.

Maybe it's genuine, but I would bet on bullshit.

2008-10-19 19:07:44

#19

Ty: Mass Media Casualty; +2,398|7192|Noizyland

The whole thing with alcohol/cigs/weed is that you simply can NOT persuade someone to get off any of them if they don't have a will of their own. They have to hit rock bottom and decide for themselves that they want to quit. You can do anything you like before that stage and it won't make a lick of difference. Where your input becomes key is after they've hit rock bottom, when they're actually looking for support and guidance. Getting some form of support here is key because without it it is all too easy to just slide back into it.

If you're avoiding or cuting her off just because she didn't listen to you before and if you truly are her friend I suggest you forgive and forget as she is no different from any other addict. I'm not saying she'll accept your help now and she may just be trying to get attention it's true but it's up to you as to whether you really want to cut her off or at least try to help her.

I lean on the side of helping her but of course I wouldn't want you to become a sucker. I'm sure you can make that call yourself, this is just my opinion.

Another not-so-serious suggestion that you can choose to ignore is this: widen your horizons. No alcohol? No nothing? You're going to have a pretty shitty existance if you avoid everything that could possibly be bad for you. Live a little dude!

[Blinking eyes thing]
Steam: http://steamcommunity.com/id/tzyon

2008-10-19 19:07:54

#20

SealXo: Member; +309|6953

ty wrote:
Another not-so-serious suggestion that you can choose to ignore is this: widen your horizons. No alcohol? No nothing? You're going to have a pretty shitty existance if you avoid everything that could possibly be bad for you. Live a little dude!

you are in highschool man. its not like shes on crack.

Last edited by SealXo (2008-10-19 19:09:26)

2008-10-19 19:08:43

#21

sportsman11-2cool4u: We can be those mistakes!; +98|6745|USA Biznatch!

No it wasnt occasional it was every day after school mixed in with alcohol. Lots of weekends she was either drunk or high coming to my door and I'd just let her chill in my basement with me until she cooled down then I'd take her home.

2008-10-19 19:09:53

#22

G-NOT_(:0): Banned; +19|6417

SealXo wrote:
did you guys ever go to highschool?

okay badass, what's your point?

2008-10-19 19:10:34

#23

GodFather: Blademaster's bottom bitch; +387|6637|Phoenix, AZ

sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
I Figured I might as well post this here, as I like sharing stuff here

Anyways... there was once this really great girl, who I was best friends with, we hung out a lot...

She was hot, popular, and all that good shit. I had been friends with her since 6th grade., however In 8th grade she started doing weed and drinking. But this was a new thing for her, she wasnt like that in 7th grade. I talked to her about it, and asked her to stop but she didnt want heed my advice, she basically said, "fuck off".

Now I see her smoking and drinking and she'll just say something like, "I'm going to stop". Yeah right.. Now me, I never touch that stuff, If I did get into it, it would ruin my life like it did to her... Also it would fuck my chances because I have a chance at doing something good with sports. Sometimes I'd just snach her blunt out of her hands, throw it to the floor and stomp it. The response was usually something along the lines of, "Fuck you Kevin, you don't know how much this costs!"

[wat?]Mean as it sounds I just did it.[/wat?] When she got into Cigarettes, she got really addicted to them and because of that I became less and less friends with her, I wish that didn't happen, but it did.

I constantly talked to her and tried to get her to stop everything she started in 8th grade... But she never did stopped. I get offered weed at skateparks and school but I say no and try to stay away from it...

More recently, we had homecoming the other week and she got caught smoking in the gym. One of the more stupid things she could have done (No ventilation in the gym). As a result of that incident at homecoming, she got an out of school suspension for a week. Then when she came back no one was friends with her anymore. After she lost all her friends, she tried to go back to her old ones, including me. She always tried to talk to me but I ignored her. Now she just sits quietly alone. Finally today I got a call from her basically saying, "Thanks, I should have listened to you..." In an apologetic manner.

I still don't want to be her friend at all, I feel like I lost her to all the things I tried to divert her from... (drugs, alcohol and smoking)
I just hope she realizes what it does to her.

Anyways, I'm upset that it had to end up like this, but it is what it is

Change that, with the OP

And she lost her friends, she probably didn't think you were cool, or at least her friends didn't think you were (she had to be accepted by NEW friends of course) Now that her friends are gone there's no one to say, "You know him? Your friends with that LOSER?" (or something like that) she wants a friend, any friend so shes not alone

This is also a comment from someone on the internet who knows only what you have typed... Using my steriotypes of druggie people who shun their old friends for new friends with a common hobby *COUGH* getting fucked up *COUGH*

2008-10-19 19:10:35

#24

SealXo: Member; +309|6953

sportsman11-2cool4u wrote:
No it wasnt occasional it was every day after school mixed in with alcohol. Lots of weekends she was either drunk or high coming to my door and I'd just let her chill in my basement with me until she cooled down then I'd take her home.

whats her family situation?

everyday is a different story,but I still treat those people the same,

Last edited by SealXo (2008-10-19 19:10:46)

2008-10-19 19:10:50

#25

sportsman11-2cool4u: We can be those mistakes!; +98|6745|USA Biznatch!

Yeah I might eventually try some but I'm trying to not do drugs. I will probably in later years at parties drink but no drugs.

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Defiance wrote:

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Parker wrote:

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Parker wrote:

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ty wrote:

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