I just triple/quadruple checked the RAM Qualified Vendors list for the board and my ram is on there. Cpu z is only seeing the serieal number on the 2 newer sticks I have though... so I removed the 2 older sticks and put the newer ones in DIMM A1 and DIMM A2, also I just started a fresh install of Vista home premium.
Seems to be working a bit better now with vista installed and only the 2 newer ram sticks installed.... still have to finish getting all my drivers and everything set up, but things are looking up. Time for a break to go check out the new Transformers though. Thanks for all the help so far guys.