The people who post all in emojis are annoying.
I don't know what each emoji represents. It is like hieroglyphics.
I don't know what each emoji represents. It is like hieroglyphics.
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yeah, they're coded very differently between generations. some emojis or ways of texting are specifically millennial-coded at this point. it's all very confusing. apparently using certain emojis 'gives the ick' or signals you as being hopelessly uncool.
i actually resisted using emojis at all for the first few years. i have caved in now though. my poet forefathers are judging me from the stony silence of their corner at westminster abbey.
i actually resisted using emojis at all for the first few years. i have caved in now though. my poet forefathers are judging me from the stony silence of their corner at westminster abbey.
aren't 'ate' and 'the tea' getting on in years now? pre-covid stuff. do people still say either of those?
two 30s bemoaning yesterday's mannerisms, bf2s's oldest dustfarts would probably be laughing their asses off rn at the whippersnappers of bf2 checking urbandic or wikihow for a guide on when and why to mash 👏 and 🙏.
emojis are best avoided imo unless you Know What You're Doing. imagine being a boomer innocently texting someone an eggplant only to realize later. oof! should've asked for that sub sandwich topping with your words! there's a point though, where leaving that stuff for the generations that had smartphones in their hands while they were still absorbing their native language, is the better part of valor.
sometimes my phone suggests one. i may consider it briefly, and then just use my words instead. sometimes i'm just texting on a phone, not chatting on discord?
two 30s bemoaning yesterday's mannerisms, bf2s's oldest dustfarts would probably be laughing their asses off rn at the whippersnappers of bf2 checking urbandic or wikihow for a guide on when and why to mash 👏 and 🙏.
emojis are best avoided imo unless you Know What You're Doing. imagine being a boomer innocently texting someone an eggplant only to realize later. oof! should've asked for that sub sandwich topping with your words! there's a point though, where leaving that stuff for the generations that had smartphones in their hands while they were still absorbing their native language, is the better part of valor.
sometimes my phone suggests one. i may consider it briefly, and then just use my words instead. sometimes i'm just texting on a phone, not chatting on discord?
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👍 is seen by millennials as confirmation. Gen Z see it as sarcasm.
❤️ Symbol is confusing too and I wonder if it leads to some misunderstandings. Like if you put a ❤️ on a selfie I posted I am going to take that as interest. But some people just leave it on everything.
I hate being one of those old people complaining about youth but a lot of the terminally online Zoomer stuff is annoying and confusing. Like I mentioned before about people sharing intimate details of their sex life or being showy but then getting mad at people showing interest. I mostly see that among Zoomers. "Don't post sexual images of Billie Ellish!" The sexual image is B.E. playing with her tits in a selfie video.
Age gaps are another weird thing. Apparently there are levels to being an adult. A 22 year old dating a 18 year is grooming. A 30 years old dating a 24 year old is grooming. Etc.
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I understand I am not the best example of responsible sexual practices but when the rules change and shift so much eventually you just stop caring.
❤️ Symbol is confusing too and I wonder if it leads to some misunderstandings. Like if you put a ❤️ on a selfie I posted I am going to take that as interest. But some people just leave it on everything.
I hate being one of those old people complaining about youth but a lot of the terminally online Zoomer stuff is annoying and confusing. Like I mentioned before about people sharing intimate details of their sex life or being showy but then getting mad at people showing interest. I mostly see that among Zoomers. "Don't post sexual images of Billie Ellish!" The sexual image is B.E. playing with her tits in a selfie video.
Age gaps are another weird thing. Apparently there are levels to being an adult. A 22 year old dating a 18 year is grooming. A 30 years old dating a 24 year old is grooming. Etc.
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I understand I am not the best example of responsible sexual practices but when the rules change and shift so much eventually you just stop caring.
confirm, sarcasticallySuperJail Warden wrote:
👍 is seen by millennials as confirmation. Gen Z see it as sarcasm.
😍 is probably used a lot on reactions to minecraft builds.SuperJail Warden wrote:
❤️ Symbol is confusing too and I wonder if it leads to some misunderstandings. Like if you put a ❤️ on a selfie I posted I am going to take that as interest. But some people just leave it on everything.
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I thought the 🙏 symbol was two people high fiving. Turns out it is prayer lol
I still haven't changed the default race of my emoji man. The emoji guy is still the default yellow.
I still haven't changed the default race of my emoji man. The emoji guy is still the default yellow.
i look at age gaps (beyond the more obviously chronological dubiousness like that one actor who was in wolf of wall street) in terms of if you have to study to communicate with them In 'Their Language', they're either too old or too young for you. fold that into other facets of balance of power.
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I think that a guy who is 12 years into his career dating a girl in her sophomore year in college is a serious mismatch in priorities and life experience. But that mismatch doesn't necessarily mean the experience for the girl would be negative or exploitative. The older guy could give the 21 year old experiences and opportunities that guys her age can't. An older guy who doesn't hit her would obviously be better than a 21 year old who would post her nudes to a group chat. But people look at the outside without thinking of the relationship dynamics.unnamednewbie13 wrote:
i look at age gaps (beyond the more obviously chronological dubiousness) in terms of if you have to study to communicate effectively with them, they're either too old or too young for you. fold that into other facets of balance of power.
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I also noticed there is a big uptick in white women dating outside of their race. At least in my area. And there are power dynamics to that too. I think a lot of those women either consciously or subconsciously have this feeling that "white guys are entitled. The brown guy would be grateful.
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What I am basically saying is that the stuff about power dynamics isn't all one way in favor of the men. Women can be as exploitative and domineering as men. The sketchy things I have gotten married and engaged women to do...
lol you went right to "women do it too" even before i added the bit about leo.
full disclosure between partners, making sure what you're getting into is what you want and isn't unduly influenced by societal pressures, ultimately people exercising their adult liberties to be their own adults: all good to keep in mind, no?
side note: i think a short but mostly happy marriage is preferable to a long and miserable one, especially one where a party is practically kept (financial) prisoner.
side-side note: i cannot believe some of the women who are voting to go back to having their lives run for them on the basis of nostalgia for their great-grandma's tradlife or something; stuff their vaunted elders fought their way out of. who wants to be in a situation where the significant other has total control over stuff like finances, and your influence in the relationship is ambiguous at best. sucks for you when things go sour.
full disclosure between partners, making sure what you're getting into is what you want and isn't unduly influenced by societal pressures, ultimately people exercising their adult liberties to be their own adults: all good to keep in mind, no?
side note: i think a short but mostly happy marriage is preferable to a long and miserable one, especially one where a party is practically kept (financial) prisoner.
side-side note: i cannot believe some of the women who are voting to go back to having their lives run for them on the basis of nostalgia for their great-grandma's tradlife or something; stuff their vaunted elders fought their way out of. who wants to be in a situation where the significant other has total control over stuff like finances, and your influence in the relationship is ambiguous at best. sucks for you when things go sour.
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i saw an insane story where, like, a group of students tried to 'to catch a predator' on a guy attempting to date someone in their accommodation or shared sorority house or whatever. the guy was like 22 or 21. barely out of college. they got into trouble for physically assaulting this guy as if was a serious sexual predator. what the fuck is that generation doing?SuperJail Warden wrote:
Age gaps are another weird thing. Apparently there are levels to being an adult. A 22 year old dating a 18 year is grooming. A 30 years old dating a 24 year old is grooming. Etc.
agree with the comments that anyone over, say, 25 doesn't really have anything in common with a college-aged person. those relationships can work though and be positive and healthy. they can also be abusive and one-sided. it really depends on so many things. some people grow up very quickly in their 20s; others don't mature at all.
i get more red flags about imbalances in power and status. bosses dating subordinates, supervisors dating graduate students, etc. then the dynamics are ripe for abuse.
this rabbit hole brings us to US laws. wyoming has a part about when one or more minors are homeless.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_ … ted_States
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With both parental or guardian and judicial consent conditions, a person can marry at either 16 or 17. If two 16- or 17-year-olds wish to marry and are both legally emancipated and/or homeless, they can marry without consent and authorization.
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girls below 15 can marry with judicial approval and parental consent.[46][40][63]
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_ … ted_States
the age of consent in japan was 13 as recently as 2023.
i'm still undecided whether it's better to handle sexuality totally out in the open, as they do (e.g. titty-mags uncovered in every convenience store, no shame about visiting porno cinemas or indulging in schoolgirl-maid fantasies, etc.), or whether it's better to be morally censorious as we are in the west and to drive all that stuff into the creepy-crawly underworld. it's not as if certain men in the west aren't evidently lusting after 14 year olds, whether it's pedos or all sorts of sexual abuse in institutions (church, school, etc.)
i'm still undecided whether it's better to handle sexuality totally out in the open, as they do (e.g. titty-mags uncovered in every convenience store, no shame about visiting porno cinemas or indulging in schoolgirl-maid fantasies, etc.), or whether it's better to be morally censorious as we are in the west and to drive all that stuff into the creepy-crawly underworld. it's not as if certain men in the west aren't evidently lusting after 14 year olds, whether it's pedos or all sorts of sexual abuse in institutions (church, school, etc.)
i feel like it's a mixed bag for an american to judge what's best for japan in terms of japanese culture and law (i do recall that pressure for change on the 13 thing did not come from a vacuum, though). but i can more confidently make sweeping judgments about the united states.
for instance, the last republican presidential candidate to lose in wyoming was barry goldwater. i am not surprised that there is an allowance for homeless children in wyoming marriage law. i'm aware this is a lazy connection. it's just that american conservatism, 'concern' about young people, hypocrisies, all that stuff about 'groomers,' yada yada. why are homeless 16yos a thing in a country with plural, private space programs. there might as well be a law for allowance of centaur/mermaid relationships for all such a thing should ever be relevant.
for instance, the last republican presidential candidate to lose in wyoming was barry goldwater. i am not surprised that there is an allowance for homeless children in wyoming marriage law. i'm aware this is a lazy connection. it's just that american conservatism, 'concern' about young people, hypocrisies, all that stuff about 'groomers,' yada yada. why are homeless 16yos a thing in a country with plural, private space programs. there might as well be a law for allowance of centaur/mermaid relationships for all such a thing should ever be relevant.
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That story was the first time I had noticed how crazy it had gotten.uziq wrote:
i saw an insane story where, like, a group of students tried to 'to catch a predator' on a guy attempting to date someone in their accommodation or shared sorority house or whatever. the guy was like 22 or 21. barely out of college. they got into trouble for physically assaulting this guy as if was a serious sexual predator. what the fuck is that generation doing?SuperJail Warden wrote:
Age gaps are another weird thing. Apparently there are levels to being an adult. A 22 year old dating a 18 year is grooming. A 30 years old dating a 24 year old is grooming. Etc.
I think young people have less of a distinction between real life and the internet. So being part of a "to catch a predator" thing seems fun and a great way to maybe become famous like the Hawk Tuah or whatever girl. You just need one viral moment to become an influencer and then scam your fans with a crypto coin.
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I feel sketchy even discussing some of this stuff. I think it should be noted that older guys marrying adult girls just out of high school was a normal thing for a long time in society. Liberals complain about "you can't have a family on one income anymore" but that one income was often from a local middle class man in his 30s who married a local 20 year old lady family friend with no job prospects. And the ladies back then were often grateful for getting married into that sort of situation. People forget the context of the social situation at the time.
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My girlfriend has pulled a "Mr. Macbeth could I stay after class" thing in bed before. I shut it down. The stuff is gross. And the guys and gal teachers who get into trouble like that are predators and strange.
Teachers are notorious for sleeping with each other. Every building has plenty of guy teachers who are willing to nail a young lady teacher. The lady teachers who get into trouble are just as much predators as men.