I have finnaly found the server i have searched for its a normal server with a very freindsly admin.
Everyone got along with him his name was mhjelmer hes a good player and liked by players on the server.
Had to kick some 1 but for a good reason
I would reccomend people using this server the ip is 8.6.193.226 port 16567 me and my clan have added that to our favourites and will be using that a lot.