BF2S Forums The BF2s girl-problems thread

SuperJail Warden wrote:

I am happy for you. Tell us about the girl.

Here's a pic.  She's a white girl with a tan complexion due to lots of Greek and Italian ancestry, she's got pretty green eyes, and she has the wide hips, skinny waist thing going on which was pretty awesome.  We only had sex twice, I wish we could've done doggy style more to enjoy those hips but she was complaining about me putting a queef into her the first time(apparently doggy is the easiest position for that to happen in), so I was like nvm the next time.

uziq wrote:

congrats. hopefully that’s a weight off your shoulders.

It is, I can't even describe what a relief it was although it didn't immediately hit me until some point afterward.

KEN-JENNINGS wrote:

I hope he came to the understanding that losing your virginity is usually a lot more awkward than being a virgin

We were really comfortable with each other from doing other stuff up to that point so a lot of the unfamiliarity was gone.  But she was complaing about a lot of things I was doing like accidentally putting air into her or when I made a joke she considered inappropriate, but it was because I was excited.  Any awkwardness was incomparable to being a 27 year old virgin before that though.  The awkwardness whenever people would talk about anything of a sexual nature was instantaneous.  Anytime anybody brought up the sex or relationships topic, I just had to go completely silent.  I was by far the last of all my friends to lose it and that was one significant topic with them that I could never contribute to, I felt like I was less than every adult around me because I hadn't had the experience of having sex like they more than likely did.  It was a massive confidence killer, I pretty much instantly dismissed any woman who ever might have showed interest in me as just being friendly because I was convinced I would fuck it up somewhere and it wasn't worth getting my hopes up.  And now all of that is completely gone, I never have to worry about feeling like that again.  It was undoubtedly one the most unhealthy mindsets I could possibly have had about it to let it dictate my self-worth like that, but now it's not a problem anymore.

TL;DR version of this response: It wasn't nearly as awkward as I expected my first time to be, and any amount of awkwardness still would have been better than being a late virgin.

Superior Mind wrote:

Good for you, j5. Hopefully you enjoyed it.

Honestly, the actual act of sex was pretty underwhelming, but by that point, in my head I had built sex up to be something that I don't think it could ever possibly be, or at least absolutely not in the first couple of times.  I will say that seeing a vagina literally dripping wet waiting for me to stick it in was a magical memory though.  But I felt like I couldn't 100% relax and enjoy sex because what little romantic chemistry we had by that point(6 months) had faded away, and she kept bitching about things I was doing while having sex the first time.  I eventually couldn't finish the first time because it felt like too much pressure, she had broken up with her ex because of not being able to cum.  Not the greatest first time, although I was still glad to have done it and now I know I can give women orgasms.  2nd time felt a bit better, no arguing since we had already just done that beforehand, and it was also slightly easier for me to relax, and I was able to eventually cum on her boobs.  But overall it just felt like I was masturbating with another person.

I apparently gave myself deathgrip syndrome too and it's hard for pussy to match the tightness and speed of your hand.  I've been told that new feeling just takes some getting used to, but with only two times under my belt with somebody I didn't even have much chemistry with, I never got a chance to really start mentally enjoying sex anywhere near as much as I do with masturbation.

TL;DR version of this response: My expectations were entirely too high from being a virgin for so long and I didn't have enough experience(obviously can't be helped) or chemistry with the other person to fully enjoy sex.  But I am perfectly fine with that because that just means it'll get better with the next person now that I have the confidence to do some of the heavy lifting like a guy is expected to.

Last edited by _j5689_ (2020-09-24 07:43:22)

uziq wrote:

good sex feels much better than 'deathgrip' jerking off (lol what a term). like an order of magnitude better. ditto good head.

seek and ye shall find ...

did she let you touch her dreadlocks?

I guess effort doesn't necessarily equate to goodness, she seemed like she really wanted to give good sex and good head.  There were split seconds where the head felt really good and then it almost immediately turned into oversensitivity after that.

I did touch her dreads, her hair very often ended up tangled in my beard whenever we would cuddle or sleep(literally) together.

And speaking of dreads, there's also this black chick at work with a nice ass that has been wanting to fuck me for a long time, and especially now that I've lost my V-card she's even more interested.  I'm a bit torn though because although I have a lot more chemistry with and physical attraction to this black girl already from the beginning, and thus there is significantly better potential for good sex to happen, I don't want that to also turn into deep emotional attachment to somebody I work with.  I was scared about that with the other girl too and when I started to get too attached, it was causing me severe anxiety, so she eased off on the affection that got me attached and then waited till the chemistry was already dead to take my V-card after, making the attachment a non issue but making the sex purely mechanical.

Hopefully I can transfer to day shift at some point in the next few months so I can actually meet women outside of work for the first time in my 20s.  It's really bad when your only option for having your sexual/intimacy needs met is to risk shitting where you eat.

damn that's beautiful jnumbers, i'm happy for u dude. honestly at least ime sex gets better the more u do it with the same partner. first time with a new girl is a little overwhelming at times at least for me. u don't necessarily have to be in "love" with them or whatever just have good energy with her. but yeah too much porn and excessive masturbation is bad that's why i cut back on that shit a long time ago. i would still have trouble sometimes cumming from just penetration (even worse with a condom) but i'm also on the smaller side of average so a lot of girls don't feel that tight to me to begin with and then once they're aroused the pussy loosens up and stuff so it just makes it worse lol. i think really good head is better than penetration but that's just me.

my 1st time clapping cheeks was actually nothing to write home about but i did feel more empowered and relieved afterwards too. it's a big thing.

It's actually interesting to read. I feel like if Mac wrote something like this, I'd be facepalming, but I'm not, so good on you.

deathgrip syndrome hahahaha never heard of it but been there

pack in the crankin' for a week if you can, it'll all be gone

all of those 'benefits' are basically myths and misinformation my guy. you can trace them historically to bad advice and misconceptions promulgated by american physicians in the 1950s and 1960s. america is almost unique in the secular world for the practice of widespread circumcision by default. the benefits are mostly self-invented. you just lost a bit of a your dick at birth for no reason, sorry bro.

'girls prefer it' american girls, perhaps, who are obviously conditioned to expect circumcised penises as the 'norm'.

lmao oh my god androoz.

did you learn to wash your hair as a kid? do you struggle to keep your armpits from smelling? people with foreskins do not get smegma build-ups, my guy. people with terrible personal hygiene, maybe.

no, STI and HIV/AIDS risks are not worse with foreskin. it's a myth. read the scientific research. that entire myth comes from one single journal paper that studied a small sample in uganda where sexual diseases are rampant and sexual practices are much different.

religious people cutting foreskins for ritual reasons is NOT a good justification. a huge number of people on earth also practice female genital mutilation because of 'tradition'. would you recommend it for your daughter? performing unnecessary invasive surgery on a baby is not really a good practice. this is why the vast majority of world's doctors and medical systems do not circumcise children without a definite need. there's risks of infections, poor healing, compromised immune systems, etc. in babies. but sure, keep talking about your supposed 'reduced' chances of getting hepatitis or whatever, lol. (if you want to protect against STIs, wear a condom, not cut your foreskin off.)

your 'proof' that women prefer no foreskin is ... one latvian girl, who was excited by her 'first' american? it's practically scientific fact, a sample size of one girl's preference.

again, you lost 1/2 your length for no reason. now you have an acorn at the bottom of your torso. too bad!

Last edited by uziq (2020-09-27 14:05:52)

It’s called denial. We were mutilated, drooz. Never forget and never forgive.

Drooz was and will be bf2s’ greatest troll. Maybe.

s m e Gma g ives  u AIDS dude it's science

People who aren't circumcised are always the ones bringing it up as a negative while the people who are cut are just going along with the flow of things.

lmao that's called a fait accompli. it will do that.

Last edited by uziq (2020-09-27 16:42:09)

uziq wrote:

lmao oh my god androoz.

did you learn to wash your hair as a kid? do you struggle to keep your armpits from smelling? people with foreskins do not get smegma build-ups, my guy. people with terrible personal hygiene, maybe.

no, STI and HIV/AIDS risks are not worse with foreskin. it's a myth. read the scientific research. that entire myth comes from one single journal paper that studied a small sample in uganda where sexual diseases are rampant and sexual practices are much different.

religious people cutting foreskins for ritual reasons is NOT a good justification. a huge number of people on earth also practice female genital mutilation because of 'tradition'. would you recommend it for your daughter? performing unnecessary invasive surgery on a baby is not really a good practice. this is why the vast majority of world's doctors and medical systems do not circumcise children without a definite need. there's risks of infections, poor healing, compromised immune systems, etc. in babies. but sure, keep talking about your supposed 'reduced' chances of getting hepatitis or whatever, lol. (if you want to protect against STIs, wear a condom, not cut your foreskin off.)

your 'proof' that women prefer no foreskin is ... one latvian girl, who was excited by her 'first' american? it's practically scientific fact, a sample size of one girl's preference.

again, you lost 1/2 your length for no reason. now you have an acorn at the bottom of your torso. too bad!

u have good points. i didn't know the STD thing only came from one research paper. and yeah true about the female mutiliation thing. i'm not trolling or trying to start shit with anyone. i don't do research on any of this, i'm just going by pieces of info i've picked up over the years

there's obviously pros and cons being uncut or cut. but i don't think it will change anytime soon since it's a big cultural thing. a lot of dudes are cut in america thus when they have kids they will probably have their boys cut since they want them to be like them. same thing in europe. uncut dudes aren't gonna cut their future children.

edit: i guess if we really wanted to find out about the sensitivty thing etc or what girls prefer would be to talk to a dude that got circumcised later in adulthood. that would be someone who's experienced both sides.

Last edited by lil_droo (2020-09-27 17:07:21)

That's awesome jnumbers!

So what happened with the girl? You still see her or is it onwards and upwards?

I think that if a family has their boy circumcised they shouldn't lose their minds if he comes home with pierced ears or a tattoo later in life. It would make sense for the latter to be less objectionable considering pierced ears or a tattoo usually happen with the consent of the person they're done to.

Anyway it always brings to mind ear cropping on dogs "because of looks" but usually excused by "it prevents infections!"