BF2S Forums The BF2s girl-problems thread

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Public, fair's fair, but doesn't it kind of suck to upload someone's rough breakup or falling out or whatever? This is the world we live in. On the internet before you're even a year old. Hope it was worth it.

fwiw sounded like manipulation to me

Couple arguments are awful. You really take it for granted that you don't have to deal with that when single.

Anyhow, here is a non-couple different argument
https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout … ow_theyre/

It's just a matter of time until some Korean girl is going to get into an argument with you in public now. If things get rough tell her you need to return some video tapes.

You should let them know that if their country ever gets overrun by China they can have you advocate for them to refugee.

If you take them to Utah the people there won't even think you are weird.

That's disappointing to hear. All of those poor girls who won't have a husband.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias

that's a tough one. when you're not together, it's really none of your business how another person chooses to deal (or not deal) with their mental/physical health. it could be considered rude and an overreach.

when you're together in a long and committed relationship, obviously that changes things: you can present it as care, concern, looking out for one another, etc.

i think the most salient point here is that, if she isn't capable of helping herself and getting her own affairs in order, she probably isn't ready or a good candidate for a relationship anyway. relationships don't work unless both people are in relatively happy, stable, fulfilling places in their lives. that goes for job/education/prospects as much as self-care, too. when one person doesn't have their shit in order, it just devolves into them being jealous of your successes/life, or them surrounding you with a field of negativity, etc.

there's plenty of people to date and if you can see a girl coming from a mile off with clearly unaddressed issues, you're probably not going to 'fix' her and you're definitely not going to have a good relationship.

I was dating on and off with a girl during the pandemic, it's now over for good and I'm kinda pissed in a way. Not because I miss it (well, I do, irrationally) but because I got sucked into something abusive and never got an apology.

We ended things maybe 5 or 6 times over the course of a year. I was always comforting her over personal shit which made dating mentally exhausting. Life was always a mess, health issues, people were terrible to her, she'd have crying episodes regularly (like every other date) etc. Vice versa she was very quick to latch on to me. It usually ended for a few weeks/month at a time because she made it a point to discuss 'us' constantly and after 3-4 weeks she'd press it hard, I would say I wasn't ready or wasn't in love yet, she would fault me for it & get angry. Now I played some part in her fits, but she'd end up saying real hurtful shit and always leaving me with the sense that it's my fault things weren't working out, that I had issues and I needed to change. A month or so later she'd call me to hang out, be all sweet again and we'd restart the cycle.

If I ever got angry with her, she'd cry her eyes out, fault me for that too and hold it over my head. I then became one of the terrible people who mistreated her. Whatever issue I raised I dropped again to calm her down. Over the course of a year she gradually broke down my confidence and I started second guessing myself all the time & apologising for everything. I usually never cry but she got me to that point more than a handful of times as well.

The last month was particularly bad. I got mad over some of the above, she left again. She started dating someone else very quickly, but still wanted to see me. For a couple weeks she dropped by a few times for cuddles, kisses, tells me she loves me all the time etc. Really fucked with my head at that point. I caved and asked if she wanted a relationship - but of course due to the constant push/pull and the 5 previous breakups the argument was now that she didn't believe me anymore, that it wasn't enough, etc. I made peace with that after a day or two and asked if she could stop contacting me. Pissed her off again of course, which pissed me off and we again ended with her leaving & crying and me a mess as well.

1 month later and surprise the other guy is now her boyfriend. I don't even think it's because she loves the guy but because it's a person/relationship she can easily control. The whole thing just leaves me feeling bitter in a way. I'm really kicking myself for letting her get to me, and for giving her the satisfaction of my apologies & even love while she was dating someone else too.

I've also been way, way too nice to her while not getting the same kindness in return at all. I'm just left pissed off.

Stick with the Only Fans girl. She seems like a lot of fun.

God grants you the once in a lifetime chance to get involved with a woman deep into the performing arts and you decline.