I'm apparently a poor commander. I've been told so by lone wolves many times. I don't routinely command except if no one else is commanding and we need it.

When I command, if you ask, you receive. I'll spot folks near my people to warn them...or if I see armor at all.

I'm regularly in a squad or squad leader and I tend to follow the commander's requests, if they aren't silly...why ask squad to traverse the entire map and defend/cap a flag?! Use them where they are, unless they are horribly out of position...if they are horribly out of position, figure out why (going an alternate route to the back MEC spawn in Karkhole, for example? Let 'em know that you're with 'em by asking they take the back spawn. If they're stat-padding and your team doesn't need arty support, blow 'em away...