The only answer I found to this sort of thing is to get your own server, then its problem solved.
If I get a pants gunner(not that im that good), if they miss everything, I head back to our helo pad and get out the heli, 90% of the time they crash within a 1min, thats if they even swap to the pilot seat!.
Im hate people who TK for a vehicle, Unless there's a golden reason, like they keep coming back over and over after being given a chance and failing.
But just because you think your mates better is a slightly up ya own ass look on it.
I've had problems with 2 guys who thought they ruled in a helo, they cared so much about our team winning they spent ages just trying to not let me in the helo, hell when they both got up in it 3min later it was back on the pad.
They did all sorts, to the point I got more fun out of messing around with them than playing!.
When I did take of with one of them as gunner he sucked monkeys balls, missed a piss easy TV on a AA and I clipped a tree trying to dodge missiles from what should have been a burning mess, that was enough for them to bitch that I sucked as a pilot!!.
Hah just ignore people who think they are l33t, or just fook about with them.