hmm, i have a lil problem with confidence, in fact when i stand infront of a hot girl, i just feel some sort of strange feeling, dont ask me why, but I just cannot keep eye contact on her eyes.. Can anyone help?:p
The best advice I can give...is who cares?
Honestly. What difference does it make if you ask a girl out and she says no? The absolute WORST thing that can happen when you talk to a girl and ask her out...is she says "no thanks". In my opinion, it's always better to ask a girl and at least have a chance of her saying yes...than to never ask her at all and never have any chance of her going out with you.
Honestly. What difference does it make if you ask a girl out and she says no? The absolute WORST thing that can happen when you talk to a girl and ask her out...is she says "no thanks". In my opinion, it's always better to ask a girl and at least have a chance of her saying yes...than to never ask her at all and never have any chance of her going out with you.
just do it, dont think about it, just do it
Guess i need to build up my confidence level more, even towards other people, i dont look em straight in the eye=(
A HUGE part of life relies on confidence. Job interviews, asking girls out, even just making friends...all rely an confidence.Ayumiz wrote:
Guess i need to build up my confidence level more, even towards other people, i dont look em straight in the eye=(
The latest job I got...I was in NO way qualified for...but I nailed it because I went into my interview KNOWING I could do it if given the chance. I proved to my boss that I was a confident professional and that if I put my mind to it, I could accomplish anything.
The same holds true for girls. Would you want to date someone who's super shy and doesn't believe in herself? Hell no. Why would a girl want to date a guy like that then?
Believe in yourself and good things happen.
Get confident, stupid.
Unless you approach the girl with confidence she won't want to know she will think your some kind of train spotting geeky stalker type.
She's a human like you, why is she dressed nice, smells nice etc? She wants the attention. Some girls only want the attention, they like to "tease le coq" (thats French for , well, I shouldn't need to translate).
You will suffer many knock backs on this rocky road of love you wish to take but you will learn from each one, you will learn that with each knock back it gives you the chance to go and chat another hottie up. The biggest thing a girl will be looking for an will take 1 minute to decide is: Are you being you?
If you are then it means you are already relaxed which will help her be relaxed. They like humour but not smut ie, "Do you like fruit? Suck Le coq it's a peach". That will get you slapped in the face. Just be polite, confident, relaxed but most of all, be yourself.
Don't go down the buying drinks thing straight off as thats what they are looking for but have a dance with her and if you got the "Disco Boner" going on, keep it away from her and do some "spinney" dance moves so everyone else on the floor see's what you have in your pockets not her. If it all goes well and you get to do the slow dance with her all sexy and that try not to dribble on her shoulder. I hope you learn from my mistakes. If she is with a load of girls on a girls night out keep away but try to give her your number and you get hers, if she with a fat minger apprach the minger and say "Would you like to dance"? "Good, now fuck off so I can chat ya mate up"
She's a human like you, why is she dressed nice, smells nice etc? She wants the attention. Some girls only want the attention, they like to "tease le coq" (thats French for , well, I shouldn't need to translate).
You will suffer many knock backs on this rocky road of love you wish to take but you will learn from each one, you will learn that with each knock back it gives you the chance to go and chat another hottie up. The biggest thing a girl will be looking for an will take 1 minute to decide is: Are you being you?
If you are then it means you are already relaxed which will help her be relaxed. They like humour but not smut ie, "Do you like fruit? Suck Le coq it's a peach". That will get you slapped in the face. Just be polite, confident, relaxed but most of all, be yourself.
Don't go down the buying drinks thing straight off as thats what they are looking for but have a dance with her and if you got the "Disco Boner" going on, keep it away from her and do some "spinney" dance moves so everyone else on the floor see's what you have in your pockets not her. If it all goes well and you get to do the slow dance with her all sexy and that try not to dribble on her shoulder. I hope you learn from my mistakes. If she is with a load of girls on a girls night out keep away but try to give her your number and you get hers, if she with a fat minger apprach the minger and say "Would you like to dance"? "Good, now fuck off so I can chat ya mate up"
Do you at least look at her boobs?Ayumiz wrote:
hmm, i have a lil problem with confidence, in fact when i stand infront of a hot girl, i just feel some sort of strange feeling, dont ask me why, but I just cannot keep eye contact on her eyes.. Can anyone help?:p
So just come out and ask: "Do you wanna fuck?"
If she says yes, you're golden. If she says no, then say "Neither do I, so let's get it over with".
Surprisingly enough, that gets the conversation started.
If she says yes, you're golden. If she says no, then say "Neither do I, so let's get it over with".
Surprisingly enough, that gets the conversation started.
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
― Albert Einstein
Doing the popular thing is not always right. Doing the right thing is not always popular
― Albert Einstein
Doing the popular thing is not always right. Doing the right thing is not always popular
Has that actually worked for you?FEOS wrote:
So just come out and ask: "Do you wanna fuck?"
If she says yes, you're golden. If she says no, then say "Neither do I, so let's get it over with".
Surprisingly enough, that gets the conversation started.
Alcohol is the key. I become such an awesome person when I'm drunk. Not a drunk arsehole, but a genuinely awesome person.
Last edited by Mek-Stizzle (2008-04-18 06:34:39)
the best advice you can get, right up there ^^^^Nappy wrote:
just do it, dont think about it, just do it
let me elaborate a little more.
your head works against you when you are in a position like that. automatically......hell, sub consciously even, you start to doubt yourself.
when you see a girl you are interested in, you have to move the first second you think you would want to get your end wet in that.
if not, you WILL talk yourself out of it...or at the least look like a chump in front of the hot girl.
women love confidence, and its almost like they can smell it.
what i did, and still do when i need some confidence, is just tell myself, "i am a bad motherfucker."
you have to believe it though.....if not its just like telling yourself the sky is purple....it doesnt mean shit.
think about those moments in your life that you are really proud of. the times when you felt on top of the world and unstoppable.
weve all had those times...its up to you to remember them, and use them for self confidence.
oh, and my boy 1927 knows his shit as well....a lot of wisdom there.
good luck man, and remember, you are a bad motherfucker
Or so you think...Mek-Stizzle wrote:
Alcohol is the key. I become such an awesome person when I'm drunk. Not a drunk arsehole, but a genuinely awesome person.
I also have a serious lack of cofidence, but I found a way to hide it. Whenever you have to do something or wanna do something you normally woudn't do, try to get a fuck-it-all attitude. Convince yourself that the outcome of whatever you do isn't that important, as long as - and now comes the most important part - you are happy with how you did it. Forget other people's opinions and try to act in a way which makes you feel right.
Another thing is to realize that you can't turn back time. If you failed at whatever you tried to do, remind yourself that you can't change it anymore and that it is as it is. This will make you able to get over it faster. It will only lessen your confidence further if you think about what you did wrong all the time.
Another thing is to realize that you can't turn back time. If you failed at whatever you tried to do, remind yourself that you can't change it anymore and that it is as it is. This will make you able to get over it faster. It will only lessen your confidence further if you think about what you did wrong all the time.
Your first paragraph reminds me of alcohol and its effect on me, similar to Mek's.mr.hrundi wrote:
I also have a serious lack of cofidence, but I found a way to hide it. Whenever you have to do something or wanna do something you normally woudn't do, try to get a fuck-it-all attitude. Convince yourself that the outcome of whatever you do isn't that important, as long as - and now comes the most important part - you are happy with how you did it. Forget other people's opinions and try to act in a way which makes you feel right.
Another thing is to realize that you can't turn back time. If you failed at whatever you tried to do, remind yourself that you can't change it anymore and that it is as it is. This will make you able to get over it faster. It will only lessen your confidence further if you think about what you did wrong all the time.
Works just as well without (even if it's easier with...)1927 wrote:
Your first paragraph reminds me of alcohol and its effect on me, similar to Mek's.
It just takes longer to get it in your brain (took me about 3 years) but it's worth it - not the best impression if you show up drunk to a job interview.
Nike's slogan of "Just do it" is really all that can be said, frankly. If you get turned down, you get turned down. Better to ask, frankly. Worst case: she says no, you move on after you are done feeling sorry for yourself. If even.
Go have a look for the Pick Up Artist community.
They know their stuff
They know their stuff
Yes.ghettoperson wrote:
Has that actually worked for you?FEOS wrote:
So just come out and ask: "Do you wanna fuck?"
If she says yes, you're golden. If she says no, then say "Neither do I, so let's get it over with".
Surprisingly enough, that gets the conversation started.
I didn't believe it either, and I was a participant.
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
― Albert Einstein
Doing the popular thing is not always right. Doing the right thing is not always popular
― Albert Einstein
Doing the popular thing is not always right. Doing the right thing is not always popular
Have a pimp attitudeAyumiz wrote:
hmm, i have a lil problem with confidence, in fact when i stand infront of a hot girl, i just feel some sort of strange feeling, dont ask me why, but I just cannot keep eye contact on her eyes.. Can anyone help?:p
lolwutFEOS wrote:
Yes.ghettoperson wrote:
Has that actually worked for you?FEOS wrote:
So just come out and ask: "Do you wanna fuck?"
If she says yes, you're golden. If she says no, then say "Neither do I, so let's get it over with".
Surprisingly enough, that gets the conversation started.
I didn't believe it either, and I was a participant.
You have a tiny penis.
cowami wrote:
lolwutFEOS wrote:
Yes.ghettoperson wrote:
Has that actually worked for you?
I didn't believe it either, and I was a participant.
doug1988 wrote:
cowami wrote:
lolwutFEOS wrote:
Yes.
I didn't believe it either, and I was a participant.