Need some relationship advice.

2007-01-12 15:08:03

#1

Fancy_Pollux: Connoisseur of Fine Wine; +1,306|7090

I haven't been posting much for the past few days because I've been having some relationship problems. My girlfriend and I have been getting into fights all the time over stupid and petty things. Just to clarify things, it's never my fault. I'm a pretty non-confrontational person. Every argument has been started by her...and most of the stuff she complains about is her own fault.

Last night was the last straw. She started up again and I didn't want to deal with it so I just walked out. I was very pissed. As soon as I got home I sat down at my computer and organized by thoughts and feelings on the matter into a Powerpoint presentation. I called her up around 8am this morning and told her to come over and that I have something to show her. I sat her down and began to present my Powerpoint. Not even 5 minutes into it she gets up and storms out of my apartment. What gets me is that this was totally unwarranted. I presented the Powerpoint very politely and professionally -- making sure not start up another argument. I think her simply storming out of the room as I'm in mid-sentence was extremely rude, especially considering I spent over an hour putting this together and am trying salvage our failing relationship. How long should I wait for her to apologize? I need some advice.

2007-01-12 15:11:32

#2

Jackabo: Member; +127|7002|Dublin, Ireland

well, gfs usually get pissed when the boyfriends are playing computer games all the time and spend more time on there computer than her. And then when you you showed here the powerpoint thing you made she thought that you were just a big nerd and thats why she left.

2007-01-12 15:11:41

#3

Mason4Assassin444: retired; +552|7106|USA

Powerpoint? Nice.

Let her go, jerk off to porn. Everyone wins. You get peace of mind, some other poor bloke gets to deal with her.

2007-01-12 15:13:37

#4

{uscm}Jyden: You likey leaky?; +433|7122|In You Endo- Stoke

Fancy_Pollux wrote:
I haven't been posting much for the past few days because I've been having some relationship problems. My girlfriend and I have been getting into fights all the time over stupid and petty things. Just to clarify things, it's never my fault. I'm a pretty non-confrontational person. Every argument has been started by her...and most of the stuff she complains about is her own fault.

Last night was the last straw. She started up again and I didn't want to deal with it so I just walked out. I was very pissed. As soon as I got home I sat down at my computer and organized by thoughts and feelings on the matter into a Powerpoint presentation. I called her up around 8am this morning and told her to come over and that I have something to show her. I sat her down and began to present my Powerpoint. Not even 5 minutes into it she gets up and storms out of my apartment. What gets me is that this was totally unwarranted. I presented the Powerpoint very politely and professionally -- making sure not start up another argument. I think her simply storming out of the room as I'm in mid-sentence was extremely rude, especially considering I spent over an hour putting this together and am trying salvage our failing relationship. How long should I wait for her to apologize? I need some advice.

Genius! LOL

I would wait a few months and then if she hasn't called find a new one.Was it a good presentation? pictures and different fades and fonts?

2007-01-12 15:14:47

#5

Yaocelotl: :D; +221|7093|Keyboard

Another BS post; gg.

2007-01-12 15:16:05

#6

d4rkst4r: biggie smalls; +72|6897|Ontario, Canada

fake.

"you know life is what we make it, and a chance is like a picture, it'd be nice if you just take it"

2007-01-12 15:17:12

#7

Mason4Assassin444: retired; +552|7106|USA

I'm starting to think ripping Fancy makes dicks bigger. I thought it was an entertaining post.

2007-01-12 15:17:49

#8

Betrayal: Member; +4|7226|Florida

If this is real then you need to not argue at all. Make her think she won. Get some man. If she's ugly dump her anyways.

2007-01-12 15:23:07

#9

{uscm}Jyden: You likey leaky?; +433|7122|In You Endo- Stoke

Come on people its a joke... ever heard of sarcasm?

2007-01-12 15:53:59

#10

Donald O' Brien: Member; +104|7147

Yaocelotl wrote:
Another BS post; gg.

d4rkst4r wrote:
fake.

While I'm not making a judgment on Fancy's post, your kind of response has been done to death over the past couple of weeks in his threads. Jump off the hater bandwagon and think for yourself.

2007-01-12 15:56:28

#11

m3thod: All kiiiiiiiiinds of gainz; +2,197|7115|UK

Bollox!

Blackbelts are just whitebelts who have never quit.

2007-01-12 15:57:22

#12

UnknownRanger: Squirrels, natures little speedbump.; +610|6788|Cali

well. try just taking her on a road trip to some were nice... being in a car togther will bond relation ship cause you talk.. talk about any thing.. stop off at some random grassy fields and stand togther and just talk.. about how you want this relation ship to work out..

P.S: this is coming from a personal experince.. it worked

2007-01-12 16:00:07

#13

Deadmonkiefart: Floccinaucinihilipilificator; +177|7150

If she is such a pain you dont deserve her.

2007-01-12 16:02:48

#14

التعريفات: Squiggles; +102|6811|Cali

UnknownRanger wrote:
well. try just taking her on a road trip to some were nice... being in a car togther will bond relation ship cause you talk.. talk about any thing.. stop off at some random grassy fields and stand togther and just talk.. about how you want this relation ship to work out..

P.S: this is coming from a personal experince.. it worked

yep..

2007-01-12 16:03:15

#15

UnknownRanger: Squirrels, natures little speedbump.; +610|6788|Cali

Deadmonkiefart wrote:
If she is such a pain you dont deserve her.

Yes i agree, but being a pain is part of life that you have to life through that makes your relationship stronger.But then again if you seem you have tried every thing (even quitting being on the comp.) then i guess it is un-deserver. But is you do try everything there is to make a woman happy then i guess so.

2007-01-12 16:08:49

#16

Flaming_Maniac: prince of insufficient light; +2,490|7150|67.222.138.85

I find excel works better, women like tables.

2007-01-12 16:17:52

#17

BigmacK: Back from the Dead.; +628|7194|Chicago.

As for the apology, MSN perhaps? Maybe you can join her group and play checkers?

2007-01-12 16:22:24

#18

Stingray24: Proud member of the vast right-wing conspiracy; +1,060|6889|The Land of Scott Walker

How long have you been together and what is she complaining about? If it's over stupid and petty things I would hesitate to put your relationship in the category of failing. In my experience, relationships go through stages and sometimes, for whatever reason, two people just don't get along. Conflict can actually strengthen a relationship if it's resolved correctly. As my grandpa always said, "If you never have an argument as a couple, someone's not being honest!"

I'm much like you, non-confrontational and try to get out to defuse before I speak. After I've organized my thoughts, I usually write my wife an email, ask her to read it and think, then we get together and talk. That has never failed to resolve an argument for us. I'd say it was definitely rude that she didn't watch the whole presentation. How long should you wait? Dunno. I don't know her or her personality. If she's like my wife, she'll come back and address it at some point. I wait for her to be able to discuss it in a civil manner or I refuse to talk about it. She'll figure out she was wrong at some point. If you're committed to her, I wouldn't toss her just yet.

That road trip idea sounds good, too. It enables both of you to focus on something else, which defuses the situation a bit.

2007-01-12 16:22:58

#19

Scardaddy: Member; +37|6835|UK

Just my opinion but the fact that you had to even make a presentation outlines your problem completely, things have a way of working themselves out but if they don't then don't worry about it it wasn't meant to hope that helps

edit... can we see the presentation then?

Last edited by Scardaddy (2007-01-12 16:25:04)

2007-01-12 16:47:24

#20

ShoopDaWhoop: Banned; +53|6776

take your copypasta elsewhere

2007-01-12 16:50:01

#21

White-Fusion: Fuck; +616|6995|Scotland

UnknownRanger wrote:
well. try just taking her on a road trip to some were nice... being in a car togther will bond relation ship cause you talk.. talk about any thing.. stop off at some random grassy fields and stand togther and just talk.. about how you want this relation ship to work out..

P.S: this is coming from a personal experince.. it worked

Then do her

2007-01-12 17:12:57

#22

IBleedGravy: Member; +3|6834|Richmond

Fancy_Pollux wrote:
I haven't been posting much for the past few days because I've been having some relationship problems. My girlfriend and I have been getting into fights all the time over stupid and petty things. Just to clarify things, it's never my fault. I'm a pretty non-confrontational person. Every argument has been started by her...and most of the stuff she complains about is her own fault.

Last night was the last straw. She started up again and I didn't want to deal with it so I just walked out. I was very pissed. As soon as I got home I sat down at my computer and organized by thoughts and feelings on the matter into a Powerpoint presentation. I called her up around 8am this morning and told her to come over and that I have something to show her. I sat her down and began to present my Powerpoint. Not even 5 minutes into it she gets up and storms out of my apartment. What gets me is that this was totally unwarranted. I presented the Powerpoint very politely and professionally -- making sure not start up another argument. I think her simply storming out of the room as I'm in mid-sentence was extremely rude, especially considering I spent over an hour putting this together and am trying salvage our failing relationship. How long should I wait for her to apologize? I need some advice.

We'll if this isn't complete BS, then try the following:

1.) Don't ever make a PP presentation about the difficulties your having in a relationship - It's too cold, and calculated. It doesn't show any passion, or emotion, and women love that sort of thing.
2.) Learn to pick your battles - "Don't sweat the small stuff". (takes allot of small stuff to fill that PP deck)
3.) Maybe she sees your "non-confrontational" attitude as lack of caring. You can probably explain this to her.
4.) Women typically don't apologize. I'm pretty sure they don't know what this means.
5.) If she really matters to you, then you'll both find a way to work it out. if not, the grass is always greener...
6.) Show her a video tape of Ike Turner's greatest hits (pun intended), and I bet she'll see things differently. JK

Finally, as bad an idea as the PP deck was - I LMFAO when I saw that. I'm just surprised she didn't give you a swift shot to the nuts during your presentation.

2007-01-12 17:28:54

#23

Darky: Hi..; +71|7005|Here.

Best advice I can give is to remember 2 phrases that you'll always need regardless of the circumstance.

Yes dear. I'm sorry.

2007-01-12 20:01:38

#24

wah1188: You orrible caaaaaaan't; +321|6904|UK

No matter what you will always be wrong in an arguement, by the way I'd like to see the powerpoint!

2007-01-13 04:12:38

#25

~FuzZz~: .yag era uoy fi siht deaR; +422|6766|Orrstrayleea

well it depends what was in the powerpoint, plus a boyfriend who sums up a relationship in a powerpoint presentation deserves to get the ass. if you havent got the balls or the brains to express yourself face to face with her then you deserve the ass. sorry but its true

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