theit57
I am THE Frodo Baggins.
+124|6879|6 feet under
NOTE: ONLY HELPFUL AND RELEVENT SUGGESTIONS PLEASE!

Ok, here's the situation:

I really like this girl at school and wanna ask her out, but I kinda got a confidence problem. any ideas on how to remedy this? anything at all would be helpful
tthf
Member 5307
+210|7238|06-01
does she know you?

if she does then just go up to her after class and ask her if she would like to go have coffee and a movie the coming thursday.
if she says she's busy, then cooly say" not a problem, another time perhaps" and walk away. ask her again in a week or so.
JetSniper
R.I.P [EPIC]Pfcguinn
+113|6817

tthf wrote:

does she know you?

if she does then just go up to her after class and ask her if she would like to go have coffee and a movie the coming thursday.
if she says she's busy, then cooly say" not a problem, another time perhaps" and walk away. ask her again in a week or so.
sounds good to me.

don't sound desperate, take deep breaths, keep your hands busy like in your pockets or holding a book. and when you are talking to her look her in the eyes don't look away

good luck

don't worry if she says no. its not the end of the world. good luck again
Andoura
Got loooollllll ?
+853|7119|Montreal, Qc, Canada
I think you should take your time.... Be sure the girl likes you (ask if you want to know how), then do stuff with her (go see a movie, go somewhere take a coffee blablabla...) then you'll see if she is interested. If she is, just talk with her about the situation, be sure she feels comfortable with you. Dude you live once, you have to try. If you don't someone else will take this chance (and it happened to me once lol)
SEREMAKER
BABYMAKIN EXPERT √
+2,187|7049|Mountains of NC

when her back is toward you ........... smack her on the ass and say " You know you like it "






works every time
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theit57
I am THE Frodo Baggins.
+124|6879|6 feet under

SEREMAKER wrote:

when her back is toward you ........... smack her on the ass and say " You know you like it "






works every time
ahem:

NOTE: ONLY HELPFUL AND RELEVENT SUGGESTIONS PLEASE!
pirana6
Go Cougs!
+698|6771|Washington St.
okay this is gonna sound kinda weird but maybe it'll help you:

I'm atheist and therefor I believe that when you die there is nothingness, nothingness for the rest of time, and all eternity and that bull. Therefor we must make the most of what we have now. I know from this that I must regret nothing. I don't want to be 80 on my death bed going, "damn I shoulda asked that one chick I liked when I was 15 (or whatever age) cause who knows what woulda happened. The worst that could've happened was she said 'no' and I woulda been like 'okay whatev'. But now I'll never no and I regret it."

So just go in thinking you don't want to be 80 and regret anything.

If that helps...
chittydog
less busy
+586|7316|Kubra, Damn it!

Inviting her to go for coffee is good. Skip the movie, though. Unless you already know her pretty well, a movie is a waste of a date. You don't have any time to talk and get to know each other, so your next date will be just as awkward as the first.

First of all, do you ever talk to her now? If so, then casually ask her to grab a snack somewhere. If not, pretend you're confident (chicks dig it) and start with some line like "Hey, I know we don't normally talk, but we should go grab <some coffee/a doughnut/some ice cream/whatever> sometime".

Keep the first encounter short & sweet, just an hour or so. That way if she's not having fun, she has a chance to get out before she decides she really doesn't like you. Then you might get another chance. If she does like you, and she will, she has the option of extending it.

Be yourself.
Most importantly: listen to what she's saying!!!
aimless
Member
+166|6605|Texas
This is cool stuff.

I'm in the same situation as the OP, but I already know the girl some.
djphetal
Go Ducks.
+346|6816|Oregon
Don't think "Business."
be as polite as possible without being too formal. Formality is stale and unattractive to young women (I assume you're in your teens?). Prom = Formal. Asking girl out = Yourself.
theit57
I am THE Frodo Baggins.
+124|6879|6 feet under
dang, she was absent today. I think I'll get her # and call her and ask if she's ok. sound good?
Lieutenant_Jensen
Your cops are corrupt.
+200|6872|fåking denmark

tthf wrote:

does she know you?

if she does then just go up to her after class and ask her if she would like to go have coffee and a movie the coming thursday.
if she says she's busy, then cooly say" not a problem, another time perhaps" and walk away. ask her again in a week or so.
What he said, and look her in the eyes ..
Funky_Finny
Banned
+456|6613|Carnoustie, Scotland
If confidence is your problem then you should only really ask her out when in a blitzing mood, but not a hyper mood. This will make you feel... happier and you're more likely to go through with it. Also, you'll come over better. Don't think about what you'll say too much before you say it, otherwise you'll mix it all up, and then you just look like a babbling bafoon.

Body language is important too, pick a bright spot, and keep your arms away from your other arms, with your palms turned generally in her direction. Smile, but not too much. Try to relax your face, so you don't crease up as much. Make it so that neither of you are looking into the sun, so you don't have to squint to see each other.

I find exercising helps me feel good, so maybe ask her after P.E, but then again, your hair'd be messed

Make sure you look as good as you can, without going over the top. Also, all these other tips are good, but yeah, a movie is a waste of time (Costs a bit too! )

How old are you? How much money do you have to spend on a first date?

More advice when these questions are answered

EDIT: Calling her may sound a bit desperate, just ask her when she's back in School.

Last edited by Funky_Finny (2007-12-14 12:56:49)

Microwave
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+515|7136|Loughborough Uni / Leeds, UK

Funky_Finny wrote:

If confidence is your problem then you should only really ask her out when in a blitzing mood, but not a hyper mood. This will make you feel... happier and you're more likely to go through with it. Also, you'll come over better. Don't think about what you'll say too much before you say it, otherwise you'll mix it all up, and then you just look like a babbling bafoon.

Body language is important too, pick a bright spot, and keep your arms away from your other arms, with your palms turned generally in her direction. Smile, but not too much. Try to relax your face, so you don't crease up as much. Make it so that neither of you are looking into the sun, so you don't have to squint to see each other.

I find exercising helps me feel good, so maybe ask her after P.E, but then again, your hair'd be messed

Make sure you look as good as you can, without going over the top. Also, all these other tips are good, but yeah, a movie is a waste of time (Costs a bit too! )

How old are you? How much money do you have to spend on a first date?

More advice when these questions are answered

EDIT: Calling her may sound a bit desperate, just ask her when she's back in School.
This man....has the moves!   



Veteran I'm sensing?


(I also agree with everything he said, especially about calling her - well, not calling her!)
CDK3Y
Member
+25|6620|BEHIND YOU!

theit57 wrote:

NOTE: ONLY HELPFUL AND RELEVENT SUGGESTIONS PLEASE!

Ok, here's the situation:

I really like this girl at school and wanna ask her out, but I kinda got a confidence problem. any ideas on how to remedy this? anything at all would be helpful
Start talking to her often.....be a nice person towards her.....help out as often as possible.....buy lunch one day.......be a friend enough that SHE starts talking to you....then you go in for the kill !
CDK3Y
Member
+25|6620|BEHIND YOU!

theit57 wrote:

dang, she was absent today. I think I'll get her # and call her and ask if she's ok. sound good?
dont do that......calling her randomly willl make you look like your a stalker or something.......unless shes chill with you calling her all the time
Funky_Finny
Banned
+456|6613|Carnoustie, Scotland

james@alienware wrote:

This man....has the moves!   



Veteran I'm sensing?


(I also agree with everything he said, especially about calling her - well, not calling her!)
Believe it or not, I've been single for two years, but I have a 100% success rate for asking girls out
Obiwan
Go Cards !!
+196|7175|The Ville
Go ahead and ask her out, the worst thing she could say or do is give you a no for an answer. You will feel a lot better after you've done this.
CDK3Y
Member
+25|6620|BEHIND YOU!
OR! find another girl.....and if she really likes you, she will be jealous, then you can ditch the bait and get with the real deal =P....but that would be mean of the other girl.........maybe it would be good if she is in with you on this
Funky_Finny
Banned
+456|6613|Carnoustie, Scotland

CDK3Y wrote:

OR! find another girl.....and if she really likes you, she will be jealous, then you can ditch the bait and get with the real deal =P....but that would be mean of the other girl.........maybe it would be good if she is in with you on this
Sorry, but don't do this
_1_MAN-ARMY.19
Member
+25|6751

Funky_Finny wrote:

If confidence is your problem then you should only really ask her out when in a blitzing mood, but not a hyper mood. This will make you feel... happier and you're more likely to go through with it. Also, you'll come over better. Don't think about what you'll say too much before you say it, otherwise you'll mix it all up, and then you just look like a babbling bafoon.

Body language is important too, pick a bright spot, and keep your arms away from your other arms, with your palms turned generally in her direction. Smile, but not too much. Try to relax your face, so you don't crease up as much. Make it so that neither of you are looking into the sun, so you don't have to squint to see each other.

I find exercising helps me feel good, so maybe ask her after P.E, but then again, your hair'd be messed

Make sure you look as good as you can, without going over the top. Also, all these other tips are good, but yeah, a movie is a waste of time (Costs a bit too! )

How old are you? How much money do you have to spend on a first date?

More advice when these questions are answered

EDIT: Calling her may sound a bit desperate, just ask her when she's back in School.
Your right and ya you for sure don't want to ask a girl out over the phone/ aim ever! It makes you look weak so don't do that.
CDK3Y
Member
+25|6620|BEHIND YOU!
know what? just go for it......heres a +1 in advance
theit57
I am THE Frodo Baggins.
+124|6879|6 feet under

Funky_Finny wrote:

If confidence is your problem then you should only really ask her out when in a blitzing mood, but not a hyper mood. This will make you feel... happier and you're more likely to go through with it. Also, you'll come over better. Don't think about what you'll say too much before you say it, otherwise you'll mix it all up, and then you just look like a babbling bafoon.

Body language is important too, pick a bright spot, and keep your arms away from your other arms, with your palms turned generally in her direction. Smile, but not too much. Try to relax your face, so you don't crease up as much. Make it so that neither of you are looking into the sun, so you don't have to squint to see each other.

I find exercising helps me feel good, so maybe ask her after P.E, but then again, your hair'd be messed

Make sure you look as good as you can, without going over the top. Also, all these other tips are good, but yeah, a movie is a waste of time (Costs a bit too! )

How old are you? How much money do you have to spend on a first date?

More advice when these questions are answered

EDIT: Calling her may sound a bit desperate, just ask her when she's back in School.
Yes she does know me, and she started giving me a hug a day, then those got to a couple a day that soon got longer in time. I'm 18 and I'm pretty dang broke right now. although I do work at a pool, it hasn't opened yet, so I can't go to work yet

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