Prove your love to her...

2008-01-13 16:19:20

#1

justice: OctoPoster; +978|7226|OctoLand

Your girlfriend/wife means everything to you, you're completely in love with her.

However, you've done something to really piss her off (doesn't matter what exactly it is you've done) and she's threatening to leave you. Luckily she gives you one more chance and says:

"You have to convince me you REALLY love me, because I don't believe you do anymore"

(no this didn't happen to me, but happened to a friend of mine a couple of years back and we were talking about the best way to handle this situation, earlier tonight.)

So, what would you do if this really happened to you?

Last edited by justice (2008-01-13 16:24:25)

I know fucking karate

2008-01-13 16:20:04

#2

Klinka-Klinko: NIKE Swoosh; +101|6705|cs_connecticut‬‭

Sexes

2008-01-13 16:20:23

#3

ig: This topic seems to have no actual posts; +1,199|7007

i would never be in that position if i cared for someone that much.

2008-01-13 16:20:23

#4

Poseidon: Fudgepack DeQueef; +3,253|7022|Long Island, New York

Kill her and make a shrine to her.

2008-01-13 16:21:00

#5

deeznutz1245: Connecticut: our chimps are stealin yo' faces.; +483|6977|Connecticut

Honestly, and I don't mean to sound like a prick, but I would let her leave. Love shouldn't be stipulative to an ultimatum and you certainly can't put a time limit to prove it.

Last edited by deeznutz1245 (2008-01-13 16:21:34)

Malloy must go

2008-01-13 16:21:49

#6

d3athwi5h4: insert clever title here; +59|6998|Kickapoo

Tell her to hit the fucking road.

2008-01-13 16:23:19

#7

justice: OctoPoster; +978|7226|OctoLand

justice wrote:
you're completely in love with her.

Unlikely, you'd tell her to leave.

So answer the question.

Last edited by justice (2008-01-13 16:23:43)

I know fucking karate

2008-01-13 16:23:30

#8

xBlackPantherx: Grow up, or die; +142|6828|California

deeznutz1245 wrote:
Honestly, and I don't mean to sound like a prick, but I would let her leave. Love shouldn't be stipulative to an ultimatum and you certainly can't put a time limit to prove it.

That's true...

Sometimes. It depends on the situation.

2008-01-13 16:24:36

#9

Soldier-Of-Wasteland: Mephistopheles; +40|7141|Land of the Very Cold

That's blackmail. Fuck her. She's worthless to me if she's like that.

2008-01-13 16:24:47

#10

avman633: Member; +116|6849

I don't think love should be "proved", sort of like what deeznutz said.

2008-01-13 16:25:03

#11

dave_the_rave23: psn - do_one_ya_mug; +41|6464

go and shag her mum , film it on your mobile and post on useless junk.

2008-01-13 16:26:47

#12

LaidBackNinja: Pony Slaystation; +343|7194|Charlie One Alpha

deeznutz1245 wrote:
Honestly, and I don't mean to sound like a prick, but I would let her leave. Love shouldn't be stipulative to an ultimatum and you certainly can't put a time limit to prove it.

"If you want a vision of the future, imagine SecuROM slapping your face with its dick -- forever." -George Orwell

2008-01-13 16:28:39

#13

justice: OctoPoster; +978|7226|OctoLand

deeznutz1245 wrote:
Honestly, and I don't mean to sound like a prick, but I would let her leave. Love shouldn't be stipulative to an ultimatum and you certainly can't put a time limit to prove it.

I see what you're saying (forget the time limit, I edited that out) but if it really happened and you really did love her, and you know you've really fucked up...surely you would try and turn the situation around, she has every right to question your devotion.

I know fucking karate

2008-01-13 16:30:09

#14

SamTheMan:D: Banned; +856|6459|England

Tell her you want to start a family

2008-01-13 16:30:20

#15

LaidBackNinja: Pony Slaystation; +343|7194|Charlie One Alpha

justice wrote:
deeznutz1245 wrote:
Honestly, and I don't mean to sound like a prick, but I would let her leave. Love shouldn't be stipulative to an ultimatum and you certainly can't put a time limit to prove it.
I see what you're saying (forget the time limit, I edited that out) but if it really happened and you really did love her, and you know you've really fucked up...surely you would try and turn the situation around, she has every right to question your devotion.

I'm probably not that devoted if I did something that terrible to her. And it better be REALLY terrible or else she just needs to shut the fuck up.

"If you want a vision of the future, imagine SecuROM slapping your face with its dick -- forever." -George Orwell

2008-01-13 16:32:21

#16

KEN-JENNINGS: I am all that is MOD!; +2,993|7117|949

The key to maintaining love and compassion in a relationship is to do the exact opposite of what your topic insinuates - you don't do something for a girl to prove to her that you love her or care about her, you do stuff for your girl because you care about her. Do stuff for her that she doesn't expect or ask of you. One of the things I do that my girlfriend absolutely loves (and guarantees me loving) is that sometimes I wake up before she goes to work and leave a rose on her windshield, or maybe a card. Sometimes I send her flowers at work - shit like that is really simple but it goes such a long way in a relationship. You are showing that you care without being prompted. Plus it kind of lets her show off to her coworkers - "see, I have someone that really cares about me".

If she drops an ultimatum like that, the relationship is already over.

2008-01-13 16:33:36

#17

Catbox: forgiveness; +505|7201

buy her a new frying pan...

Love is the answer

2008-01-13 16:36:17

#18

Poseidon: Fudgepack DeQueef; +3,253|7022|Long Island, New York

[TUF]Catbox wrote:
buy her a new frying pan...

2008-01-13 16:36:45

#19

TrashBlinD: french canadians suck; +135|7127|can

KEN-JENNINGS wrote:
If she drops an ultimatum like that, the relationship is already over.

What he said.

2008-01-13 16:47:16

#20

xBlackPantherx: Grow up, or die; +142|6828|California

Soldier-Of-Wasteland wrote:
That's blackmail. Fuck her. She's worthless to me if she's like that.

How old are you? I'm just simply curious.

2008-01-13 16:49:04

#21

AllmightyOz: Member; +50|6971|United States - Ohio

Don't buy her anything. Maybe write her a poem from the heart, or apologize. Tell her to think about everything you have ever done for her, and if that doesn't prove your love, she really doesn't deserve you.

2008-01-13 17:06:47

#22

The#1Spot: Member; +105|7024|byah

buy her a kitchen tool set and tell her get back to the kitchen.

2008-01-13 17:31:45

#23

AllmightyOz: Member; +50|6971|United States - Ohio

You know what, we really need to know what happened in a nutshell. If he cheated on her, yeah it's still possible that he loves her, but that is going to be very hard for her to understand. Sometimes us guys just need a change of scenery, a different position. Girls would not understand this though, from my experience.

But he/you shouldn't have to prove everything. If he/you really loved her then there should be no doubt about your love. Actions, words, and a culmination of everything ever done should prove that. Depending on the situation, her making him/you prove love is very messed up.

We really do need to know the situation to establish the legitimacy of the proving so to speak.

2008-01-13 17:33:24

#24

GunSlinger OIF II: Banned.; +1,860|7128

"Bitch, I dont need to prove shit, kick rocks"

is exactly what I would have said. Girl like that sounds like she has self esteem issues.

2008-01-13 17:34:25

#25

GunSlinger OIF II: Banned.; +1,860|7128

KEN-JENNINGS wrote:
The key to maintaining love and compassion in a relationship is to do the exact opposite of what your topic insinuates - you don't do something for a girl to prove to her that you love her or care about her, you do stuff for your girl because you care about her. Do stuff for her that she doesn't expect or ask of you. One of the things I do that my girlfriend absolutely loves (and guarantees me loving) is that sometimes I wake up before she goes to work and leave a rose on her windshield, or maybe a card. Sometimes I send her flowers at work - shit like that is really simple but it goes such a long way in a relationship. You are showing that you care without being prompted. Plus it kind of lets her show off to her coworkers - "see, I have someone that really cares about me".

If she drops an ultimatum like that, the relationship is already over.

I posted before I read this but Im not surprised we see this the same way.

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