BF2S Forums I need help (Real life)

Tell her how u feel ask her out to dinner and stuff if everything goes well after a date or two ask her out. Girls are the ones that have to worry about pissing each other off.. just go for it man, if your friend has a prob he'll get over it as soon as he sees another hot chick or someone else gives him a little extra attention. If all else fails.. just talk to him and say hey i really like her and were goin on a few dates just dont get pissed off not doin it to spite u.

Personally i put my mates first. So I'd let a close friend do what he wants.

I'm resisting emailing coz i think that would make me seem a mouse.

It's annoying because I really wanna just talk to her. We've only known each other for bout a month.


It's...desire. Yes, that's what it is.

[E.F.L]Airwolf wrote:

Ok, here's the situation. Me and my friends have been goin out in a group every week for about a month. There's only about 5 of us. Anyway, I have my eyes on this girl, and this feelin I haven't had before for girls. Evidently, love.


It's not lust btw, she's not that hot.

So, we were drivin home and we dropped this girl off. After, one of my friends says: "you think I shud ask her out?" Being conscientious, I said : "why not m8, why not." The problem is, I really like her as well, and we're all good friends. It's just I feel that if he knew I fancied her and she went out with me, there'd always be a tension. Naturally, vice versa.


So I ask, I really wanna go out with her. I don't wanna cause any tension between us but at the same time I feel that I'll never get a second chance to ask her. What in God's name should I do?


Any serious help is really appreciated

girls like courage evidently sometime that fails us. women have a wierd ability to...since u can't remember the word right now scare us into not asking and some of them realize that so you just have to ask. as for your friend, if he is truely your frined he will still be there even if you ask her out and she rejects him and says yes to you, trust me on this one its experience talking. you just have to ask

Remember that there's more to the issue than who should ask, it's who she'll choose. The future in terms of who goes out with her rests singularly on her liking. You should work towards building affection, greater familiarity, and generally acting confident and upbeat. Get her to like you and know you.

This way, should she choose you, your friend must concede that you beat him fairly and squarely, and there's nothing he can complain about. But, having said that, there is certainly a remote chance that you may break up in the future, in which case don't let this cause a radioactive fallout between your friend and yourself. Speak to your friend before you do anything, get to know his side of the story, and don't act in a manner that is insidious and betraying.

One more point, I may be wrong but it doesn't sound like you know her particularly well. Get to know her first to see if your love has not diminished. You wouldn't buy a car without knowing its features. You wouldn't get married to someone whom you've just met over BF2s.com. So familiarise yourself with her idiosyncracies, characteristics, tastes, hobbies, habits etc before taking the plunge!

Telling your mate 'sure why not' and then going behind his back is piss-poor and you'll loose a lot of mates if you do it. You probably should have told your mate jokingly "aw man you bastard I had my eyes on her." If he's not that keen he would have backed off. Since that didn't happen and you effectivly gave him your blessing you're fucked - do not try and snipe the girl from your mate before he manages to ask her, you will loose a mate, (remember girls come and go but mates can be there for you for the rest of your life.) The collateral damage will be that your other mates will 'disown' you over the shocking lack of sportsmanship. Is this girl you barely know really worth loosing a whole bunch of friends over?

I suggest just be a really good friend, but secretly hope your mate strikes out. However depending on how good a friend your mate is it may not even be wise to be the rebound guy if it goes foul for him.

The other option, and what will probably end up best, is if you actually confide in you mate your feelings. Say you were a bit quick with your 'sure why not' and that you actually wanted to try your luck with the girl. Basicly if he's not keen or spineless or just a jolly nice guy he'll back down. If he is determined though just back off and get on with life. DO NOT BECOME EMO!
Maybe even if he is determined he'll be rejected straight away, you never know. I do suggest you talk with your mate - don't tell him you got advise from a personality on an internet forum though.

[E.F.L]Airwolf wrote:

Ok, here's the situation. Me and my friends have been goin out in a group every week for about a month. There's only about 5 of us. Anyway, I have my eyes on this girl, and this feelin I haven't had before for girls. Evidently, love.


It's not lust btw, she's not that hot.

So, we were drivin home and we dropped this girl off. After, one of my friends says: "you think I shud ask her out?" Being conscientious, I said : "why not m8, why not." The problem is, I really like her as well, and we're all good friends. It's just I feel that if he knew I fancied her and she went out with me, there'd always be a tension. Naturally, vice versa.


So I ask, I really wanna go out with her. I don't wanna cause any tension between us but at the same time I feel that I'll never get a second chance to ask her. What in God's name should I do?


Any serious help is really appreciated

Ask him the same thing! lol. At the end of the day, its down to what you feel is right, but I think you should talk to your mate about it first. TBH, good friends are hard to come by, and when you do they'll always be there for you. If you decide to ask the girl out, if he starts being a prick about it, then he's not a true friend, if he asks her n you start acting like a prick, you're not a true friend. If you are true friends you wont let a girl get in the way of it.

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