Girlfriend Predicament

2007-05-17 18:12:52

#1

Ryan: Member; +1,230|7314|Alberta, Canada

I'm in a bit of a dilemma here.

3 things to say:

1. I've went out with this girl for 2 months last year, and we broke up in December.
2. I still like her alot, and we still flirt, which doesn't seem normal.
3. She smokes, drinks, and does pot, which turns me off completely.

But I still think she is a great person aside from her 'habits'.

Is this odd to still like her and want to start dating again? Or should I let off and find some other girl?
I want good suggestions, no bullshit like "get her drunk and rape her."

Thanks guys.

2007-05-17 18:14:55

#2

Liberal-Sl@yer: Certified BF2S Asshole; +131|6927|The edge of sanity

Ryan wrote:
I'm in a bit of a dilemma here.

3 things to say:

1. I've went out with this girl for 2 months last year, and we broke up in December.
2. I still like her alot, and we still flirt, which doesn't seem normal.
3. She smokes, drinks, and does pot, which turns me off completely.

But I still think she is a great person aside from her 'habits'.

Is this odd to still like her and want to start dating again? Or should I let off and find some other girl?
I want good suggestions, no bullshit like "get her drunk and rape her."

Thanks guys.

Its normal for some relationships to be on/off type relationships. So yea its fine to try and date her agian

2007-05-17 18:15:01

#3

GunSlinger OIF II: Banned.; +1,860|7115

let her do what she wants to do dude. you cant control another human being. whatever you do though, do not let her influence the things you wanna do. the stupid, simple decisions you make now will haunt you for the rest of your life. tell her your not with that shit, dont do it around you.

2007-05-17 18:16:17

#4

trippy982: Member; +34|6869

Are you planning for this to be a long term thing?

2007-05-17 18:18:50

#5

Ryan: Member; +1,230|7314|Alberta, Canada

trippy982 wrote:
Are you planning for this to be a long term thing?

No. I'm only 15. It's not like I wanna marry her.
I just like her alot.

And Gunslinger, you're right. If I do date her, I'll just tell her not to smoke or drink around me.
Sure, when I'm older she can drink with me, but at 15? I don't think so. Too early for me.

And I definitely won't start smoking or drinking just because she does.

2007-05-17 18:19:00

#6

Yaocelotl: :D; +221|7121|Keyboard

Yeah, I remember that; try talking to her and explain that you like her a lot and you don't want her to do those things (smoking pot and such) because they are bad for her. Don't push on her, pushing her will only result in her refusal to you. I wish you luck with her, and if things don't come like you want to there are always more girls and maybe better than she in every possible way.

2007-05-17 18:19:22

#7

Hurricane: Banned; +1,153|7101|Washington, DC

Tell her to quit doing those nasty habits, and back up that command with a firm "I know the War Czar..."

2007-05-17 18:22:43

#8

GunSlinger OIF II: Banned.; +1,860|7115

Ryan wrote:
trippy982 wrote:
Are you planning for this to be a long term thing?
No. I'm only 15. It's not like I wanna marry her.
I just like her alot.

And Gunslinger, you're right. If I do date her, I'll just tell her not to smoke or drink around me.
Sure, when I'm older she can drink with me, but at 15? I don't think so. Too early for me.

And I definitely won't start smoking or drinking just because she does.

you got a good head on your shoulders man. its rare to see a 15 year old cat think that way. you might feel moments of weakness but charlie mike! (continue mission)

2007-05-17 18:22:51

#9

HeavyMetalDave: Metal Godz; +107|7129|California

Been there...

1983...

Looking back it was a big waste of time... and reputation.

RUN!

There's millions of fish in the sea.

I'm guessing ur young.. so at this stage in your life.. find one more like you.

"Trust your feelings Luke." Ben Kenobi - Star Wars

2007-05-17 18:25:30

#10

burton: Member; +9|6891|Da Bay, California

to show her you like her go out n buy a trey sac n smoke her out.

2007-05-17 18:26:35

#11

Flaming_Maniac: prince of insufficient light; +2,490|7178|67.222.138.85

Her "habits" are part of her personality, they reflect who she is.

2007-05-17 18:28:11

#12

JoeJr: Member; +1|6753|U.S.A

look dude keep your head going in the right track.you'll still young...go for it you only live once..

2007-05-17 18:28:50

#13

Ryan: Member; +1,230|7314|Alberta, Canada

Flaming_Maniac wrote:
Her "habits" are part of her personality, they reflect who she is.

So you are saying because she is a stoner and drinking booze that she acts like a stoner and an alcoholic?

No, she doesn't actually. She's really nice.

2007-05-17 18:29:28

#14

Deadmonkiefart: Floccinaucinihilipilificator; +177|7177

Not unless you can make her stop smoking, doing illegal drugs and drinking. No relationship can survive if someone is abusing drugs. If you can't, tell her to give you a call when she quits. Either that, or you will slowly be pulled down with her when things turn ugly, which they will. No matter how long it takes(1-5yrs max), she will either quit, or be killed by her habits.

2007-05-17 18:32:06

#15

Ryan: Member; +1,230|7314|Alberta, Canada

Deadmonkiefart wrote:
Not unless you can make her stop smoking, doing illegal drugs and drinking. No relationship can survive if someone is abusing drugs. If you can't, tell her to give you a call when she quits. Either that, or you will slowly be pulled down with her when things turn ugly, which they will. No matter how long it takes(1-5yrs max), she will either quit, or be killed by her habits.

She says that weed is just an herb and it isn't bad for you.
I don't think she will get killed by using the drugs, but maybe from a DUI driver at a late night party.

It's gunna be hard to tell her to stop smoking cigarettes and weed though.
It's because of her friends she hangs out. They are the ones that got her into this.

So I'm thinking the only way for her to stop is for her to make new friends, which wouldn't be right.

And I'm not letting drugs and booze bring me down. If she wants to break up with me because i won't smoke and drink, then that's her problem.

Last edited by Ryan (2007-05-17 18:33:21)

2007-05-17 18:32:10

#16

Poseidon: Fudgepack DeQueef; +3,253|7009|Long Island, New York

stick it in her p---okay i'm not going to bring /b/ onto BF2s

Dude, there's PLENTY of other people. If she does that shit that turns you off it's not worth it. Find the right one.

2007-05-17 18:33:25

#17

RedTwizzler: I do it for the lulz.; +124|7008|Chicago

If you like her as much as you say, her "habits" shouldn't really matter, should they? Let her do what she wants.

Oh, and get her drunk and rape her.

2007-05-17 18:33:45

#18

GunSlinger OIF II: Banned.; +1,860|7115

what ever you do man, dont try to be the one to save her from the error of her ways. I personally think thats the wrong direction.

2007-05-17 18:34:30

#19

Ryan: Member; +1,230|7314|Alberta, Canada

Poseidon wrote:
stick it in her p---okay i'm not going to bring /b/ onto BF2s

Dude, there's PLENTY of other people. If she does that shit that turns you off it's not worth it. Find the right one.

Well not in my case.
She was my first real girlfriend, and the other girl I really liked moved away. I really can't find anyone else. Seriously.

GunSlinger OIF II wrote:
what ever you do man, dont try to be the one to save her from the error of her ways. I personally think thats the wrong direction.

If she likes doing it, so be it, I'll let her do it. I'll just tell her how bad it is for her and maybe she'll stop. Who knows.

Last edited by Ryan (2007-05-17 18:35:54)

2007-05-17 18:36:35

#20

GunSlinger OIF II: Banned.; +1,860|7115

give it time dude. dont settle for this chick just because thats what you think. always, ALWAYS remember

https://www.straighttohell.it/uploads/images_db/mans.jpg

2007-05-17 18:40:30

#21

Flaming_Maniac: prince of insufficient light; +2,490|7178|67.222.138.85

Ryan wrote:
Flaming_Maniac wrote:
Her "habits" are part of her personality, they reflect who she is.
So you are saying because she is a stoner and drinking booze that she acts like a stoner and an alcoholic?

No, she doesn't actually. She's really nice.

No, I'm saying at the very least she is very susceptible to peer pressure, and at most has very poor decision making abilities.

2007-05-17 18:41:15

#22

Ryan: Member; +1,230|7314|Alberta, Canada

Flaming_Maniac wrote:
Ryan wrote:
Flaming_Maniac wrote:
Her "habits" are part of her personality, they reflect who she is.
So you are saying because she is a stoner and drinking booze that she acts like a stoner and an alcoholic?

No, she doesn't actually. She's really nice.
No, I'm saying at the very least she is very susceptible to peer pressure, and at most has very poor decision making abilities.

True.

2007-05-17 18:43:17

#23

The Stillhouse Kid: Licensed Televulcanologist; +126|7113|Deep In The South Of Texas

Talk to her and make it clear that you would still like to date her if she didn't drink and do dope, and leave it at that. Then go about your life and let her make up her mind. If she chooses the dope over you, forget about her, don't waste your time.

2007-05-17 18:45:11

#24

Ryan: Member; +1,230|7314|Alberta, Canada

But thats another thing, would she wanna go out with me if I asked her?

2007-05-17 18:47:15

#25

Slickdawg8: Visit TAW.NET; +58|7249|Long Island

Ryan wrote:
But thats another thing, would she wanna go out with me if I asked her?

Well, you never know until you try. You said you still flirt with her and such, so she probably will.

oh, and just so you know, i am 15 also so we are on the same pace i guess lol

Last edited by Slickdawg8 (2007-05-17 18:47:45)

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