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If this is his first time to do something like this, the I would ground him, explain to him why he is grounded and why what he did was wrong.  Taking away any of his movies and games that might have foul language in them might help, but if he had already been exposed to them before this incident then there are good odds that they aren't the source of the problem.

If he does it again, than I might suggest something along the lines of grounding and spanking.  I know that a lot of people these days are against physical punishment, but for some kids pain is the only thing that will truly get the message across.

I think perhaps the more important less here for your lad is not perhaps the swearing issue (although I see your concerns and feel that the trouble he has gotten into already may be enough for him to learn his lesson) but that he should not do something that he almost certainly knows is wrong or doesn't want to do, just because someone tries to pressure him into it. And finally that he realises that he should not associate with the snitching fool in the future...

Kids will learn dirty words anyway, no use trying to stop it.

Should, however, teach him WHEN to swear, and how to do it properly.

I never cursed because the only people who I knew who cured were idiots, and I didn't want to sound like them.  Just tell him that people curse when they want attention, like to make something sound important, or a big deal. 
Respectable people don't need to curse to get people to listen to them.  Notice well respected adults don't curse very much at all...

Show him the South Park movie.

A good spanking never hurt anyone.  Worked on me and I learned right and wrong.  The first time, I'd be told not to say what he said and only get grounded.  Ignorance is valid the first time.  If I asked why at 7, it's because he said so.  He's my Dad and the wooden spoon will meet my butt if I do it again.  I don't like stinging butt cheeks so I don't curse.  When I was older I'd lose privileges if I disobeyed.  A combination of the two might work here.

I'd go with the deprivation/rewards tactic. No Playstation in exchange for acceptance of the rules. In theory it should always work as long as you punish with something that really means something to the kid. In Ireland swearing is part and parcel of the way we speak the English language but my parents drummed into me a 'no swearing' policy that worked so well that nowadays, as an adult, I feel I can't swear in front of my parents and even more oddly in front of my brothers!!!

Back when I was at primary school the teacher used a) intimidation to curb bad behaviour and if that didn't work b) violence. She used to get every single person in the entire classroom to point at the person who had made the mistake or done something bad and get them all to chant 'OWIOWIOWI...' repeatedly, which for a 6 year old is a little intimidating. She'd then move on to putting you in the corner of the classroom facing into the corner. Finally she'd break out her ruler and rap you edgewise across the palm of your hand (strictly speaking illegal).

Things got even better after Naionáin Móra class. The headmaster used to use an ash branch stripped off bark as a rod to beat you with. Oddly enough he 'retired' citing a 'bad heart' just as allegations of child molestation surfaced about him.... hmmmm.

Last edited by CameronPoe (2007-05-31 10:45:13)

What is the point of not letting curse at 7 but letting them do it at 18?  My parents told me off when I was younger but now they don't because I'm an adult, I don't get it...

Swearing, such an interesting topic.

Firstly to anyone who refuses to swear, Why the f*ck not? The whole point of these words is to express yourself. They are a useful way to express strong emotions.

Secondly, to people who swear all the time, you're also removing your ability to usefully convey messages of extreme emotion by repeatedly using them in inappropriate situations.

As far as kids go, Tell them some of the common swear words you think they're likely to hear, what they mean and why they shouldn't be used on a regular basis. One of the reasons kids are so attracted to things like swearing is because they are'naughty' and therefore 'exciting'. One of the parts of growing up in a society is to push boundaries to see where the acceptable limits are. If your kids know what swear words are and what they mean it'll remove some alot of the interest in them. Personally the main reason for me not swearing when I want to is other people getting annoyed about it. Don't swear in school as it will get you in trouble is a pretty easy lesson to learn.

PureFodder wrote:

Swearing, such an interesting topic.

Firstly to anyone who refuses to swear, Why the f*ck not? The whole point of these words is to express yourself. They are a useful way to express strong emotions.

Secondly, to people who swear all the time, you're also removing your ability to usefully convey messages of extreme emotion by repeatedly using them in inappropriate situations.

As far as kids go, Tell them some of the common swear words you think they're likely to hear, what they mean and why they shouldn't be used on a regular basis. One of the reasons kids are so attracted to things like swearing is because they are'naughty' and therefore 'exciting'. One of the parts of growing up in a society is to push boundaries to see where the acceptable limits are. If your kids know what swear words are and what they mean it'll remove some alot of the interest in them. Personally the main reason for me not swearing when I want to is other people getting annoyed about it. Don't swear in school as it will get you in trouble is a pretty easy lesson to learn.

Swearing continuously in all types of situations conveys a lack of tact and even intelligence in my opinion. there's a time and a place for all types of language. To this day I do not swear in front of my mother and only really swear in front of my father if I'm telling him a joke that has swearing in it.

My girlfriend works in early childhood education, I suggest you explain to the kid why it's not right to swear in certain situations and make sure you don't swear in front of him yourself otherwise he'll never understand. A small but meaningful punishment (seen as he's a first time offender) will reinforce his sense of right and wrong.

Hmm - I'd like to see some of the gaming rules enforced. I don't like seeing 10 year olds playing GTA, let alone 7year olds. And furthermore, cut a few TV programs off the list - like Big Brother xD
The first time I swore was around that age, but I whispered it into a friend's ear and laughed about it (I learned 'fuck' around that age - conversation I listened into) - but I think for the kid to have enough courage to say it out loud, someone must not be doing his job right.

-konfusion

find solutions for this while ignoring the 'cuss words' that were said.

People need to remember the context in which the word was said. In this case you should just punish the child for being disrespectful. And tell the kid that cussing At people isn't a good thing.