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play an instrument or a sport, being better than someone at something is a great self-esteem booster.
And if you're worried what other people think of you, just keep this in mind: Fuck them, they're probably stupid anyway.
And if you're worried what other people think of you, just keep this in mind: Fuck them, they're probably stupid anyway.
Egg someones house with a couple of friends, that boosts your adrenaline up like nothing cause your running for the truck as fucking fast as possible so you wont get caught.
in all seriousness, get involved in acting. I joined theater in my junior year of high school and did it all through college, and it helped me more than anything else.
Performing on stage, theater is best, but in the band, or dance or karate...that's what gives you self-confidence.
Performing on stage, theater is best, but in the band, or dance or karate...that's what gives you self-confidence.
one word..... agression!
no matter what the mood/situation apply a "loud" assertiveness and then its all good
no matter what the mood/situation apply a "loud" assertiveness and then its all good
.... I don't know what kind of assholic advice everyone else is giving you but the true way to fix anything isn't to look outward but to look at yourself.
Be compassionate about everybody, If they try to screw you over forgive them and realize that their lifes are probably worse than yours and feel sorry but willing to help them.
I say this because usually people have no confidence because they are ether scared of being not liked or betrayed in some sort of way.
Be compassionate about everybody, If they try to screw you over forgive them and realize that their lifes are probably worse than yours and feel sorry but willing to help them.
I say this because usually people have no confidence because they are ether scared of being not liked or betrayed in some sort of way.
man, ever since you went Buddhist, your posts are really deep <3 lollavadisk wrote:
.... I don't know what kind of assholic advice everyone else is giving you but the true way to fix anything isn't to look outward but to look at yourself.
Be compassionate about everybody, If they try to screw you over forgive them and realize that their lifes are probably worse than yours and feel sorry but willing to help them.
I say this because usually people have no confidence because they are ether scared of being not liked or betrayed in some sort of way.
Thank you.Canadianloser wrote:
man, ever since you went Buddhist, your posts are really deep <3 lollavadisk wrote:
.... I don't know what kind of assholic advice everyone else is giving you but the true way to fix anything isn't to look outward but to look at yourself.
Be compassionate about everybody, If they try to screw you over forgive them and realize that their lifes are probably worse than yours and feel sorry but willing to help them.
I say this because usually people have no confidence because they are ether scared of being not liked or betrayed in some sort of way.
Kill everyone that intimidates you?
EDIT: Unless it's a girl you like then i dunno save her from something?
EDIT: Unless it's a girl you like then i dunno save her from something?
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Isn't that the theme for Battlefield Heroes? It should be because they both sound really cheesy.Flaming_Maniac wrote:
Words to live by.
..What?Shaguart wrote:
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no but really... Ask a girl out, or something. its hard to say because i dont know much about you.
But if your a quiet type person and dont have much friends (not making fun just saying) then try and get out of ur shell and do something fun.
I don't see those ads.
AdBlock ftw.
Confidence from self-improvement. Work out a bit. Take up a hobby you can improve in. Read self-help books. Find inspirational rock music and listen to it whenever you feel down. Maybe grow your hair out.
Ummm... NO.. The key is not to obsess over winning everything. People who do that tend to end up one of two ways:Flaming_Maniac wrote:
Words to live by.
A Complete breakdowns who criticize every action they take as failure.
B Hugely successful people who believe they are infallible.
Focus on your interests, however few they may be. If you are willing to work hard, and happen to be skilled, you can strive to win. You just have to break it down and look at the significance of the particular aspect you feel you are lacking in the grand scheme of things. I don't have to worry about any of this though. My capacity for cold reason and logical thought leads me to delude myself into thinking I really am better than anyone else. The ability to deduce the best course of action in any situation is more important than anything else I can think of. I figure that the most important aspect of ones life is not how well one accomplishes certain goals, but whether they are the best goals to be working towards in the first place, and how well you should be doing versus how well you are actually performing. For instance, I would hold a Janitor who does his job to the best of his ability in higher regard than a corrupt government official. However, a corrupt government official deserves less respect than an incredibly skilled hacker who steals electronic funds from banks. The hacker is not doing any good for anybody, and in fact deserves less respect than the janitor, even though most people would not look at it this way. A janitor who lives his whole life honorably is truly someone to respect. He may not have the intelligence or the strength to occupy a higher paying position, but he lived by moral standards and did the best he could. I apologize if you lack the mental capacity to comprehend the meaning of my post. Just remember it's not that important!
Grow your... hair out?Skorpy-chan wrote:
Confidence from self-improvement. Work out a bit. Take up a hobby you can improve in. Read self-help books. Find inspirational rock music and listen to it whenever you feel down. Maybe grow your hair out.
Get out of your comfort zone and push yourself. Thinking and doing are two different things.
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one question sort of on topic,
Someone i know is a total fuckwit, but its impossible for me to keep away from them, due to a family member. a few days ago i went right off at him called him names and basically told him to get the fuck out of my house.
today i went to him and apologised but i was still firm with my opinion and told him im not going to take shit from him anymore ( not in those words but thats the general thing)
do you think i did the right thing?
Someone i know is a total fuckwit, but its impossible for me to keep away from them, due to a family member. a few days ago i went right off at him called him names and basically told him to get the fuck out of my house.
today i went to him and apologised but i was still firm with my opinion and told him im not going to take shit from him anymore ( not in those words but thats the general thing)
do you think i did the right thing?
I take it you always looseDeadmonkiefart wrote:
Ummm... NO.. The key is not to obsess over winning everything. People who do that tend to end up one of two ways:Flaming_Maniac wrote:
Words to live by.
A Complete breakdowns who criticize every action they take as failure.
B Hugely successful people who believe they are infallible.
Focus on your interests, however few they may be. If you are willing to work hard, and happen to be skilled, you can strive to win. You just have to break it down and look at the significance of the particular aspect you feel you are lacking in the grand scheme of things. I don't have to worry about any of this though. My capacity for cold reason and logical thought leads me to delude myself into thinking I really am better than anyone else. The ability to deduce the best course of action in any situation is more important than anything else I can think of. I figure that the most important aspect of ones life is not how well one accomplishes certain goals, but whether they are the best goals to be working towards in the first place, and how well you should be doing versus how well you are actually performing. For instance, I would hold a Janitor who does his job to the best of his ability in higher regard than a corrupt government official. However, a corrupt government official deserves less respect than an incredibly skilled hacker who steals electronic funds from banks. The hacker is not doing any good for anybody, and in fact deserves less respect than the janitor, even though most people would not look at it this way. A janitor who lives his whole life honorably is truly someone to respect. He may not have the intelligence or the strength to occupy a higher paying position, but he lived by moral standards and did the best he could. I apologize if you lack the mental capacity to comprehend the meaning of my post. Just remember it's not that important!
Don't give a shit what other people think of you.
Why should you care what randoms think of you? The only important people in your life (mates, family, gf etc.) like you for who you are anyway.
Why should you care what randoms think of you? The only important people in your life (mates, family, gf etc.) like you for who you are anyway.
I am with this guy ^^Dersmikner wrote:
Only one thing can give you confidence. Accomplishments.
It doesn't matter if you're tall, short, skinny, fat, rich, poor, funny or droll. What gives you a sense of pride, and the accompanying self-confidence, is the knowledge that you have accomplished something.
I've known plenty of people who were rich because Daddy gave them money, and they weren't self-confident. They KNEW they hadn't earned it. I've known plenty of people who were this, that, or the other but if they didn't create something, build something, achieve something, they had no confidence.
Go out and climb a 14,000 peak. See if that doesn't give you some self-confidence. Try sky-diving. You do that once and you won't give a good shit what some 6'2" tall super-model looking ground hugging pussy boy thinks. Make straight "A"s for a year or two and tell me you won't feel good about yourself.
Skip the computer, skip drinking, skip fucking around and accomplishing nothing. Set yourself a goal, running a marathon, reading 5 classics and understanding them, acting in a local troupe for a season, hiking a killer trail, 100 averages in all your classes for 6 weeks, and then accomplish your goal. That and that alone will give you true inner self-confidence. Once you've done that you can do all the fucking around and drinking and playing BF2 you want.
I'm short (5'8"), slightly (and I mean slightly) above average in looks, and probably no more athletic than your average 40 year old white guy, but I am confident because I know if I lost it all tomorrow I could do it again. I KNOW that I can set myself a goal and do what it takes to reach that goal. Start learning how to do that, and the self-confidence will come. Deciding to do something and actually doing it will make you see yourself in a new light, and once that light is on, only you can let it go out. You'll develop faith in yourself when you've proven to yourself that you are a winner. Once you've got that faith in yourself, you'll be too busy kicking ass to have time to take names.