SharkyMcshark
I'll take two
+132|7266|Perth, Western Australia
I'll preface this by stating that I used to not see the point in these threads. So you know, it's deep shit and stuff that I'm doing it. Or something.

Anyway, so there's this girl I like right (there always is isn't there). We're quite good friends (almost painfully entrenched in the friend zone as it were). We used to be worst of enemies but we kinda changed to a love hate type thing and now, seeing as school, which was the catalyst for the hate (competition) we're just really good friends.

We've hung out together a fair bit since school came to an end forevar last year. We've even been out on a few 'quasi dates' - nice clothes, nice restaurant, movie, evening, just the two of us. Anyway that was all a few months ago, and we haven't been socialising or talking on the phone as much recently because her work and my uni has been a bit of a shitstorm. Recently she's been having some personal issues because she's been having a tough time at work, and she confided in me that I'm the only one who has called out of the three close friends she has from her school days to ask her how she's been going.

Anyway her work eases off next week and amongst other things, such as paintball and seeing the Chaser Live, we organised to see Drillbit Taylor, a movie by her favourite director, and have dinner together. The twist this time is that afterwards apparently we're going to go to one of our houses, with a bottle of Absinthe (some mind numbingly hallucinogenic alcohol) and watch TV series (don't know which, but my preference is Black Books - hilarious when drunk apparently) on DVD into the early hours of the morning followed presumably by some kind of collapse and then a taxi/drive home in the morning. Together.

So yeah. Tipzors. It's not that I'm looking to conform to some set structure or anything, I'm just wandering seeing as I've not really been in this kind of situation before.

Educate me.
Parker
isteal
+1,452|6874|The Gem Saloon
hhhmmmm.

dont make the move when she is fucked up. too many ways for that to go wrong.


as a matter of fact, i wouldnt really ever fuck with drunk girls, cause of HOW many ways it could go bad....if you really care for her.


make the move man, while she is sober.....while both of you are sober.
listen, you have to stick with your instincts when it comes to shit like this....go with your gut feeling, and do it AS SOON AS YOU GET THE FEELING.
dont wait around for shit to happen, but i think you already know that.
mtb0minime
minimember
+2,418|7135

Her favorite director is the guy who did Drillbit Taylor??? That movie looks shite tbh. Never talk to her again, save yourself a lot of pain!

Ok, for reals now. You guys are gonna be drinking and hanging out late at someone's place. Time to get fresh with her Take it slow, make a few moves here and there. If she wants to go all the way, and you want to too, then go for it! Just make sure you don't rush it or force anything on her. She's going through a tough time and maybe she doesn't see this "date" in the same way you do, so pressuring her will only make her more stressed, and that's not what she needs.
1927
The oldest chav in the world
+2,423|7154|Cardiff, Capital of Wales
Well my child, you have done the right thing by coming to us, thats half of your problem solved.

I had a similar situation once before, all my mates told me she liked me, I liked her, I pulled her but bottled it that night.  Next day she spent all day in my bed but I thought to myself "I like her so I wont try and slip her one" so I didnt.  I have always regretted it since.

I did take her out midweek the following Weds but to a shitty amusement arcade, she drove her soft top (convertible) but didnt come into the arcade.  All my mates ripped the piss outta me saying "Why didnt you take her for a meal or something" but she did have big teeth and I would have to pull some green thing from them if we were eating as I got manners.  Wasn't a complete disaster and I had the last laugh.

Cost me £10 but I got my name etched into Ridge Racer 4's history.

So my advice to you, try and rattle and if she takes offence blame the booze.

Whats the best excuse for a mistake? Alcohol and it sounds you got one hell of a get out clause in Abasinthe.  You make a move, she backs off apologise and get her even more drunk, errghhh I mean blame the drink.
Locoloki
I got Mug 222 at Gritty's!!!!
+216|7120|Your moms bedroom
yea, look over at her during a lull in the movie and if she makes prolonged eye contact, go for it.... if you end up having to watch the movie again, that is a good thing.

then hit the booze and go nuts
Criminal
yo shut the fuck up charles
+20|7117
both of you get shwasted and then just wait for her to come on to you if you are too scared.
SharkyMcshark
I'll take two
+132|7266|Perth, Western Australia

mtb0minime wrote:

Her favorite director is the guy who did Drillbit Taylor??? T
Haha my bad I meant her favourite director is the guy who WROTE Drillbit Taylor (John Hughes who directed Ferris Bueller and The Breakfast Club - ie boring movies with no explosions or car chases!)

mtb0minime wrote:

Ok, for reals now. You guys are gonna be drinking and hanging out late at someone's place.
Oh yeah and by "someone's place" what I meant to convey is that we would pick either my place or her place...

Yeah I should probably re read that OP before I post next time to make sure it makes sense
Parker
isteal
+1,452|6874|The Gem Saloon

Criminal wrote:

both of you get shwasted and then just wait for her to come on to you if you are too scared.
spoken like a true virgin lol.

is that how all the "thugs" get girls?
mtb0minime
minimember
+2,418|7135

SharkyMcshark wrote:

mtb0minime wrote:

Her favorite director is the guy who did Drillbit Taylor??? T
Haha my bad I meant her favourite director is the guy who WROTE Drillbit Taylor (John Hughes who directed Ferris Bueller and The Breakfast Club - ie boring movies with no explosions or car chases!)

mtb0minime wrote:

Ok, for reals now. You guys are gonna be drinking and hanging out late at someone's place.
Oh yeah and by "someone's place" what I meant to convey is that we would pick either my place or her place...

Yeah I should probably re read that OP before I post next time to make sure it makes sense
Ah ok, John Hughes = win. So she's alright, mate!

Oh and I understood what you meant. I meant "someone's place" as in either yours or hers.
LaidBackNinja
Pony Slaystation
+343|7189|Charlie One Alpha

Parker wrote:

hhhmmmm.

dont make the move when she is fucked up. too many ways for that to go wrong.


as a matter of fact, i wouldnt really ever fuck with drunk girls, cause of HOW many ways it could go bad....if you really care for her.


make the move man, while she is sober.....while both of you are sober.
listen, you have to stick with your instincts when it comes to shit like this....go with your gut feeling, and do it AS SOON AS YOU GET THE FEELING.
dont wait around for shit to happen, but i think you already know that.
This is some solid advice right here.
"If you want a vision of the future, imagine SecuROM slapping your face with its dick -- forever." -George Orwell
^*AlphA*^
F*ckers
+3,135|7218|The Hague, Netherlands

1927 wrote:

Well my child, you have done the right thing by coming to us, thats half of your problem solved.

I had a similar situation once before, all my mates told me she liked me, I liked her, I pulled her but bottled it that night.  Next day she spent all day in my bed but I thought to myself "I like her so I wont try and slip her one" so I didnt.  I have always regretted it since.

I did take her out midweek the following Weds but to a shitty amusement arcade, she drove her soft top (convertible) but didnt come into the arcade.  All my mates ripped the piss outta me saying "Why didnt you take her for a meal or something" but she did have big teeth and I would have to pull some green thing from them if we were eating as I got manners.  Wasn't a complete disaster and I had the last laugh.

Cost me £10 but I got my name etched into Ridge Racer 4's history.

So my advice to you, try and rattle and if she takes offence blame the booze.

Whats the best excuse for a mistake? Alcohol and it sounds you got one hell of a get out clause in Abasinthe.  You make a move, she backs off apologise and get her even more drunk, errghhh I mean blame the drink.
good point brother 7,

if it goes wrong blame the drinks, it it goes correct blame yourself, if nothing happens blame her, if the earth fails blame us...
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1927
The oldest chav in the world
+2,423|7154|Cardiff, Capital of Wales

^*AlphA*^ wrote:

1927 wrote:

Well my child, you have done the right thing by coming to us, thats half of your problem solved.

I had a similar situation once before, all my mates told me she liked me, I liked her, I pulled her but bottled it that night.  Next day she spent all day in my bed but I thought to myself "I like her so I wont try and slip her one" so I didnt.  I have always regretted it since.

I did take her out midweek the following Weds but to a shitty amusement arcade, she drove her soft top (convertible) but didnt come into the arcade.  All my mates ripped the piss outta me saying "Why didnt you take her for a meal or something" but she did have big teeth and I would have to pull some green thing from them if we were eating as I got manners.  Wasn't a complete disaster and I had the last laugh.

Cost me £10 but I got my name etched into Ridge Racer 4's history.

So my advice to you, try and rattle and if she takes offence blame the booze.

Whats the best excuse for a mistake? Alcohol and it sounds you got one hell of a get out clause in Abasinthe.  You make a move, she backs off apologise and get her even more drunk, errghhh I mean blame the drink.
good point brother 7,

if it goes wrong blame the drinks, it it goes correct blame yourself, if nothing happens blame her, if the earth fails blame us...
Thank you Brother Alpha may the god of love be with you this fine afternoon. (I can't because I'm here in the UK of course)

Its such a shame we have to use the word "Blame" but I feel it is a good word but if people can live their lives without having to feel the need to blame they may just relax a little as I do on weekends.  It is nearly the time to "Rock out with your cock out" as Friday is upon us.

I feel Parker has hit the right note with "do it AS SOON AS YOU GET THE FEELING" but that advice has often got me in trouble with British Transport Police as on the way to meet a girl or not there are certain things you can and can't do on a train.  Wasn't my fault as I was excited.

The OP has put everything in place I feel for a success.  The vunerable girl, The booze, The Location, even a film to "soften" her up but I wonder if the Director called "Drillbit" infact does adult movies?
SharkyMcshark
I'll take two
+132|7266|Perth, Western Australia
OK so just to clarify these three things

1. She's a stage actor and the said work difficulties have arisen from her busy production schedule (play's run ends tomorrow though, hence the work part easing off next week).

2. I suppose the part that I'm having trouble wrapping my head around is the like... well obviously being at someone that you like's house early into the morning, or indeed staying the night (haven't quite worked out which it is yet) has certain implications as it were - especially when you add the mind bending alcohol into the mix.

3. If this was just another girl who'd asked me to indulge in a private drinking session in the wee hours of the morning with her I probably would need 1927 and co for guidance. I only ask because this is the one girl that I know that I have deeper feelings for as it were, so I'm seeking second opinion before adopting a Just Do It (NIKE tm) attitude.
bennisboy
Member
+829|7127|Poundland
Be wary about you being at uni. If your not at uni with the girl and you do start going out, it is very hard to make it last. All my mates that went to uni when their relationship hadnt been going that long have broken up with their gf/bf or been broken up with. The thing with uni, is the whole ideal is to get a fair bit of action, and even if you dont intend to cheat, it inevitably happens.

Altho it seems like she might live near to where you go to uni? If thats true it shouldnt be a problem.

If she's agreed to the quasi-dates, then it seems like she's probably ready for a few "real" ones. GL
Mitch
16 more years
+877|7006|South Florida
Blah i don't know what to tell you man, there's so many girl advice threads now days it's kinda getting boring saying the same thing, just use your logic seriously...

It's not hard to sound like a pro when your giving advice.

If she looks like she wants to fuck, try and make a move.
If she doesn't. Then don't.

/Thread?
15 more years! 15 more years!
1927
The oldest chav in the world
+2,423|7154|Cardiff, Capital of Wales

Mitch wrote:

/Thread?
Hope not as I for one would like to know what advice he took ,if any and how it went and what marks out of 10 he gives her, if able
Ryan
Member
+1,230|7323|Alberta, Canada

SharkyMcshark wrote:

Anyway her work eases off next week and amongst other things, such as paintball and seeing the Chaser Live, we organised to see Drillbit Taylor, a movie by her favourite director, and have dinner together. The twist this time is that afterwards apparently we're going to go to one of our houses, with a bottle of Absinthe (some mind numbingly hallucinogenic alcohol) and watch TV series (don't know which, but my preference is Black Books - hilarious when drunk apparently) on DVD into the early hours of the morning followed presumably by some kind of collapse and then a taxi/drive home in the morning. Together.
^*AlphA*^
F*ckers
+3,135|7218|The Hague, Netherlands

Ryan wrote:

SharkyMcshark wrote:

Anyway her work eases off next week and amongst other things, such as paintball and seeing the Chaser Live, we organised to see Drillbit Taylor, a movie by her favourite director, and have dinner together. The twist this time is that afterwards apparently we're going to go to one of our houses, with a bottle of Absinthe (some mind numbingly hallucinogenic alcohol) and watch TV series (don't know which, but my preference is Black Books - hilarious when drunk apparently) on DVD into the early hours of the morning followed presumably by some kind of collapse and then a taxi/drive home in the morning. Together.
ryan... ryan...
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Ryan
Member
+1,230|7323|Alberta, Canada

^*AlphA*^ wrote:

Ryan wrote:

SharkyMcshark wrote:

Anyway her work eases off next week and amongst other things, such as paintball and seeing the Chaser Live, we organised to see Drillbit Taylor, a movie by her favourite director, and have dinner together. The twist this time is that afterwards apparently we're going to go to one of our houses, with a bottle of Absinthe (some mind numbingly hallucinogenic alcohol) and watch TV series (don't know which, but my preference is Black Books - hilarious when drunk apparently) on DVD into the early hours of the morning followed presumably by some kind of collapse and then a taxi/drive home in the morning. Together.
Ok, I'll stop
^*AlphA*^
F*ckers
+3,135|7218|The Hague, Netherlands

Ryan wrote:

^*AlphA*^ wrote:

Ryan wrote:


Ok, I'll stop
guess it was his secret message?

anyway good to have more options, more options never hurt, 'cept when you do the wrong option... what a advice.

/takes away a tear.
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Smells Like Muff
Member
+6|6589
Parker spoke truthful

Seriously before drinking let her know whats up and that you would be interested in seeing where a relationship with her would lead...

Either way you will have a good friend right?

Best of luck to you
1927
The oldest chav in the world
+2,423|7154|Cardiff, Capital of Wales

^*AlphA*^ wrote:

Ryan wrote:

SharkyMcshark wrote:

Anyway her work eases off next week and amongst other things, such as paintball and seeing the Chaser Live, we organised to see Drillbit Taylor, a movie by her favourite director, and have dinner together. The twist this time is that afterwards apparently we're going to go to one of our houses, with a bottle of Absinthe (some mind numbingly hallucinogenic alcohol) and watch TV series (don't know which, but my preference is Black Books - hilarious when drunk apparently) on DVD into the early hours of the morning followed presumably by some kind of collapse and then a taxi/drive home in the morning. Together.
ryan... ryan...
I like that
SharkyMcshark
I'll take two
+132|7266|Perth, Western Australia
OK. Well obviously it not until Thursday night/Friday morning (long weekend here... and everywhere else now that I think about it), so I'll probably post after it all to let you know how it went (if I can remember...).

Now, presuming that this doesn't get kicked with a "hey sure let's see the movie but we'll have to reschedule drinking" (which is how I'm sure this is going to end, in which case I'll just follow everyone's advice at a later date), this is how I'm going to approach it:

Be nice (obviously), reasonably... flirty (although as I understand it from a female acqaintance this is generally par for the course for me, so I suppose differentiating between normal behaviour and this might be a stretch). Get back to her/my house, and if things are going well (here defined as she's flirting back - which will be easy to pick up on seeing as she's usually not the flirty type), go for it at the right moment. If there's no flirting, wait until theres been a little bit of drinking, suggest to her how I feel (with the little bit of drinking here allowing me some leeway when I have to explain the next day just what the hell I was going on about), and see how that works out.

So yeah. Hopefully this is one of the Everything Else forum's success stories...

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