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2008-05-28 19:17:04

White-Fusion: Fuck; +616|7022|Scotland

Since you guys gave such great advice with my brothers problem: http://forums.bf2s.com/viewtopic.php?pi … 8#p2108438

I thought I would ask you guys for some help with a situation I have myself.

First some background info

My last 3 girlfriend's I had cheated on me. While I was still going out with my previous girlfriend I met a girl called Nicky. She likes everything I do... She keeps fit. She is in the RAF cadets (CPL) she is skinny like me and reads books (I find all this attractive in a girl) I liked her straight away. I was going out with my girlfriend and she was going out with long distance boyfriend (200 miles away of 8 months)... we Pulled (Snogged... got off whatever you call it in America) a few times at the party we met at. And then over the next week we text alot.

I knew that my girlfriend had cheated at the time, and was deciding whether to dump her or try and get over it or not... the fact that I got on so well with this new girl... I knew I could do alot better so I dumped her...

About a month later Nicky dumps her boyfriend... Nicky is a self confessed commitma-phobe... she hates being tied down in a relationship (Not in that way :awsm) so she said she wanted some time to be single... About a month later she was flirting alot more, saying you couldn't wait to go out with me etc... She finally said that she wanted to go out with me when I came back from Germany (Rock Am Festival 4th - 10th June)

While in town hanging around with her on weekends. She would hang around with someone called Sean aswell... I get jealous very easy... and I hated seeing it because I liked her. They pulled a few times. And I told her it annoyed me... But as we are not really going out, I can't really complain...

By this time we are texting every day about 20-50 times. And I like her alot...

I would get worried if I thought about her and Sean... So about 2 or 3 times I asked her if she still wanted to go out at some point, To which she said of course... One night when I asked her (about 2 weeks ago) she didn't reply for a good day or two... I text her again saying does that mean no?... She text me later saying... "It means... Ach, I dunno what it means... I guess I am just worried about having a relationship again"

I then remembered she hated commitment... Over the last couple of weeks we have spoken, but not as much. I asked her friends. And they say she is loving being single... but wants to go out with me aswell. She sent me a text when I asked her about it all saying "Let's not promise we go out... But not promise we won't... but just keep doing what we are doing... and have fun"

Writing it down, I guess it seems like I have nothing to complain about... But it really is frustrating and sad... even her best friends are like... wow thats sick man.

One of them told me that she was sitting in KFC at lunchtime kissing Sean during the week. Her good friend Josh said... "So how's Johnny (me) doing?" and everyone went silent...

When told this I got pissed off... just at the fact that I felt like I was sharing her... I don't want to sound full of myself, but I know I am a much better person than Sean. I'm nice to everyone... etc etc. He is a dick to most people. Worships Nazis... and talks shit all the time. He thinks we get on quite well. I told all her friends I was giving up on her etc, just because that's what I feel like doing...

The same person that is having a party that we met at... Is having a big party again this Friday. We talked about having sex at the party for a while. And it wasn't that serious. She had never masturbated ever. We exchanged pics one night. And she finally masturbated. And since then was like... we are having sex. About a week ago she had two half's of her... One was her horny side. One was her un-decided side.

I said I wouldn't have sex if she wasn't sure, and maybe to wait. But she still makes sex jokes all the time etc. And we talk about sex etc.

That's about it really... The party is in 2 days...

Now for your advice

Firstly... What would you do in my situation...

Secondly... I need a way to blow her mind at this party... The bathroom has a lock, and that's where we are supposed to be sleeping together. So that should go to plan.

I need a way to completley blow her away. Either some fancy mix of ignoring her then paying attention... then ignoring her slightly for a while then paying attention that someone tried explaining a long time ago to me...

A way while kissing her in the bathroom, I can make her want sex without asking her outright...

Anything really.

Edit

Pics of us three

Me

https://i93.photobucket.com/albums/l70/White-Fusion/970453941a7738355125l.jpg

Nicky

https://i93.photobucket.com/albums/l70/White-Fusion/P270408_2057.jpg

Sean

https://i93.photobucket.com/albums/l70/White-Fusion/2497011001a7584357788l.jpg

Last edited by White-Fusion (2008-05-28 19:19:01)

2008-05-28 19:22:39

Mutantbear: Semi Constructive Criticism; +1,431|6435|London, England

Wow, if you like the fact that all your girlfriends cheat on you then i don't know. Im not trying to be mean or anything but if all your girlfriends are cheating on you than you must not be paying enough attention to them. If you want this one to last I suggest you pay alot of attention to her and really care for her. If you're just looking to blow her mind in a bathroom then I have no suggestions

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2008-05-28 19:23:40

i g: Banned; +876|6335|GA

beat that shit up johnny

2008-05-28 19:24:05

cablecopulate: Member; +449|7208|Massachusetts.

White-Fusion wrote:
My last 3 girlfriend's I had cheated on me.

That's really the only line I read. I don't know what you are doing with these girlfriends, but you are doing it wrong.

2008-05-28 19:26:45

White-Fusion: Fuck; +616|7022|Scotland

Mutantsteak wrote:
Wow, if you like the fact that all your girlfriends cheat on you then i don't know. Im not trying to be mean or anything but if all your girlfriends are cheating on you than you must not be paying enough attention to them. If you want this one to last I suggest you pay alot of attention to her and really care for her. If you're just looking to blow her mind in a bathroom then I have no suggestions

Sorry but that's not it.

If anything I care for them too much. I pay attention to them, we get on sound as hell... It's just as shit coincidence.

First girl was a drunken kiss

Second was sober kiss

Third was sex (She was a proper whore though)

All of them were pretty devastated when I dumped them etc.

And yes, if he says one word wrong I'm gonna snap and kill him.

2008-05-28 19:30:40

i g: Banned; +876|6335|GA

White-Fusion wrote:
And yes, if he says one word wrong I'm gonna snap and kill him.

easy there big boy

2008-05-28 19:31:45

Mutantbear: Semi Constructive Criticism; +1,431|6435|London, England

White-Fusion wrote:
Mutantsteak wrote:
Wow, if you like the fact that all your girlfriends cheat on you then i don't know. Im not trying to be mean or anything but if all your girlfriends are cheating on you than you must not be paying enough attention to them. If you want this one to last I suggest you pay alot of attention to her and really care for her. If you're just looking to blow her mind in a bathroom then I have no suggestions
Sorry but that's not it.

If anything I care for them too much. I pay attention to them, we get on sound as hell... It's just as shit coincidence.

First girl was a drunken kiss

Second was sober kiss

Third was sex (She was a proper whore though)

All of them were pretty devastated when I dumped them etc.

And yes, if he says one word wrong I'm gonna snap and kill him.

Maybe you just have a bad taste in women, they all seem to be whores, no offence, and this new girl doesn't sound much better, I'd watch out

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2008-05-28 19:31:56

icecold2510: Member; +31|6764

bang her in the bathroom

show her what your made of and what sean isnt made of

maybe she'll like what she will she.(_{or maybe not..})

2008-05-28 19:32:48

loop eneg: Banned; +51|6288|Crossroads, Barrens, Dreamaul

Mutantsteak wrote:
White-Fusion wrote:
Mutantsteak wrote:
Wow, if you like the fact that all your girlfriends cheat on you then i don't know. Im not trying to be mean or anything but if all your girlfriends are cheating on you than you must not be paying enough attention to them. If you want this one to last I suggest you pay alot of attention to her and really care for her. If you're just looking to blow her mind in a bathroom then I have no suggestions
Sorry but that's not it.

If anything I care for them too much. I pay attention to them, we get on sound as hell... It's just as shit coincidence.

First girl was a drunken kiss

Second was sober kiss

Third was sex (She was a proper whore though)

All of them were pretty devastated when I dumped them etc.

And yes, if he says one word wrong I'm gonna snap and kill him.
Maybe you just have a bad taste in women, they all seem to be whores, no offence, and this new girl doesn't sound much better, I'd watch out

All girls are sluts.

2008-05-28 19:33:54

Mutantbear: Semi Constructive Criticism; +1,431|6435|London, England

loop eneg wrote:
Mutantsteak wrote:
White-Fusion wrote:

Sorry but that's not it.

If anything I care for them too much. I pay attention to them, we get on sound as hell... It's just as shit coincidence.

First girl was a drunken kiss

Second was sober kiss

Third was sex (She was a proper whore though)

All of them were pretty devastated when I dumped them etc.

And yes, if he says one word wrong I'm gonna snap and kill him.
Maybe you just have a bad taste in women, they all seem to be whores, no offence, and this new girl doesn't sound much better, I'd watch out
All girls are sluts.

^ Never had a girlfriend

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2008-05-28 19:34:41

White-Fusion: Fuck; +616|7022|Scotland

tuckergustav wrote:
maybe you are too needy...I would be annoyed if I had told a guy that I was not ready for a relationship and he kept bugging me about it...sorry if that is not the case, but it kinda sounds like it. Maybe YOU should take some time for YOUR self...figure out what YOU want...I am not saying not to take advantage of the bathroom situation...just don't expect anything afterwards. Quit being so serious about relationships...you are young and you are not ready for one anyways...

I'm not nerdy at all. I don't tell anyone about the games I play etc. And I go running every day so I feel in good enough shape. She didn't say she didn't want one... She even said her head is messed up because she wants to go out with me alot... but also is scared of commitment at the same time.

I know what I want... I want a relationship. I don't have many, and I enjoy them alot. And this is the first girl I really get on well with, and hasn't had sex before. I mean we are 17 and I was her third kiss. She is innocent and I like it. I would like to use the bathroom situation to my advantage, by making her enjoy herself.

And that's bullshit about not being ready for one. I have two best friends in +3 year relationships that are engaged and perfect.

2008-05-28 19:37:50

A12345: Member; +77|6940

personally id fuck her like a female and nothing like a girlfriend, meaning have fun and dont treat her like shes something that shes not. what i hear a lot of girls complain about is that guys dont act like guys sometimes. they hate clingy, needy, self deprecating guys. also they tend to like guys they cant have, are desirable, and that challenge them. no one respects anyone who throws themselves at you, so dont treat her better then youre getting treated. thats just what i encounter though and so i deal with it in a semi asshole kinda way, im not a major jerk but i do ignore them, wont say please or thank you but will insist they use those courtesies with me, etc. so maybe i am kinda an asshole but they like that more than they like guys who put them on pedestals. and dont be getting jealous over other guys, play it off like you dont care because you shouldnt, she is not yours.

but hey do what ever feels right for you, and still just try to have fun with it.

2008-05-28 19:38:26

Mutantbear: Semi Constructive Criticism; +1,431|6435|London, England

White-Fusion wrote:
tuckergustav wrote:
maybe you are too needy...I would be annoyed if I had told a guy that I was not ready for a relationship and he kept bugging me about it...sorry if that is not the case, but it kinda sounds like it. Maybe YOU should take some time for YOUR self...figure out what YOU want...I am not saying not to take advantage of the bathroom situation...just don't expect anything afterwards. Quit being so serious about relationships...you are young and you are not ready for one anyways...
I'm not nerdy at all. I don't tell anyone about the games I play etc. And I go running every day so I feel in good enough shape. She didn't say she didn't want one... She even said her head is messed up because she wants to go out with me alot... but also is scared of commitment at the same time.

I know what I want... I want a relationship. I don't have many, and I enjoy them alot. And this is the first girl I really get on well with, and hasn't had sex before. I mean we are 17 and I was her third kiss. She is innocent and I like it. I would like to use the bathroom situation to my advantage, by making her enjoy herself.

And that's bullshit about not being ready for one. I have two best friends in +3 year relationships that are engaged and perfect.

hahahahahaha, tucker said you were needy not nerdy

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2008-05-28 19:38:34

VspyVspy: Sniper; +183|7143|A sunburnt country

Find someone else for a girlfriend mate. If she wants to sorta be with you but is also kissing another guy, she's going to hurt you real bad down the line. If I was you, just have her as a fuck buddy. That way she doesn't have to commit but you both get laid.

Win-Win

2008-05-28 19:39:35

stkhoplite: Banned; +564|6950|Sheffield-England

I Came

2008-05-28 19:39:46

NateW: my sigs worse than yours; +191|6603

No offense but that picture of Nicky is from the ugly angle. By that I mean the angle all ugly people on myspace use to make themselves seem less hideous.

2008-05-28 19:40:40

loop eneg: Banned; +51|6288|Crossroads, Barrens, Dreamaul

Mutantsteak wrote:
loop eneg wrote:
Mutantsteak wrote:

Maybe you just have a bad taste in women, they all seem to be whores, no offence, and this new girl doesn't sound much better, I'd watch out
All girls are sluts.
^ Never had a girlfriend

Choose not to have* a girlfriend

2008-05-28 19:40:41

HurricaИe: Banned; +877|6432|Washington DC

i never understood why girls like guys who are assholes

2008-05-28 19:40:58

White-Fusion: Fuck; +616|7022|Scotland

Mutantsteak wrote:
White-Fusion wrote:
Mutantsteak wrote:
Wow, if you like the fact that all your girlfriends cheat on you then i don't know. Im not trying to be mean or anything but if all your girlfriends are cheating on you than you must not be paying enough attention to them. If you want this one to last I suggest you pay alot of attention to her and really care for her. If you're just looking to blow her mind in a bathroom then I have no suggestions
Sorry but that's not it.

If anything I care for them too much. I pay attention to them, we get on sound as hell... It's just as shit coincidence.

First girl was a drunken kiss

Second was sober kiss

Third was sex (She was a proper whore though)

All of them were pretty devastated when I dumped them etc.

And yes, if he says one word wrong I'm gonna snap and kill him.
Maybe you just have a bad taste in women, they all seem to be whores, no offence, and this new girl doesn't sound much better, I'd watch out

First girlfriend got wasted and kissed (not pulled someone) and was crying her eyes out sorry. I thought about it all the time so had to end it. She was great though.

Second girl went out with for like a week and didn't like her that much so wasn't bothered.

Third I only wanted sex so I was just like fuck off whore.

Nicky is innocent. She has pulled 4 people in her life. Had 3 boyfriends. And never had sex. She was going to go out with me, but knew how upset I would get if she kissed someone else after last girlfriend's... so said she would wait until she wanted a relationship...

icecold2510 haha... I sent her a pic of me just out the shower () and she wouldn't shut up about wanting to have sex. So I know she likes me shit loads than him.

2008-05-28 19:41:50

loop eneg: Banned; +51|6288|Crossroads, Barrens, Dreamaul

HurricaИe wrote:
i never understood why girls like guys who are assholes

Refer to #11

2008-05-28 19:42:16

cowami: OY, BITCHTITS!; +1,106|6760|Noo Yawk, Noo Yawk

Mutantsteak wrote:
loop eneg wrote:
Mutantsteak wrote:

Maybe you just have a bad taste in women, they all seem to be whores, no offence, and this new girl doesn't sound much better, I'd watch out
All girls are sluts.
^ Never had a girlfriend

https://img.photobucket.com/albums/v83/rac_goshawk/saynolk7na1.gif

lolgene

2008-05-28 19:42:46

konfusion: mostly afk; +480|7021|CH/BR - in UK

White-Fusion wrote:
I'm not nerdy at all. I don't tell anyone about the games I play etc.

LOL - needy, man, needy.
Try backing off once in a while, giving space, doing something else (like going out with your friends). The more you find a balance between being there all the time and being completely absent, the better your chances are it will last. If you're already doing this, then I'd have to blame the girls. Play it slow... Rushed things never work out.

Good luck - in the end, the decisions up to you, and I have a feeling that like most, you've already made up your mind and are looking for confirmation (been there, as have a couple of people here).

-konfusion

2008-05-28 19:42:50

loop eneg: Banned; +51|6288|Crossroads, Barrens, Dreamaul

Hahahhahahahah

2008-05-28 19:44:16

Zombie_Affair: Amputee's...BOOP; +78|6286|Fattest Country in the world.

White-Fusion wrote:
tuckergustav wrote:
maybe you are too needy...I would be annoyed if I had told a guy that I was not ready for a relationship and he kept bugging me about it...sorry if that is not the case, but it kinda sounds like it. Maybe YOU should take some time for YOUR self...figure out what YOU want...I am not saying not to take advantage of the bathroom situation...just don't expect anything afterwards. Quit being so serious about relationships...you are young and you are not ready for one anyways...
I'm not nerdy at all. I don't tell anyone about the games I play etc.

No, not "nerdy"..."needy" [demanding or needing attention, affection, or reassurance to an excessive degree].

Best of Luck with the party.

2008-05-28 19:44:45

Mutantbear: Semi Constructive Criticism; +1,431|6435|London, England

White-Fusion wrote:
icecold2510 haha... I sent her a pic of me just out the shower () and she wouldn't shut up about wanting to have sex. So I know she likes me shit loads than him.

Again, I really don't want to bring offence but if shes never had sex and you said she just recently started masturbating then I dont know but she sounds like a whore to me. Wouldnt shut up about wanting to have sex, usually when youve never had sex you arent begging for it. I dunno, im done making suggestions

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