BF2S Forums So my friend's Mom just passed away...

First, my sympathies.

Yes, you should let your friend know you are there for him. Unfortunately, there is no play book or 'correct' way to proceed. And yes, it will be awkward for both of you but don't let that stop your friendship or communication. Let him grieve in his way. If he wants to talk to you, he will.

Peace be with you.

Oh...that is sad.
What you did was good.  It lets him know that you are there for him if needed.  In my opinion, it shouldn't matter how much time has passed.  You were a part of both of their lives and it was the right thing for you to do.  I am sorry to hear it though...losing a friend is never easy.

Death sucks.

All the best to you and your friend.

If you two were ever friends then you did the right thing, it doesn't matter you havn't talked in a while, he'll be greatful to have someone to talk to just now.

I wish I had more friends when my Grandad died.

surprised she made it through the pancreatic cancer. that and brain cancer have the 2 highest mortality rates afaik. my dad is going through some shit right now, and he probably won't make it more than a few months. just be there for your friend whenever you can. it's times like these when you need your friends the most.

One of my co-workers just lost her baby... she was 3 months from giving birth to her too. Horrible.

I lost my Mum to cancer on 23rd Sept 05, its still fairly raw but gets easier each day.  You won't need to talk to your friend and feel awkward you will just need to listen.  Try and tell him that the only difference being is he can still talk to her only he cant hear her replies.  Tell him how after the 1st of everything life gets easier.

For me that was first Friday, first birthday (mine, her's my kids), first Ester and last but not least Mothers Day.  Mothers Day will always feel shallow now but thats the way it is.  The following is harsh but true and maybe not now is the time to tell him but the way life is: your supposed to bury your parents and not the other way around.

Tell him what happened was god wanted an angel and took his Mum, God only takes the good ones early on.  Not that I am religious.

Its hard for me watching my Step Dad getting on ith his life with a right rat bag but cos I love him so much I bite my lip.  He moved on after 3 months.  Theres no rule book and I never want to seem him grieve but when things go tits up with his new gf he will grieve as he never got all his grief out over my Mum.

Best wishes to your friend he feels like his world has just caved in but remind him things will get easier.  I was grateful with my Mum that I told her how much me and the kids loved her, the fact I held her as she passed away and the fact she was mym Mum and not the fella next door's (if that makes sence).  The hardest part was having to tell my lil girl who was almost 5 at the time.

Thanks for reassuring me guys, it means alot.  He hasn't said anything to me yet, but hopefully he'll come around and we can talk.

We're both 19, FFLink.

my condolences

well, as my dad died about one and a half years ago, i can say that you should ask your friend to tell you everything about his mom's death, how it happened, how he feels etc. talking helps...

Tough thing cancer.

As others here have noted, when you lose someone close to you the natural reaction is to withdraw from the world, but often times it's better psychologically to have people hovering around or asking how things are. It keeps you from spending too much time inside your own head which can be a bad place during any traumatic episode.

Definitely offer to hang out, or talk, or whatever.

leetsauce wrote:

my condolences

R.I.P