Uzique wrote:
Ataronchronon wrote:
Uzique wrote:
Haha, robot... ouch man, you've got to learn to melt! I'm glad my silent thoughtfulness gets interpreted as being intimidating superciliousness... it's like an effortless ego-booster, I don't even consciously realise I'm doing it .
Learn to melt? Do explain.
I guess emotional response being likened to a 'robot' = loosen up, "melt", gel more etc. There is obviously a marked difference in people's perceptions between a quiet guy who is just thinking and doesn't have a lot to say, and a quiet guy who is quiet out of submissiveness and social awkwardness. Not to say you're socially stunted... I'm just saying, being read as 'robotic' is clearly not a flattering trait!
@Finny:
Meuh,.. I was officially classified as "emotionless" at high school. Not because because I was quiet though, but rather because I was either really tough is some situations and really stoic in others. The latter combined with the fact that I don't act differently towards or in the presence of women, qualified me as the school shrink. I always got girls (or guys for that matter) to spill out their guts, even when I didn't ask for it. It tends to get annoying at some points. I recall one particular day, I went to another location (classes at some point were spread over two) early, already during lunchtime. I waited outside for class, sat down on a bench, intending to have a nice and quiet lunch. Suddenly this popular girl pops out of nowhere sits down next to me and starts ranting like an emo. Obviously relieved she then says something like: "well see you around!", and off she goes. I remain seated, staring at my sandwhich, barely a single bite taken, put it back in my lunchbox, sigh, get back inside.