BF2S Forums Breaking up with my girlfriend

Pussy is all mostly the same.
" Shes probably one of the nicest caring people I know... "

that is not a bad thing bro.


Being in love is as much a choice as anything. Weigh the good with the bad.

Or be a typical young person; whore around, get a disease and/or pregnant, pay for an abortion and spend a good chunk of the rest of your life regretting breaking a good girls heart for a lifetime of one night stands and shallow relationships.

I thought ATG was going to close with "But I, I took the path less travelled by."

I wish I read these wise words a while ago

burnzz wrote:

AussieReaper wrote:

Tell her exactly what you told us in the OP. She should understand.

*except for maybe the crazy parents part.

and meet at a neutral ground.

Like Switzerland.

mcminty wrote:

GodFather wrote:

I want to remain friends with her, and not have her hate and resent me because she just doesn't deserve to be sad - Shes probably one of the nicest caring people I know...

Depends on the individual, but I don't see how you can do that

It's quite easy actually if both parties involved are the type that can, however if only one of them is not, the other can try all he/she wants and it will still fail.

AussieReaper wrote:

In person, that way she has a chance to see that you do want to remain friends. If you do it online, phone, etc she isn't going to take the "I want to stay friends" at all seriously, if you won't even see her.

Aussie is right, do not ever do these things in any other way than in person.

KingCheese wrote:

Mitch wrote:

Honestly man, dont.
If you have a girl who loves you keep her.

If the OP doesn't share feelings of love with said girl, would it not be a little pointless for him to stay with her very probably making him unhappy in the long run?

I agree and he shouldn't stay with her for her sake, because it would be fake and thus not for her sake at all. However, if someone is having a particularly difficult time, you could stretch it a bit I guess. Crazy ass family seems more like a constant factor in the OP's girl's case though

What I do agree on with Mitch though is that people often make rather rash decisions. Evidently I can't judge the situation for the OP, but I would like to point out that people do often think they feel something they feel not or different and not notice they feel something they really do. Could be magic is really gone, could be you've just experience "drag" in a relationship for the first time. In the former case, you should indeed break up with her. But in the latter case, if you'd dump her because of "drag", you'd be making a mistake. You may not notice at first, but you will in due time, after banging a few dozen hotties you don't give a shit about. I guess that is more or less what ATG means too.

Like I said Don Corleone, I won't decide for you, or even encourage you what to do, because I don't know the situation. I will however advice you, in any case, to think twice about what you "feel". Contrary to popular belief, you should decide with your head rather than your heart. Instincts are just that: instincts, and while what you feel may be genuine, you can not always identify it properly.

Breaking up is a bummer... but the fact that you are worried about her feelings makes you a good guy...
She will be sad if you break up with her but she will survive...
  If she goes nuts and hurts herself or worse...
Than she has far deeper issues than you breaking up with her.
  You have to decide if you want to break up with her because
you feel trapped or think the grass is greener somwehere else... or you really have grown apart?

honesty is the best policy

maybe you could both make a much-needed change to respark things or bring your relationship into a new chapter

talkaboutit

LaidBackNinja wrote:

GodFather wrote:

So I've been going out with my girl a little over a year and I don't know the magic is gone I guess you would say. I would like to be single and not have to worry about anyone else or pleasing someone else if that makes sense.

Jesus man. Read that again and check to see if it sounds self-centered to you. Because it does to me.
My advice is to man up. If you expected "the magic" (ie chemicals pumping around your veins making you feel funny, ie 'in love') to last forever, it's about time you woke up and smelled the real world. At some point you're going to stop being in love with your partner. It can happen anywhere between the 6 months and 2 year mark. You're at a little over a year, which is exactly where this sort of thing happens often.
You can't expect to be in love forever. It's not even healthy. The important thing is that you learn to appreciate that person and love her for who she is. It sounds like you know how kind and caring she is, so that can't be the problem.
So stop being a girl and grow up. The only reason you want to break up is because you don't feel the butterflies anymore and because you don't want to worry about someone else. These are symptoms for children. Men should know better.

Ioan92 wrote:

You're about to make a big mistake. Stay calm, every one has bad times..

Yes.

I can agree that it does sound a little self centred, but if one is in an unhappy relationship why shouldn't you have the right to call it a day?  Now sure, if we were talking about a marriage here I would definately say this is something to be worked through especially if there were children involved but we aren't from what I gather.  I would say it was less hurtful to end a relationship by being honest and telling that other person that things aren't working out the way you wanted them to than to stay with someone, end up resenting them and possibly get caught out fucking someone else because you were bored and pissed off which is something I've seen people do before.  I'm not saying the OP should leap in feet first and chuck his girl immediately because he needs to be positive that that is what he truly wants to do, but it is impossible to maintain a one sided relationship without ending up feeling resentful and trapped by the other party.  Besides, as the OP says "I would like to be single and not have to worry about anyone else or pleasing someone else."  That doesn't sound like someone who is really ready for a lasting relationship (no offence meant) in any way shape or form.

All I can say is good luck.

most women are scabs.  fuck em.

ATG wrote:

Red Forman wrote:

most women are scabs.  fuck em.

Biter much?

not me.  i havent been thru that divorce shit.  most my friends have.  oh, and its no wonder i am banging two married chicks.  but hey, youre right.

Red Forman wrote:

ATG wrote:

Red Forman wrote:

most women are scabs.  fuck em.

Biter much?

not me.  i havent been thru that divorce shit.  most my friends have.  oh, and its no wonder i am banging two married chicks.  but hey, youre right.

Red, doing married people knowingly is morally bankrupt.
It will create a karmic debt that you must repay or die lonely and bitter.

Don't break anyones circle. It never ends well.