Divorce

2009-12-04 23:37:52

#76

-Sh1fty-: plundering yee booty; +510|5890|Ventura, California

Every man who's divorced I know misses his wife and says he screwed up.

A wise person I know told me when you get married, you're madly in love and all, but then it dies down a bit and you don't like them too much for a little while. That's the part you divorce at, but then if you stay married the love builds up again.

Something along those lines.

And above your tomb, the stars will belong to us.

2009-12-04 23:40:41

#77

Amra: look; even concrete needs to be laid; +26|5729|Up your #4+@?

Oh, that's what they mean.

that point in life when you go " oh fuck, ".

If an averages mans life is 75, you hit midlife at 37.

All that you are, will have been defined for most of us decades before then, so that is the nature of the "crysis".

You sit there one day and go, " holy fuck, I think nobody told me when to run, I missed the starting gun. "

Your band starts playing different tunes. Your wife becomes a stranger. Your wallet gets thin, your board starts speaking in tongues.

2009-12-05 00:08:05

#78

rdx-fx: ...; +955|7008

Dilbert_X wrote:
Women are 'crazy', which is to say they have a different psychology which we don't understand.

No, not all of them are crazy.

As far as I can tell, they come in two flavors. Vanilla and Wasabi.

You want hot in the sack, horny, adventurous, and exciting.. you get the downside of that too, in crazy, insecure, shop-a-holic, maxed credit cards.
That's Wasabi. (aka high default hormone levels)
That's my dad's taste in women, after my mom. Huge tits, exciting .. empty brains. And he's managed to lose two twenty year retirements in three divorces.

You want reliable, dependable, no drama, responsible with money, doesn't screw around, as fit as she was in her 20's, has a Bachelors of Science in an engineering field.. you get the downside that goes with that too, in low/no sex drive. (aka lower default hormone levels).

And, if you think there are more flavors than that.. heh.. call me after 15 years.

Iconic Irony wrote:
Whats the best way about going at it? Draw all money out of your accounts first? Liquidate stuff? Lawyers before or after this? Is there like a step by step list somewhere?

If you're married to a Wasabi flavored woman, and you wake up every morning thinking "WTF kind of idiot is this next to me?!".

Get out.

Cover your ass with as much legal firepower as needed.

Wasabi women, once scorned, get vicious.
Truth, fairness, equitable splits, honest retelling of history - all goes straight out the window as soon as you say "I want a divorce".
When you say that, she heard "I want to crush every childhood dream you ever had, screw every woman but you, and skullfuck your favorite teddy bear"

Those kind of women, it's not about a man's mindset of "be fair, split the gear, move on".
No, to a scorned Wasabi woman, a divorce is all about emotional fairness .. payback for her perception of abandonment, her emotional hurts, her heavily spun/edited version of events.

The emotional women are a touch easier to understand if you think of it in terms of the above emotional fairness, and throw away any concept of objective, impersonal, logical truth or history.

Short form:
Before you ask for a divorce, plan for the vicious fight and get legal advice, then perhaps try for the reasonable "be fair, split the gear, move on". Don't agree to a damn thing, without getting it signed off on by an experienced divorce lawyer. At the first sign she's not going for the "be fair, split the gear, move on", get the lawyers out. Being fair while she plots to screw you, will get you screwed BADLY.

Have plan "B" ready to go at a moment's notice, but try plan "A" provisionally/tentatively.

Last edited by rdx-fx (2009-12-05 00:15:08)

2009-12-05 00:13:39

#79

rdx-fx: ...; +955|7008

-Sh1fty- wrote:
Every man who's divorced I know misses his wife and says he screwed up.

A wise person I know told me when you get married, you're madly in love and all, but then it dies down a bit and you don't like them too much for a little while. That's the part you divorce at, but then if you stay married the love builds up again.

Something along those lines.

Have to have a core of mutual respect and trust, a shared history of reliability and getting through the bullshit, and a two-way communication that allows both of you to call the other on their bullshit without causing a screaming match.

OP sounds like the whole mutual respect thing took a shit a while back.

2009-12-05 00:15:39

#80

13/f/taiwan: Member; +940|6115

-Sh1fty- wrote:
Every man who's divorced I know misses his wife and says he screwed up.

A wise person I know told me when you get married, you're madly in love and all, but then it dies down a bit and you don't like them too much for a little while. That's the part you divorce at, but then if you stay married the love builds up again.

Something along those lines.

Dude aren't you like, 15?

2009-12-05 00:30:51

#81

-Sh1fty-: plundering yee booty; +510|5890|Ventura, California

13/f/taiwan wrote:
-Sh1fty- wrote:
Every man who's divorced I know misses his wife and says he screwed up.

A wise person I know told me when you get married, you're madly in love and all, but then it dies down a bit and you don't like them too much for a little while. That's the part you divorce at, but then if you stay married the love builds up again.

Something along those lines.
Dude aren't you like, 15?

17 in a month. Meaning I could get married in a year if I wanted to. Not to mention thanks to Switzerland's awesome education system I could have a job to support that person.

The only problem is there's no way at 18 I'd ever find a woman here.

See life to me is grow up in a nice childhood small down, get married settle down, have kids and take them traveling.

The sweet slow life. Not the fuck every women at the bar, then when you realize you're alone in life desperately make an account on eHormony.

And above your tomb, the stars will belong to us.

2009-12-05 01:08:37

#82

Dilbert_X: The X stands for; +1,822|6523|eXtreme to the maX

rdx-fx wrote:
As far as I can tell, they come in two flavors. Vanilla and Wasabi.

There's that too, but their brains are wired differently, they have totally different subconscious drivers to men.

Note to self: Google search for ehormony

Last edited by Dilbert_X (2009-12-05 01:09:10)

Fuck Israel

2009-12-05 02:31:25

#83

Flecco: iPod is broken.; +1,048|7082|NT, like Mick Dundee

-Sh1fty- wrote:
Every man who's divorced I know misses his wife and says he screwed up.

A wise person I know told me when you get married, you're madly in love and all, but then it dies down a bit and you don't like them too much for a little while. That's the part you divorce at, but then if you stay married the love builds up again.

Something along those lines.

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How many divorced men do you know?

Whoa... Can't believe these forums are still kicking.

2009-12-05 02:42:46

#84

-Sh1fty-: plundering yee booty; +510|5890|Ventura, California

Hmmm lets see...

I know 2 guys who divorced the same woman xD they both regretted it. Then there's that dude who's two sons were my best friends in the U.S. He regrets it too. Then my uncle...I won't say how many times he's been divorced, but now he found the perfect woman so I guess he doesn't really regret it besides he didn't want the divorces anyway. Then there's those dudes my mom knows because she knows the women as she went to college/high school with them.

I'd say about 10.

How many do you know?

And above your tomb, the stars will belong to us.

2009-12-05 02:50:24

#85

Jasp: Bongabilla; +171|7079|The Outer Circle

you need to get out more, get drunk, get laid..

live the dream

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2009-12-05 02:55:34

#86

mikkel: Member; +383|7018

It sounds to me like she hasn't seen enough of the back of your hand.

2009-12-05 03:45:36

#87

Lai: Member; +186|6568

rdx-fx wrote:
As far as I can tell, they come in two flavors. Vanilla and Wasabi.

You want hot in the sack, horny, adventurous, and exciting.. you get the downside of that too, in crazy, insecure, shop-a-holic, maxed credit cards.
That's Wasabi. (aka high default hormone levels)
That's my dad's taste in women, after my mom. Huge tits, exciting .. empty brains. And he's managed to lose two twenty year retirements in three divorces.

You want reliable, dependable, no drama, responsible with money, doesn't screw around, as fit as she was in her 20's, has a Bachelors of Science in an engineering field.. you get the downside that goes with that too, in low/no sex drive. (aka lower default hormone levels).

And, if you think there are more flavors than that.. heh.. call me after 15 years.

Hmmm,.. that's one to think about.

In my experience a woman is only as good as her 'culture'. Apart from thah I know reliable, mature, dependable yet independent women than for some reason went wasabi, and I know exciting adventureous women that could be vanilla when required. The thing is, if their life is too normal, they'll themselves find it is too boring and go all out and fuck up. That goes for women and men alike I guess.

2009-12-05 14:28:51

#88

Flecco: iPod is broken.; +1,048|7082|NT, like Mick Dundee

-Sh1fty- wrote:
Hmmm lets see...

I know 2 guys who divorced the same woman xD they both regretted it. Then there's that dude who's two sons were my best friends in the U.S. He regrets it too. Then my uncle...I won't say how many times he's been divorced, but now he found the perfect woman so I guess he doesn't really regret it besides he didn't want the divorces anyway. Then there's those dudes my mom knows because she knows the women as she went to college/high school with them.

I'd say about 10.

How many do you know?

Met around 20 divorced men. Probably more but those are the ones I've spoken to about it.

Of those, at least 15 said to me 'never get married'. One of my father's mates, who's living with us now was divorced many years ago. He doesn't regret the divorce, but he's pissed as hell he never saw his children again. He only engages in 'safe sex' now.

Spoiler (highlight to read):
That means he shags married women only.

Most of the divorcees I know are tradesmen (electricians/builders/carpenters/painters/fridgies), which means they had their personal investments wiped out by the divorce. One of them had 80% of his personal assets taken from him by the courts and the wife ended up with a man who was rather abusive and indifferent to the children, that's pretty much the worst of them though. He regrets the marriage, not the divorce. Haven't met a single one who was angry about paying child support at all.

Whoa... Can't believe these forums are still kicking.

2009-12-05 14:35:58

#89

ghettoperson: Member; +1,943|7066

Oh Brad

2009-12-05 17:00:58

#90

m3thod: All kiiiiiiiiinds of gainz; +2,197|7088|UK

brad stop using rdx's avatar, i keep thinking those nob head posts are his.

Blackbelts are just whitebelts who have never quit.

2009-12-05 17:01:49

#91

Finray: Hup! Dos, Tres, Cuatro; +2,629|6205|Catherine Black

m3thod wrote:
brad stop using rdx's avatar, i keep thinking those nob head posts are his.

He's just proud of his fake origin, like you are!

2009-12-05 17:02:14

#92

13/f/taiwan: Member; +940|6115

Yeah Brad you're not even fucking American.

2009-12-05 17:09:37

#93

m3thod: All kiiiiiiiiinds of gainz; +2,197|7088|UK

Finray wrote:
m3thod wrote:
brad stop using rdx's avatar, i keep thinking those nob head posts are his.
He's just proud of his fake origin, like you are!

...

what origin would that be? You'll never see me sing god save the bitch.

Blackbelts are just whitebelts who have never quit.

2009-12-05 23:25:01

#94

-Sh1fty-: plundering yee booty; +510|5890|Ventura, California

13/f/taiwan wrote:
Yeah Brad you're not even fucking American.

Actually I am...

And above your tomb, the stars will belong to us.

2009-12-06 06:02:37

#95

Guardian_Ekim: I'm a god damn American Jedi; +51|6966|775

-Sh1fty- wrote:
Every man who's divorced I know misses his wife and says he screwed up.

A wise person I know told me when you get married, you're madly in love and all, but then it dies down a bit and you don't like them too much for a little while. That's the part you divorce at, but then if you stay married the love builds up again.

Something along those lines.

Actually, I never missed my first wife and I didn't screw that marriage up; she was just a whore. However, with my second marriage, I screwed up in a few ways and I missed her for about a year and a half before I started dating again. I'm still married to my third wife, so I'll let you know how that goes...

Back to the topic if divorce... Well, it depends upon you two and how you want to split up. You go to the court and file for a divorce under "irreconcilable differences" and have a friendly divorce for a nominal fee. However, things get complicated when you add children and custody into the equation. I don't know what to tell you about your shared account(s); I only made that mistake once and my first wife cleaned out my account the day after payday. If you really need to give money to your wife out of your pay for whatever reason, most banks have an online third party account transfer process.

2009-12-06 06:27:56

#96

ghettoperson: Member; +1,943|7066

Brad I made you a new one:

https://img6.imageshack.us/img6/4310/bradwq.jpg

2009-12-06 06:34:12

#97

Mekstizzle: WALKER; +3,611|7038|London, England

So Ironic Icony, have you divorced this bitch yet or not then

2009-12-06 06:35:46

#98

ghettoperson: Member; +1,943|7066

If she's dumb, just get her to sign the divorce papers and then sort it out yourself.

2009-12-06 07:03:55

#99

Amra: look; even concrete needs to be laid; +26|5729|Up your #4+@?

The other day I got stranded two hours from home.
I called my wife and she started bitching and moaning about some stupid party she had to get ready for and I was wondering if she spoke English.
Not a " gee that sucks, sorry to hear that " just bitch and fucking moan.

When I get home she wants me to look at some gay ginger bread house she made, and I said " that is the greatest I've ever seen ...except the chimney looks a little odd. " and she completely blew a gasket.

I said to myself then " I hate this fucking bitch and I wished I'd never married her fat ass. "

The trouble is, I have two kids and a marriage that has run it's course.

So I feel ya Cougar. How about I shoot yours and you bludgeon mine.

2009-12-06 07:05:37

#100

SamBo: Blackburn Rovers Fan; +102|5740|Stoke, England

Was it Cougar that killed his neighbours dog?

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Dilbert_X wrote:

Iconic Irony wrote:

-Sh1fty- wrote:

-Sh1fty- wrote:

13/f/taiwan wrote:

-Sh1fty- wrote:

rdx-fx wrote:

-Sh1fty- wrote:

rdx-fx wrote:

-Sh1fty- wrote:

m3thod wrote:

Finray wrote:

m3thod wrote:

13/f/taiwan wrote:

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