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Bevo wrote:

kimmm i'm 18, i dont go to bars

i go out with friends pretty often and tell them to invite all their friends and such... i've met lots of new people. just seem to have no luck

It's not your standards that are a problem, it's you.

When's the last time you talked to a single girl that met your standards?

When was the last time you asked a single girl that met your standards out to eat/coffee/donuts/another activity?

If those two didn't occur at the same time, well then there is your problem.  You have to ask yourself what it is that is holding you back, and then answer honestly.  Once you identify the problem you can consciously and unconsciously work on the issue. 

No one here is going to give you a secret way to talk to girls.  There is no secret.  It's just confidence and a willingness to just go for it.  The worst thing that is going to happen is that you get rejected, which means you don't have a girlfriend.  How is that any worse than the current situation you are in?

Bevo wrote:

So waiting at all is waiting too long? That's a serious question. Assuming I know I'd see her again.

I wouldn't walk up to total randoms unless you have a really strong physical attraction. Waiting tends to cut down the number of bat-shit insane women you meet: it's a good thing. Waiting too long gets you nowhere, obviously, but the moment you feel the slightest but of confidence that she is potentially what you are looking for, go for it.

Bevo wrote:

Pochsy wrote:

Bevo wrote:

So waiting at all is waiting too long? That's a serious question. Assuming I know I'd see her again.

I wouldn't walk up to total randoms unless you have a really strong physical attraction. Waiting tends to cut down the number of bat-shit insane women you meet: it's a good thing. Waiting too long gets you nowhere, obviously, but the moment you feel the slightest but of confidence that she is potentially what you are looking for, go for it.

Well there was this girl at the beginning of the semester that I was pretty confident with - and after seeing her (after class) about two more times it's like she completely lost interest and I was like FFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUU. Was pretty sure she was into me but didn't want to be incredibly forward, but a week later it's like "who are you and why should I care".

You can try asking more directly, but it sounds like the moment has past. Thems be the breaks.

KEN-JENNINGS wrote:

Well of course there are times and places that are inconvenient, but as a general rule no, you shouldn't wait.  If you are talking to a girl and the conversation seems good, yeah, ask her out for something sometime.  Waiting for 'the perfect time' is not a good idea for someone in your shoes, because you will probably tend to put it off every time, rationalizing that the next time will be a better time.

And bat-shit insane women are fun sometimes.

I'd agree that I'm a pussy sometimes, but I really was going to ask her. It was there and now it's gone, so yeah I'm probably just fucked now. Le sigh.

Lai wrote:

Bevo wrote:

KEN-JENNINGS wrote:

Well of course there are times and places that are inconvenient, but as a general rule no, you shouldn't wait.  If you are talking to a girl and the conversation seems good, yeah, ask her out for something sometime.  Waiting for 'the perfect time' is not a good idea for someone in your shoes, because you will probably tend to put it off every time, rationalizing that the next time will be a better time.

And bat-shit insane women are fun sometimes.

I'd agree that I'm a pussy sometimes, but I really was going to ask her. It was there and now it's gone, so yeah I'm probably just fucked now. Le sigh.

I don't know, if you still seem to be that confident about it,.. why not just go up to her and try again? Chances are she sees you in a new light now and you can't get any more rejected than rejected.

I once went to a party and met this girl, but was to occupied lobbying. I intended to talk to her later that evening, business first then fun so to say. I needed only about half an hour, but then stupid stuff kicked off and we had to leave the building. She ought to have been there next day as well, but wasn't. I was sharp enough to have checked her name tag though, so I added her on Facebook. She never replied,.. but hey, I tried.

Right, however I may see this girl for the next 3 years so there's a reason why I'm not going to go balls out regardless of the situation. The engineering class here isn't exactly small, but it's more than likely that we'll be in other classes together later on.

...this wasn't even intended to be about her, I already stopped chasing that. It was a more general question that I suppose boils down to more social interaction. I'm not a big partier though, I'll go out with friends but I'm not out to get wasted at a frat party every weekend. I thought about some intermurals but I don't want to make a packed schedule even tougher.

Bevo wrote:

Pochsy wrote:

Bevo wrote:

So waiting at all is waiting too long? That's a serious question. Assuming I know I'd see her again.

I wouldn't walk up to total randoms unless you have a really strong physical attraction. Waiting tends to cut down the number of bat-shit insane women you meet: it's a good thing. Waiting too long gets you nowhere, obviously, but the moment you feel the slightest but of confidence that she is potentially what you are looking for, go for it.

Well there was this girl at the beginning of the semester that I was pretty confident with - and after seeing her (after class) about two more times it's like she completely lost interest and I was like FFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUU. Was pretty sure she was into me but didn't want to be incredibly forward, but a week later it's like "who are you and why should I care".

Sounds like she closed the window.  Shoulda been more forward I guess.  Don't worry, look around -you're on a campus surrounded by women.  When I was in school (about the time of Girls gone wild videos -actually banged one that was in one of those videos) I judged a woman's moral compass (or lack thereof) by the amount of beads that hung from her rearview mirror.  Struck out sometimes, got lucky sometimes,  Stayed drunk through most of it.  F'n awesome times.  At 18 most college chicks aren't looking for a relationship.  Pools are your friend, hot tubs are good stuff too.  At 21 and the game changes a bit as you no longer have to worry about getting popped for underage and can bar it up.

tuckergustav wrote:

Bevo wrote:

Pochsy wrote:

I wouldn't walk up to total randoms unless you have a really strong physical attraction. Waiting tends to cut down the number of bat-shit insane women you meet: it's a good thing. Waiting too long gets you nowhere, obviously, but the moment you feel the slightest but of confidence that she is potentially what you are looking for, go for it.

Well there was this girl at the beginning of the semester that I was pretty confident with - and after seeing her (after class) about two more times it's like she completely lost interest and I was like FFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUU. Was pretty sure she was into me but didn't want to be incredibly forward, but a week later it's like "who are you and why should I care".

Well, if she thought she was sending signals and getting rejected...that may be why you feel the cold shoulder.  Just continue showing interest(if you are interested) and she will come around.

Nahh I've been forward and obvious, she knows I am/was into her.

Poseidon wrote:

Hah. So I was talking about the girl I like at work today (in front of customers, I don't give a fuck) to my friend, and I was saying stuff like "yeah, I think she likes me... I've been in love with this girl since freaking September". The customer at the time finished and the name came up on the screen...........it was the girl's last name. I was convinced it was her mom and grandma.

Later I asked her if her mom was at stop and shop earlier and she said no, but fuck... that would've been the WORST luck.

lololol.





@bevo and Ken; self esteem is always the issue...

ive gotta wait all summer before i can make a serious move on the girl ive been getting with the last few weeks

university terms suck dick

Ha ha

_j5689_ wrote:

Man, I saw these two light-skinned cheerleader girls with really nice legs in a line today.  Forget sex, I just want a touch.  This shit kills me

You can touch while sexing

Alright guys, I'm off on a first date in an hour or so, we're going for sushi and then either to a play (put on by a friend of hers, but it sounds interesting), or a movie. She's an infrastructure engineer, and I've really noticed just how precise and unemotional she is. I fear, even though I myself am brutally rational and able to suppress emotion at will, I may be a bigger pussy than she is. How do I ensure I show absolutely no emotion and speak in carefully constructed sentences that neither detract from, nor advance the conversation?

This is only 1/2 a joke. She really is rather cold (but not bitchy). I love it.

No really, though, any advice for this type of girl? She's one of two I've met, but the first I've taken on a date.