"be yourself"?
Aww man, I meant real advice.Bevo wrote:
"be yourself"?
The shape of an eye in front of the ocean, digging for stones and throwing them against its window pane. Take it down dreamer, take it down deep. - Other Families
HAHAHAPochsy wrote:
I've really noticed just how precise and unemotional she is. I fear, even though I myself am brutally rational and able to suppress emotion at will
Dunno, people often describe me as emotionless, but im really just laid back. "Down for whatever"Pochsy wrote:
Aww man, I meant real advice.Bevo wrote:
"be yourself"?
Don't always try and make eye contact, if you ask slightly distant, she might think you're slightly more interesting and make more effort to talk + be more emotional.Pochsy wrote:
Alright guys, I'm off on a first date in an hour or so, we're going for sushi and then either to a play (put on by a friend of hers, but it sounds interesting), or a movie. She's an infrastructure engineer, and I've really noticed just how precise and unemotional she is. I fear, even though I myself am brutally rational and able to suppress emotion at will, I may be a bigger pussy than she is. How do I ensure I show absolutely no emotion and speak in carefully constructed sentences that neither detract from, nor advance the conversation?
This is only 1/2 a joke. She really is rather cold (but not bitchy). I love it.
No really, though, any advice for this type of girl? She's one of two I've met, but the first I've taken on a date.
Either way Pochsy, if she likes you, she's going to be more emotional around you, so it's up to you to make it so and make the date enjoyable. I think that's the only way it's gonna go.
Hey man, that really hurt my...oh wait.I'm Jamesey wrote:
HAHAHAPochsy wrote:
I've really noticed just how precise and unemotional she is. I fear, even though I myself am brutally rational and able to suppress emotion at will
I'm so glad you laughed at my 1/2 joke, though. Any advice on how to carry conversation with a girl who is (to borrow Bevo's term) "laid back"?
The shape of an eye in front of the ocean, digging for stones and throwing them against its window pane. Take it down dreamer, take it down deep. - Other Families
I keep expecting Shifty to post in this thread, cos he's a girl with problems
If it's a question of holding a conversation, then my guess is you try and relate it around what she is doing in life and just general chit chat... If you feel it's not going to head down any emotional route, then you're allowed to push it ONCE, if it gets thrown to the side, then you know it ain't the right time.
You never know, she might be the first to start up with the more intimate chat...
You never know, she might be the first to start up with the more intimate chat...
Seriously, if she's that cold she probably doesn't mind you being a bit less.Pochsy wrote:
Alright guys, I'm off on a first date in an hour or so, we're going for sushi and then either to a play (put on by a friend of hers, but it sounds interesting), or a movie. She's an infrastructure engineer, and I've really noticed just how precise and unemotional she is. I fear, even though I myself am brutally rational and able to suppress emotion at will, I may be a bigger pussy than she is. How do I ensure I show absolutely no emotion and speak in carefully constructed sentences that neither detract from, nor advance the conversation?
This is only 1/2 a joke. She really is rather cold (but not bitchy). I love it.
No really, though, any advice for this type of girl? She's one of two I've met, but the first I've taken on a date.
Fuck "matching", the best matches are often between people that don't match at all. Helps create an equilibrium if you are yourself a bit extreme to one side or the other. Grey people should date other grey people. Black people should date white people and vice versa, so the outcome is still grey. You want your relationship to be grey because grey means boring. Grey people tend to be boring in a negative sense but for an overall relationship boring is good, because it means your relationship is stable.
I am too lost for wordz.
I was at the shopping mall in the afternoon and I ran into an old high school girlfriend of mine. We dated a little longer than a half year back in the days. At the time, I already found her smoking hot and vice versa. But now, almost 5 years later..holy hell, it could walk out of FHM magazine, big upgrade from an already gorgeous girl. We sat down at a terrace and talked about what we've been up to. At some piont, I said she is even more beautiful than she was 5 years back and she also still finds me attractive .
So we exchanged telephone numbers and email adresses but now I come to think of it. If it didn't work out 5 years ago, why would it now?
I was at the shopping mall in the afternoon and I ran into an old high school girlfriend of mine. We dated a little longer than a half year back in the days. At the time, I already found her smoking hot and vice versa. But now, almost 5 years later..holy hell, it could walk out of FHM magazine, big upgrade from an already gorgeous girl. We sat down at a terrace and talked about what we've been up to. At some piont, I said she is even more beautiful than she was 5 years back and she also still finds me attractive .
So we exchanged telephone numbers and email adresses but now I come to think of it. If it didn't work out 5 years ago, why would it now?
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you've had time to find out who each of you are . . .
After we broke up, I haven't spoken to her or contacted her, 'twas the first time in 5 years!
yeah but, how old were you then? you've probably changed/matured. might as well go for it
i'm sorry - i meant you both have had time to figure yourselves out, that is why it could work now.Engineer_Fox wrote:
After we broke up, I haven't spoken to her or contacted her, 'twas the first time in 5 years!
@Gooners
At the time I was 16 and she was 1 year younger than me, normally a 'relation' doesn't last longer than 3 maybe 4 weeks. I think back then we were in the 'ment to be together' stage.
@burnzz
It might, back then I didn't had much of a goal in life, not having a moped license, didn't go to parties, like the most of the kids because I didn't find it neccesary, so she lost interrest in me but now, I'm busy getting my own place, I got my drivers license and my big rig license, steady job, a company car. I might give her a call Friday night, she if she wants to go clubbing downtown.
At the time I was 16 and she was 1 year younger than me, normally a 'relation' doesn't last longer than 3 maybe 4 weeks. I think back then we were in the 'ment to be together' stage.
@burnzz
It might, back then I didn't had much of a goal in life, not having a moped license, didn't go to parties, like the most of the kids because I didn't find it neccesary, so she lost interrest in me but now, I'm busy getting my own place, I got my drivers license and my big rig license, steady job, a company car. I might give her a call Friday night, she if she wants to go clubbing downtown.
so you've sorted yourself out, and got your priorities straight and whatnot. i don't see the harm in it.. if you've changed as a person, she must have as well. whatever you do, good luck
Thank, I will give her a call on Friday, see what will come of itGooners wrote:
so you've sorted yourself out, and got your priorities straight and whatnot. i don't see the harm in it.. if you've changed as a person, she must have as well. whatever you do, good luck
think of it this way - she will already feel comfortable being around you, a big plus on a date.
and yes, five years doesn't seem long to me (i've been married 3.5 times that already) but from where you were then, you have already become a different person. good luck, have fun!
and yes, five years doesn't seem long to me (i've been married 3.5 times that already) but from where you were then, you have already become a different person. good luck, have fun!
She was indeed behaving like we see each other every day. We weren't being shy or uncormfortable to each other, I haven't really asked what she had accomplished in the last 5 years but then again, I don't think she has been hanging out the town whore, she might be stunning but she aint an idiot I have good hopes.
That's not even the question, the question is: "would you care if she had?". You connect to her naturally, find her incredibly attractive and vice versa, what business is it to you what she has done in the past? By the way chances are that if she has, she's gotten fed up with it and would welcome the safety of an "old friend" with whom she shared/shares a more emotional connection.Engineer_Fox wrote:
I don't think she has been hanging out the town whore, she might be stunning but she aint an idiot
I think in general that if you still connect like that after five years, having grown up and seen more of the world in between, you've got a good shot; better probably than with any random new girl.
So that girl I was pressed over for like two years was in a classroom that I had to fix YouTube on while running my errands for the tech guy at my school a week ago. I hadn't talked to her extensively since like before 2010 because I didn't really know what I was doing so I just stopped bothering.
Basically I walked into the room and then I saw her in there, and I thought whatever, I'll just do my job and gtfo, not like she matters anyway.
And then while I was sitting there trying to get it to work, she asking like if I had to disable something to get it to work as a quick opener and then she started asking me about how to get MS Office for free and stuff and then, I don't know if I heard her right or what, but I think she asked if I could come over and show her how and then she asked me for my number because she got her phone taken and can only text through Yahoo.
Just wondering if that means anything or what. She could just as easily bring her laptop in and then I could show her and be done with it but if she wants me to come over, that's obviously more personal. Plus, with her phone gone, she's the only person that can make the moves, I couldn't contact her even if I wanted to. Although I've overanalyzed it, I'm not pressed like I was before, it's just how I deal with any of this stuff, logic is all I've got. Needless to say, I've learned to not to invest all or even any of my eggs in that basket until she's proven some kind of interest, even if there aren't any other opportunities and haven't been for a while.
Basically I walked into the room and then I saw her in there, and I thought whatever, I'll just do my job and gtfo, not like she matters anyway.
And then while I was sitting there trying to get it to work, she asking like if I had to disable something to get it to work as a quick opener and then she started asking me about how to get MS Office for free and stuff and then, I don't know if I heard her right or what, but I think she asked if I could come over and show her how and then she asked me for my number because she got her phone taken and can only text through Yahoo.
Just wondering if that means anything or what. She could just as easily bring her laptop in and then I could show her and be done with it but if she wants me to come over, that's obviously more personal. Plus, with her phone gone, she's the only person that can make the moves, I couldn't contact her even if I wanted to. Although I've overanalyzed it, I'm not pressed like I was before, it's just how I deal with any of this stuff, logic is all I've got. Needless to say, I've learned to not to invest all or even any of my eggs in that basket until she's proven some kind of interest, even if there aren't any other opportunities and haven't been for a while.
Go to her place and bring like 100 condoms. Then while you're messing with her computer say, "I also have some virus protection you can install... on my penis" and then dump the condoms everywhere and make mad sweet love and fuck like bunnies and never stop
If she said the words "You should come over" or similar in a casual conversation then yes, that's a major hint yeah.
Ergh stupid fucking exes... My ex tried to fuck me last night... Like she lead me away from the party and started making out with me and taking off my pants. Seriously wtf, I dumped her years ago, we've been friendly enough since then (except when she fucking tried to get me expelled from school by claiming I assaulted her..WTf???), and she is dating one of my best friends (who was at the fucking party). She goes on about how "I was the only one she ever loved, and that the others didn't matter blah blah" and i'm just like "No way, we live 14hrs away from each other, you're dating one of my best mates and I distinctly remember why the fuck I dumped you in the first place"
So I had to drag her off me and we wen't back to the party and I could tell my mate knew something was up. So I took him aside and told him what happened and he was all cool with it and said he was sick of her and wanted her to break up with him.
But now I dunno what she is gonna do. She's pretty unstable so after he breaks up with her I think she will probably try to cut herself or take pills or something (she's done it before).... So is there anything I should do? or should I just say its her fucking problem??
Anyway I just had to get that out... thanks for listening bf2s
TLDR: Bro's before Hoes... Exes are shit... don't date psycho chicks
So I had to drag her off me and we wen't back to the party and I could tell my mate knew something was up. So I took him aside and told him what happened and he was all cool with it and said he was sick of her and wanted her to break up with him.
But now I dunno what she is gonna do. She's pretty unstable so after he breaks up with her I think she will probably try to cut herself or take pills or something (she's done it before).... So is there anything I should do? or should I just say its her fucking problem??
Anyway I just had to get that out... thanks for listening bf2s
TLDR: Bro's before Hoes... Exes are shit... don't date psycho chicks
How old are you? In college asking someone to come to your room is pretty much an invite to fuck, but I guess high school is different. She's definitely in to you though, or she wouldn't ask. Quit being a pussy and do something! Hesitation doesn't get you anywhere._j5689_ wrote:
So that girl I was pressed over for like two years was in a classroom that I had to fix YouTube on while running my errands for the tech guy at my school a week ago. I hadn't talked to her extensively since like before 2010 because I didn't really know what I was doing so I just stopped bothering.
Basically I walked into the room and then I saw her in there, and I thought whatever, I'll just do my job and gtfo, not like she matters anyway.
And then while I was sitting there trying to get it to work, she asking like if I had to disable something to get it to work as a quick opener and then she started asking me about how to get MS Office for free and stuff and then, I don't know if I heard her right or what, but I think she asked if I could come over and show her how and then she asked me for my number because she got her phone taken and can only text through Yahoo.
Just wondering if that means anything or what. She could just as easily bring her laptop in and then I could show her and be done with it but if she wants me to come over, that's obviously more personal. Plus, with her phone gone, she's the only person that can make the moves, I couldn't contact her even if I wanted to. Although I've overanalyzed it, I'm not pressed like I was before, it's just how I deal with any of this stuff, logic is all I've got. Needless to say, I've learned to not to invest all or even any of my eggs in that basket until she's proven some kind of interest, even if there aren't any other opportunities and haven't been for a while.
@LBJ; my ex is the same. I stupidly hooked up with her a few weeks ago when she told me that she still wanted me, and since then every time I run into her she's always grabbing at me and trying to get me to go back to hers. On the plus side, I can now tell you that the line 'Want to make my ex jealous?' does indeed work.
As for the cutting stuff, it's her problem, you have nothing to do with her.