So I know theres a few fellas out there that can relate to this.. so heres a quick episode I had recently.. I would love to hear any other stories you guys have...

So I think I'm addicted to gaming..at least BF2 and very recently BF 2142.. and only a true addict wont admit to it... so actually I'm not addicted..

Anyway, I live with my fiance, and every once in a while she bitches about me playing, how Im ignoring her.. etc... blah blah...

Yesterday i guess she had enough....  I was helping my buddy configure his new pc over xfire, and she needed to use the pc.. so i let her...  about 20 mins or so later I went back up there and tried to launch bf2 to play with my bud, and I'm greeted with "Trying to locate BF2.exe"...  WTF?????  So I check out the folder.. yup.. missing folders, no .exe. file...  hmmmm.... i check out the 'add/remove programs' and sure enough, no BF2...  and I didnt see 2142 either.. and I tried to launch that.. same problem..

SHE UN-INSTALLED BF2 AND 2142!!!!!!!   

I just laughed it off while I re-connected with Xfire and my buddy...  so I continued helping him, and began re-installing BF2...  I'm just about done with disc 2 when she comes back to my office and SHUTS OF THE CPU...MID INSTALL!!! and faces me with this question:

"Me or the game.. I need to know"    HAHAHAH  LMFAO.... are u serious??   

anyway.. if anyone cares things are ok now, meaning I did get to re-install BF2 and Special Forces, and 2142.... took a while.. but they're all patched up....

So are there any stories out there????   I love hearing this shit...

ps... shes cool now.. I took her out for chinese and tickled her parts..
wah1188
You orrible caaaaaaan't
+321|6887|UK
I think you guys do need to agree about the gaming sit down and have a proper talk. Your living with her YOU DON'T WANT TO PISS HER OFF. Just try to agree on a time that you and her both find acceptable. Lol my ex used to call me when I was playing 1.6 I picked up and said a mix of "Yea, I agree, she totally is a bitch". She got fed up and hung up lol!
jsnipy
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+3,277|6950|...

Tell her next time she gets out of line say: "You are nothing a good dishwasher and some baby lotion can't replace"

Last edited by jsnipy (2006-11-13 10:15:33)

Wasder
Resident Emo Hater
+139|7102|Moscow, Russia
Forget about the fucking game dude, your future marriage is 100x more important. If you love her, you will throw BF2 out of your mind easily.
Yaocelotl
:D
+221|7077|Keyboard
You had to give a little SEXY TIME right?
MrHibs
Member
+15|7070|Scotland
My fiance hates my game playing too but the furthest she goes is to call it Battleships to try and annoy me.  We don't live together though so if she's round I don't tend to be on the PC - apart from when I've got her in the kitchen cooking dinner or doing my dishes then I try to get in a quick game!  Man, I've got a sweet set up!
Magpie
international welder....Douchebag Dude, <3 ur mom
+257|6954|Milkystania, yurop
Got to say that wasder is right...She is more important than a game...play when she´s asleep;)
naightknifar
Served and Out
+642|6989|Southampton, UK

Bf2 > Woman lolz.
commissargizz
Member
+123|6891| Heaven
Women will always moan it's in their nature you'll have to live it 'cos they can't help it.
liquix
Member
+51|6881|Peoples Republic of Portland
I have one story about gaming, not bad at all just as close as I can remember.

I was a Senior in HS, and I was sick so I stayed home from school.
I got up at like 10 and started DAOC, only to find out about 20 minutes later my gf suprise visited me.
She walked very quietly thinking I was asleep, only to find me playing computer. She was not that mad but gave me the "what the hell your supposed to be sick." talk.

All ihave to say is sorry man, try to find a compromise because if you think this issue is dead...its not. Maybe make a deal with her on when to play, somethn like that. Good luck
alpinestar
Member
+304|7023|New York City baby.
Picture please
Kung Jew
That one mod
+331|7173|Houston, TX
If this is your house/apt/bungalow/shack, tell her to move out.  If it hers, grab your gear and move out.  A woman with jealousy problems that can't surmount a video game won't likely find a content setting... ever.

If you are a true addict, then you really should find a woman who understands the passion that is video games.

Has she made you feel that you can't hang out with your friends yet?  Get ready.....
Don't let love take away the ability to be a realist about needs and desires.

KJ
heggs
Spamalamadingdong
+581|6816|New York
i get that shit too from my girlfriend. makes me mental sometimes. there's got to be some sort of a compromise you can come to.

and i'm sure you all know this, but women are out of their minds to begin with.
Remember Me As A Time Of Day
Pice_of_paper
oBy| Back In Business
+28|6889

jsnipy wrote:

Tell her next time she gets out of line say: "You are nothing a good dishwasher and some baby lotion can't replace"
lol   anti-feminist!
Sgt. Sergio Bennet 3rd
Member
+169|7174|Mexico City
give her money, gifts and sex frecuently and she will not bother u.
Chorcai
Member
+49|7075|Ireland

Wasder wrote:

Forget about the fucking game dude, your future marriage is 100x more important. If you love her, you will throw BF2 out of your mind easily.
You could say the same for her, like she watchs the soaps everynight from 7-9:30pm, I once explained to someone in these terms. You go home turn on the TV from 6pm you watch maybe the news, some soaps (UK based like Eastenders/Corrie etc) then theres the 9pm shows (CSI etc) and maybe a few other bit thats nearly 1130pm. That could be 5 nights a week, I go home go online talk to my mates from UK/USA/IRL yea I play on and off untill 11pm maybe 3 differant games. Same thing just differant form of self-entertainment.

So in short what I would say is tell her that you like gaming as much as she likes shopping (whatever it is she likes).

Is there a form of shame for us people who play online for whatever amount of time we do ? Or is it that online gaming has got a bad rep from people who do have problems i.e 16hrs a day 7 days a week pissing in to 2ltr coke bottles so they wouldnt have to leave the desk ??

IMO its my down time, some folk watch TV, some go to the pub every night I chose to play a game with 63 other people at any given time.
jsnipy
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+3,277|6950|...

Now for my serious reply ...
My wife does not like my gaming habit ... honestly I play a little too much (releative to responsibilities). But I don't want to be hardon who does nothign but yardwork and around the house projects.
siciliano732
Member
+202|7076|New York
see...i got kinda lucky....like my girlfriend goes on my stats here on bf2s to see what new medals i got and stuff.....i created a new account just for her to tool around with if she gets the urge one day....and eventually in a couple years...i will give her this pc with bf2 on it and build myself a new one.....not sayin she will become a bf2 fan to the point where she will play it from time to time like i do....but...i guess i got lucky she doenst HATE it....i mean if i was playin it all the time and not payin attention to her....she would have a problem with it but.....we were just talkin about it yesturday....she is goin to be opening up her own psychology practice, and i hope to start my own advertising firm/agency eventually and we were sayin how we want to have video games in our offices....me for entertainment....her so she can play with the kids and get them to open up to her more.....you know.

long story short....the lady is always more important than a video game but if you guys can find a happy medium...thats awesome.
heggs
Spamalamadingdong
+581|6816|New York

Chorcai wrote:

Wasder wrote:

Forget about the fucking game dude, your future marriage is 100x more important. If you love her, you will throw BF2 out of your mind easily.
You could say the same for her, like she watchs the soaps everynight from 7-9:30pm, I once explained to someone in these terms. You go home turn on the TV from 6pm you watch maybe the news, some soaps (UK based like Eastenders/Corrie etc) then theres the 9pm shows (CSI etc) and maybe a few other bit thats nearly 1130pm. That could be 5 nights a week, I go home go online talk to my mates from UK/USA/IRL yea I play on and off untill 11pm maybe 3 differant games. Same thing just differant form of self-entertainment.

So in short what I would say is tell her that you like gaming as much as she likes shopping (whatever it is she likes).

Is there a form of shame for us people who play online for whatever amount of time we do ? Or is it that online gaming has got a bad rep from people who do have problems i.e 16hrs a day 7 days a week pissing in to 2ltr coke bottles so they wouldnt have to leave the desk ??

IMO its my down time, some folk watch TV, some go to the pub every night I chose to play a game with 63 other people at any given time.
now there's some ammo that is pretty significant. this guy has the right argument.

i'm the same way, i could give a rats ass about tv, i need to be active playing a game, not watching the usual shit on tv.


also, keep in mind that, to a degree, it's a part of who you are, and she should come to terms with it. girls tend to focus on one bad thing versus all the good things.
Remember Me As A Time Of Day
I know I need to find a compromise.. which I will....   IMO BF2 is getting a tad bit old, probably because after playing 2142 theres a whole new world to explore..

Its funny because we were talking about it, and I asked her if she would feel better if I spent my time designing and animating during my free time instead of gaming, and she said thats cool (activites that are related to my career) so I guess that will work I guess.  Maybe Saturdays will be my game day, at least until 5 when she gets out of work...

and theres always running BF2 in a window that I could quickly minimize....

thanks for the tips.... I love this site.. not only is it a great source of info on BF2.. but its also a support site....   that sounded gay.. Im sorry..   

if I could +1 you all I would.. but I dont have much Karma left!!!
=DHG=Col.Kilroy
Member
+1|6997
ok yes i agree gaming is an addiction and a very good one if i might add.. now my story here is i had a woman of 13 yrs she gamed with me had every game i had up til SF but had bf2, she hopped on teamspeak with us and everything it was great, then she like snapped quit gaming with me but yet started playing toontown,pogo and doin chat rooms etc. which was cool she did her thing and i did mine, We have 4 kids and we had game systems for them and even computers, I currently have 4 computers in my house. I never really played each night til after my kids were in bed, always asked if there was something she wanted to watch on DVR, if she said no then i gamed or even just bs'd with the fellas. I treated ts like my other phoneline but she did not see it that way and bitched of course. So i started giving out my number to the guys i gamed with, for tech help if need be and shit. Well that didn't help either, hell i did all household chores including bathing all the kids for years so gaming was my escape. Well she never seen it that way, i damn near kissed her ass, still wasn't good enough so she finally gave up and moved out!!! now i have all the free time i want to game with, get my kids alot and have no bitching from her, almost like heaven on earth!!!

Now do i regret losing her, i would have to say yes, would i change my gaming habits if it would get her back, maybe, but a comprimise would have to be made. Is she willing to give it a shot, NOPE!!  O'well plenty of fish in the sea and on the battlefield!!

Moral to the story i am not sure as a gamer you can please your woman unless she games too right along with you just as much as you do. So if thats the case and you do love her, toss the game, gamers will always live on but a good woman is hard to find!!

So try and get her, her own rig, encourage her to play and divide your time somehow.  Sorry to type all that sob story but you asked ..lol.. and GOOD LUCK!!   =DHG= For life!!
chittydog
less busy
+586|7262|Kubra, Damn it!

Tell your fiance that you'll still have plenty of time to spend with him and that he shouldn't worry about it.

Btw, a "fiance" is a MAN that you are going to marry. A woman you're going to marry is a "fiancee."
Penetrator
Certified Twat
+296|6935|Bournemouth, South England
Dump her, play games. Watch porn. Happy.
JE3146
Member
+109|6998|Oregon
My girl gets pissed at my playing habbits, only because her comp can't run BF2 and she wants to play the game with me lol.

Fixing that in a month or so. For now we have to trade off, but I seem to get about 10x as much playtime and she hates that.
Earl_SwaggerJr.
Member
+2|6816|Louisiana
This post is resounding music to my ears. My wife tells her friends that she is a video game widow. I think what it really comes down to for us is the fact that we both have very different expectations about what amount of time is enough. I know that after I have finished going around town all day and/ or doing various chores around the house and in the yard I want to relax and shoot people (In game). However, the wife seems to think that as soon as all the running around and chores are done I am supposed to sit down and watch some Entertainment television with her and learn all about the stupidity that is Hollywood.

Needless to say we have pretty heated arguments over time 'well' spent.

If BF2 wasn't enough for her to be in competition about she also has to content with WoW, 2142, and DoW. When i say competition I mean that in woman terms. She is not in competition with those things at all. And i am not going to be crass and say that she lost that fight along time ago, but, at the same time, I have been playing alot longer than I have been dating, much less knowing her. However, that is not a good argument.

Basically, there is a compromise of time:woman ratio that is impossible to figure out and when you think you have it, she will tell you otherwise. Most times I think my wife just likes to complain for the sake of complaining and no amount of time you spend with her or things you do for her will remedy that. Good luck bud, and know that you are not alone!

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