uziq
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jesus f u c k i ng christ.

help me understand this ... after having multiple conversations about the need to 'ignore the cat' when it gets up at anti-social hours.

she slips out of bed this morning at like 5:30am (the cat is pawing at its door as it usually does).

i get up to find her on the balcony, outside, playing with the cat.

i'm like 'what is going on here? i thought we understood, as all the advice unanimously agreed, that the cat needs to be ignored until its the *right* hours for us. all you're doing is reinforcing its wrong behaviour'.

"i was snoring all night and kept waking you up, so i thought i'd get up early".

'yes but the advice literally says to do your own thing and ignore the cat until it's the *right time* that we want to establish.'

silence.

i am literally just wasting my time here. bashing my head against the wall. she must have toxoplasmosis.

Last edited by uziq (2025-08-28 14:17:28)

unnamednewbie13
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admittedly, i've played with cats on passing while getting up at balls 30 or some other ungodly hour. it's not a regular thing, and something i've never conditioned them to expect.

new cats have pawed at my door. i mostly ignore it. when it doesn't produce reliable results, they don't bother. i've been told before that they stand in the hallway staring at it like the grady sisters.

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if she's up at 5am playing with the cat, at least it's not waking you up with cat noise?

i do give attention to some meows. after awhile of being in the company of cats, you learn to distinguish between the tonalities of "i'm bored" and "i have a rat in my mouth and don't know what to do with it and if someone doesn't come out to see, i will disembowel it on the carpet." i'm up, i'm up already!
uziq
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the problem is the cat is miaowing constantly at the crack of dawn, 3:30-5:30am, almost every night and that noise is unignorable. we can hear it in the bedroom. it also means i can never have any guests to stay because they will sure as hell hear it in the area they're expected to sleep and exist in, too. the cat is determining the entire household's schedule with this 'dawn playtime' thing.

the occasional 5am-7am early start, i'm fine with. we're two working adults, some days start that time naturally.

but going straight to the cat as soon as it begins its morning theatrics is the fucking opposite of training the thing in any meaningful way.

all the sleepless nights and this is basically what i'm contending with. 'i'll get an expert in'. she's sat there indulging the cat!
unnamednewbie13
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unrelated to the cat stuff, i have had more devices ask me to "update" or "finalize setting up" my account this week than in all of 2025 combined. why do you need an update? i've already set up my account. i'm not giving you more information. stop asking me every time i boot my pc or start up my phone or whatever. it makes one yearn for the 80s when being attached at the hip to some annoying electronic device was the problem of stockbrokers, doctors, and high-powered execs.

now, not even a lowly accountant can get away without being called on the weekend with some emergency problem ironically exacerbated by chronically dated business operations not taking advantage of tech that we do have that is supposed to ease these burdens. "guys, i'm on the other side of the state." "can't you just drive back and check?" "boss, you literally live two blocks away from the office."

there's a blurry line where the business world collectively crossed over from "'ah, they're not picking up.' 'that's fine, we'll take care of it on monday'" to "log in and do this now, it needs to go out tonight by at least 7:20 pm," fun saturday.

but going straight to the cat as soon as it begins its morning theatrics is the fucking opposite of training the thing in any meaningful way.
agreeeed

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unnamednewbie13
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cont'd: i leave my workspace for five seconds and the phone rings.

https://c.tenor.com/nR6qtqHkxRgAAAAC/tenor.gif

now i get to go driving in the traffic at 3pm while enduring criticism for not immediately picking up or returning calls while i'm on the highway. yeah sorry i'm not going to stare at my phone 3 out of 5 seconds on the road like you. terrifying stuff.
SuperJail Warden
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Have you considered drugging the cat? Don't kill it. But instead give it a CBD gummie.
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Start off with small doses so you don't overly drug the cat and panic the girlfriend. Eventually build up until you are knocking the cat out with CBD before bed.
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RTHKI
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I learned my audio fucking up is Windows fault. So thanks Microsoft
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uziq
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we literally have got CBD oil for it. we add it to the last feed of the day before locking it away.

her own suggestion, not mine, i don't fuck with any of that stuff and didn't even know CBD pet treats were a thing.

the problem is their relationship. the spoiling and indulging. the total lack of common sense and consideration. 'oh let's play with my cat at 5am'. i cannot train her cat. i barely exist to the animal; it recognises me only when i'm giving it treats or a pat on the head. she has to take this 'make the cat compatible with other human occupants' thing seriously. and instead she's in la-la land. she is totally counter-productively teaching her cat to associate the morning mewling and scratching at doors with 'mommy will come and give me playtime!'

Last edited by uziq (2025-08-28 19:00:11)

SuperJail Warden
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